On Threesomes

[Captain Redbeard]

The threesome is the elusive fantasy that I have yet to make a reality at this point. When the topic has come up in the past, my gfs/fwbs have cited either a lack of interest in being with other women or jealousy. Just recently, I was talking fantasies with a new partner. When I brought up a 3some she said she didn't think she could share.

I haven't pushed super hard for it and no seemingly natural opportunities have presented themselves.

For those of you who have successfully arranged a 3some, what worked/what didn't work? How did you approach the conversation with your girl and then go about finding girl 2? Or did you pick up both at once?

Any tips would be greatly appreciated. I would really like to check this one off the list. TIA

 

[Scars]

Don't do 3somes with your GF. It's only a matter of time before she wants to bring in another dude, or open up the relationship. I've seen it time and time again.

Threesomes are a lot easier to negotiate when you've already slept with one of the girls previously, or even better, both of them. Also helps if the girls already pretty close friends.

Personally, I think they are degenerate.

But if you're gonna do it, absolutely do NOT do it with a girlfriend.

 

[The Duke]

The first one I had was with my ex-wife and a female friend. My ex wasnt the jealous type and appreciated female sexuality so one night on the back patio we were sitting there having drinks. While I got up to mix some more drinks, I used my dihk to stir them and said something funny. The girls were laughing so I asked them which one wanted to lick it off. They both volunteered at the same time. It was on after that.

The second one happened with my buddy and his girlfriend. We were out partying, decided to get a hotel. His girlfriend was all about the hotel so I had a sense something would happen. When we walked into the room there was only one bed(no surprise there). I'm laying on the bed, they are in the bathroom area having sex. Next thing she is sucking me off. I thought a MFM deal would be kind of weird/gay, but it wasnt at all. We both stayed at opposite ends.

One of my long term girlfriends was also into girls. She asked me if I wanted to have a threesome with a girl she used to meet up with. I told her only if I got to fuhk her friend as well. She didn't want me doing that so we never did it.

My thoughts: it's overrated. It's novelty stuff. It definitely will never rank as some of the best sex I've ever had. I've had more memorable moments banging some new girl in some strange place than those 3somes. I don't think it's a good idea to do with a girl you really care about, too much at stake.

There are several girls on dating apps that are down for it and say so in their profiles . Hooking up with one of them would probably be your best shot as a single guy.

Also if you hang out with mid 20's strippers most are all about it.

Social circles that party a lot with lots of alcohol, drugs, usuually have a lot.of this activity. I had some friends that had a pool/hot tub and this stuff happened.

 

[The Duke]

You might do a search on this topic for some more ideas. I remember posting in one a few years back.

 

[SW15]

if you're gonna do it, absolutely do NOT do it with a girlfriend.

I don't think it's a good idea to do with a girl you really care about, too much at stake.

I agree with both of these ideas. It's best to do with a woman from a casual sex situationship and some other female. The "some other female" can be arranged a few different ways. I recommend finding the second female for the threesome through some real life method as compared to some tech-based method.

 

[sangheilios]

I agree with both of these ideas. It's best to do with a woman from a casual sex situationship and some other female. The "some other female" can be arranged a few different ways. I recommend finding the second female for the threesome through some real life method as compared to some tech-based method.

I wonder how many women would be comfortable doing something like this with another woman. I think the MFM thing plays into the female rape fantasy stuff that some women are into but I wonder how the MFF thing goes for them psychosexually lol. I'd wonder if the women have some tendencies towards bisexuality, which may be more common in women than in men. A lot of guys I think would be a little uncomfortable with the MFM threesome but I'm not sure. I've had some offers to do this and it felt a bit awkward to me so I didn't follow through. I'd probably have to be drunk or high to get into something like that lol.

 

[SW15]

I wonder how many women would be comfortable doing something like this with another woman.....I wonder how the MFF thing goes for them psychosexually lol. I'd wonder if the women have some tendencies towards bisexuality, which may be more common in women than in men.

If the woman is attracted to other women alongside her attraction to men, then she is more motivated to explore something like this.

Plenty of men bring up the subject of a threesome with a girlfriend, wife, or even casual sex situationship female. Many times it doesn't happen because the woman isn't attracted to other women and doesn't want to do sexual stuff with another woman.

A lot of guys I think would be a little uncomfortable with the MFM threesome but I'm not sure. I've had some offers to do this and it felt a bit awkward to me so I didn't follow through.

