Why is it that every time I meet a girl, it's on her terms? It's like I have to do what she wants. How in the world do I turn this around to work in my favor? I've dated a lot of women, but it always seems to be on her terms. That is unless I really don't like her. Is that what I have to do? Act like I don't really like her?
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It can't be on her terms unless your giving her the power to accept or deny you. Don't be the one asking for things, just go elsewhere, or be more patient, don't give her that power over you in the first place.
Fundamental is respect from the female, it's neccessary.
Fundamental is respect from the female, it's neccessary.
Well you don't, your free, in reality she can go to hell. In reality she will respect you more and find you more attractive if you have this attitude.
Recently I've dated a girl that wanted everything on her terms, so I would do a few things, but not many of them. I asked her to do things with me, and she wouldn't do any of them. Now she's LJBF me because I don't like her friends or some sh!t like that. I told her that it has nothing to do with her friends, but that I would like for her to do what I want every now and then, and I don't want to date her and her friends. That's the last we've talked, but that's ok because I don't want a woman that doesn't open up to what I want.
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just sounds like your incompatible, sounds like a good thing to move on, find a girl who is interested in your passions and more open minded, it will be better
You need to be more assertive of your authority in situations like that.
Take the lead and make decisions for the both of you. For example if you are walking in the city together, make sure you are leading her, "This way" and walk the way you want instead of following her like a lost puppy.
Or another example if you are in the cinema together you should choose the seats you sit.
Be dominant in the small things, take no ****, if you dont want to do it.. dont do it (within reason).
Take the lead and make decisions for the both of you. For example if you are walking in the city together, make sure you are leading her, "This way" and walk the way you want instead of following her like a lost puppy.
Or another example if you are in the cinema together you should choose the seats you sit.
Be dominant in the small things, take no ****, if you dont want to do it.. dont do it (within reason).
WC2
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If you don't want a woman who doesn't open up to what you want then why did you give her so many chances in the first place?T|CK said:
Women test us all the time to see what they can get out of us. They test our FRAME and how sturdy we are. They want to see our faltering point.
A man with a low faltering point can never control the frame. He can't make decisions on his own and follows the lead of the female. Oh you want me to come out with your friends? Sure!
On the other hand, a man who controls his frame and does what he likes says, "Look babe, as much as I'd love spending the day with you and your chatty friends, I have other things to do that are a better use of my time."
Many guys can't imagine standing up to a woman like this, but these are the same guys who fail with women every time because they are too afraid to put their hand down and go off on their own; and the woman senses this.
In my eyes when you refuse to do something ridiculous a woman wants you to do with her, there are 2 possible results.
1. You find something entirely better to do
2. She sees that you have self worth and starts to follow you.
Notice how I don't mention that she will get pissed off and stop talking to you. Because at that point, I don't care if she stops talking to me. If she stops talking to me, she never really had interest enough in the first place. Next the h0e.
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WC2 talks the truth, good post
That's all there is to it. You're being way to passive and have put her on a pedestal because you're probably thinking that you're keeping her happy and are scared to challenge her. If u continue to let girls do everything on their terms they will end up chewing you up and spitting you out!pingpongz said:
I've asked her to do many things with me, but she always tells me maybe and at the last minute she says she's going to blah blah blah with her friends, and I should go. I usually tell her no because I had something else planned. She's just not opened to that, but instead thinks I don't like her friends, and I'm not sociable, but that's not it at all. I just want her to do things that I like, and not always what she wants.
She told me that she thinks that we should just be friends, and take it slow. That's perfectly fine, but I'm not going to do everything on her terms. i tried to get her to realize that, but she just doesn't listen. It's all about her, and I just got turned off. I told her that I didn't want to date her friends, but hanging out with them occasionally is fine.
I truly believe that she lost a great opportunity with me because she's being stubborn and wanting it her way. I'm probably better off being without such a stubborn woman.
She told me that she thinks that we should just be friends, and take it slow. That's perfectly fine, but I'm not going to do everything on her terms. i tried to get her to realize that, but she just doesn't listen. It's all about her, and I just got turned off. I told her that I didn't want to date her friends, but hanging out with them occasionally is fine.
I truly believe that she lost a great opportunity with me because she's being stubborn and wanting it her way. I'm probably better off being without such a stubborn woman.
Furyguy
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Thank you sir. This is exactly what I needed to hear right now.WC2 said:
