Blue Phoenix
Master Don Juan
Guys I´m a guy that likes to help people. However, this seems to be scaring some girls. It´s funny because I do this to all people, not to "appease" women. Any suggestion?
Men, not being too nice is a mandatory, all inclusive
mandate you must follow to have The Right Attitude.
Of course she wants you to treat her nicely, fairly
and with respect. However, what you consider nice,
fair and respectful is rarely what she hopes for.
Why? Because every woman is an individual human
being with her own story to tell, her own personal
goals, values and morals, just like you.
She has a unique history of bad and good times at
the hand of males, beginning with Daddy, followed
by boyfriends, fiancees, and ex-husbands. Many
have also had an ego-crushing, heart-breaking
experience with a master manipulator like the
professional game player, Randy RedPorsche.
I love being nice. It is my nature to be nice to anyone
I like but even more so to women I enjoy. By
nice I mean considerate, polite, open, vulnerable,
giving, attentive, appreciative, warm, accepting,
gentle, demonstrative and expressive with my affection,
and such.
During the early aftermath of my divorce I found
women to be unappreciative, even offended by my
inclination to be nice. I was shocked and disappointed.
I soon learned that nearly all women find this
behavior unacceptable in any male. There have been
a couple of wonderful exceptions but even those
women resisted being treated well at first.
Meeting someone nice disorients her. I don't know
if she thinks it's too good to be true. I do know many
women saw me as a wimp and lost respect, as well
as interest, quickly. How do I know? Because I got
tired of striking out and asked in simple English,
"What did I do wrong?" Good old feedback.
Here are some possibilities. She's been treated
poorly for so long by Daddy, her boyfriends and her
ex-husband that it seems normal, manly. Or, she's
been catered to for so long she's tired of it. Daddy
spoiled her. Jimmy adored her. Her ex chases her.
She wants you to "act like a man." Then again, she
may be like many people who perceive nice as weak.