It would be common for a man who is 6'0"+ with big muscles to get offers to do threesomes with a couple. If the girlfriend/wife is with a man who is of a more average build, she would likely be very excited at the concept of having sex with a man with a much better physique than her husband.

She doesn't need her boyfriend/husband to do this. She could easily have an affair with the more fit guy.

I can see why you would not be into something like that. A lot of men would be uncomfortable with another guy in the room.

A lot of regular bars in suburban neighborhoods with married couples can be hunting grounds for those married couples seeking a 3rd.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

I’ve had long term girlfriends suggest it a few times now, I’ve always turned it down. Too many variables. It usually revolves around them want to see me destroy a much younger girl.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

For those of you who have successfully arranged a 3some, what worked/what didn't work? How did you approach the conversation with your girl and then go about finding girl 2? Or did you pick up both at once?

It's my reason for having a big bed.
Party at my house, sleepovers turning into cuddling, turning into sex.
Just enjoying ourselves.
No intentions, just going with the flow.
No recriminations after.

 

[Hal9000]

I've had threesomes both ways and honestly the mfm ones are usually more fun because the girl gets all of the attention which makes her super into everything. Also it's almost always easier to deal with another dude than two women who will always be having jealousy issues, which takes a lot away from being able to just relax and go at it.

Totally agree with the sentiment that you shouldn't do it with anyone you would really mind never seeing again as there's always a decent chance of a big blowup with two women involved.

As far as meeting women who are into ffms, your best bets would be to either get involved with the swinger crowd or find a bi chick. Swinger are into almost everything and bi chick's are already into women so that's one big hurdle you'll be able to get over right away. 99% of straight nonswinger females will never go for a threesome of any kind, especially a ffm one.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

As far as meeting women who are into ffms, your best bets would be to either get involved with the swinger crowd or find a bi chick. Swinger are into almost everything and bi chick's are already into women so that's one big hurdle you'll be able to get over right away. 99% of straight nonswinger females will never go for a threesome of any kind, especially a ffm one.

B.D.S.M. / kink scene is also good for meeting women who are into threesomes.

 

[Hal9000]

B.D.S.M. / kink scene is also good for meeting women who are into threesomes.

This another good option for sure, but you've got to be into that scene as well and a surprising number of guys are not.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

This another good option for sure, but you've got to be into that scene as well and a surprising number of guys are not.

There are lots of ways to be in the kink scene. You don't have to be hardcore TPE, as long as you're willing to be more experimental in the bedroom. Manhandling/rough sex, learn some bondage, buy some cuffs and a simple riding crop. You don't even need to go to the shops: the clothespins you use for laundry can just as well be used as nipple clamps.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Only do 3 somes with a woman you don't care about. Because things will usually not work out well long term with a woman who is your GF.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

I’ve been offered 3-somes (FMF) 4 times. Never took up the offer. I’m very vanilla.

 

[Captain Redbeard]

Appreciate all the responses here, gentlemen.

I understand and generally agree with the sentiment that 3somes should be avoided in serious LTR. And I know it may be a novelty and will likely not live up to the fantasy in my head. I still want to have the experience nonetheless. Also agree that a bi/sexually adventurous woman is key and there were some good suggestions on where those women are more likely to be found. Will keep all of this in mind and hope to complete the mission sometime in the new year.

 

[Bingo-Player]

Threesomes are an act that cannot be planned

They usually randomly happen on the most random of nights females will be drunk and horny and sometimes it just happens

I'll never forget about 2 years ago me and a mate went back with three chicks one night one of them passed out and the other two just stripped naked

We were taking turns fvcking them , great fun then another one went to sleep

and there was this one greedy chick left so we were both fvcking her for a bit

Anytime you try to organise something like that it just gets weird

 

[The Duke]

Every man should do 2 chicks at the same time at least once in their life

The first time I had two chics sucking my dihk at the same time made me feel like I was King of the world......for a minute until I exploded!

 

[The Duke]

I’ve been offered 3-somes (FMF) 4 times. Never took up the offer. I’m very vanilla.

What led up to the proposals? Out drinking?

 

[Hamurabimbi]

What led up to the proposals? Out drinking?

1).The girl who took my V-card. After we did it we started dating. After a couple of weeks she brought up doing a 3-some with me & another girl. no drinking involved.
2) I was dating a coworker. Another (female) coworker asked me if I thought my girl would be interested in a 3-some. No drinking.
3) My GF thought my ex- was pretty and suggested a 3-some. Drinking involved.
4). I told my ex- who thought it would be hot. Drinking involved.