OMG I am getting the worse feeling ever!! Loneliness... HELP!!!

[Delta]

This board is an online fellowship.

i really like this sentiment and it is the way that i've always approached this place.

i come here and post and read almost as a way of "getting out" and not just stewing in my own frustration and madness.

talking about your problems and engaging in the problems of others is valuable. it's not ideal that you don't have those in your immediate presence that you can turn to but certainly, online forums are not nothing.

that's another reason why i dislike all the tirades against newbies and the RTFM responses.... if it's a tactical question, maybe rtfm is ok... but many times, people come here to talk things out. and they should be encouraged to.

delta

BTW, i love the title of this thread. it is how i feel right now and i feel this way pretty frequently. it is sad and pathetic and urgent and it describes perfectly the experience of far more than those who don't feel this way. apt. truly, you are not alone.

 

[MIKE.T]

Lol, misery sure does love company. I'm in the same rotten boat, fwiw. No job, no friends, no girls, but plenty of time to ponder it all.

 

[penguin]

I'm the same way. I have no friends now because they all became pansies who never go out as soon as they all got girlfriends. All they do on weekends in couple vs couple monopoly or some crap

The thing is, you need to cut loose from them if they are like that. It's not an anger thing, you'll just never meet anyone new because they're all happy not knowing anyone else. It is actually quite limiting.

This is where i'm at, at the moment. Done with the old, looking for the new (sounds bad, but i'm not getting the life sucked out of me like my old friends did)

 

[ScrewIt]

I know how you feel, I am always the "spare wheel" as well, as you get older most people are always paired off or married, you go to a braai [bbq] and even one is a couple except you, it becomes hard to impossible to meet single women in the group cos there aren't any!!

Its fine for people say this and that, but at the end of the day one gets tired of being lonely, no matter how full you life may be its a big part thats missing, and it sucks.

That's true, a guy can bang all the hot girls in the city and still feel lonely.
No matter how busy we keep ourselves or if we find hobbies to do or friends to share it with, it's impossible to match having a partner in crime.

But hey look on the bright side, you're lonely but at least you're not desperate like horny afc's. people are willing to do almost anything when they're desperate.

If you suffer from social anxiety, how about trying online dating or possibly even speed dating where everyone is there looking to hook up.

 

[superchristx]

Join a COED athletic team. The fact that you are in good shape will be more obvious there and work better to your advantage, and the physical activity will keep your sexual desire in check. In the Washington DC area it is very trendy to join a coed kickball league, and then the whole team hits the bars after the game in their uniforms. My brother met his (HOT) wife on a coed basketball team in Boston. Everyone joins these things to meet the opposite sex and hook up, but it's great because you can pretend to really really like kickball.

 

[spider_007]

Right now I feel so very lonely because I realised most of my friends have girlfriends except me. I know, it's a very bad feeling, but I can't help it!!! How can I get ride of that thing?

don't worry, you get use to it.

After a couple of years, you start feeling numb, and you move on with your life doing bigger and better things....

it's like when your doctor gives you a needle. The more you think about it, the more it'll hurt.....Eventually you get really good at ignoring that feeling and shutting it down, and that's when your life starts revolving around other goals; self improvement, money, toys.....

 

[md3sign]

Look on the brightside. You can spend this time improving yourself. This has been the most successful year for me in terms of self improvement. Why? Because I've been single since May. I picked up bodybuilding, I play guitar now, and I quit video games. I also went on more dates this year than ever. Not many at all by DJ standards, but certainly more than I ever have in the past.

I've never been able to improve much of myself when in a relationship, as I found myself devoting too much time to the girl and really not caring about myself because "I already had a girlfriend .. what else do I need?"

This is a PERFECT opportunity to think about where you want to go in life, girls aside, setting some goals, and working towards them. Women will notice. It's a win win. I have a couple girls I have to fight off now - not something I brag about because they're a little below what I'm looking for, but the thought helps

 

[ProDJ26]

haha and i thought it was just me. Count me in to It seems as if I have to much free time these days. But Everyday I feel more and more like sht! When I see people that I used to talk to their like "Who are You?" "Whats Your Name?" - talk about depressed? try meeting new people and actually hanging out with them for a couple of weeks and then hearing them say this to you.

Although This is the perfect opportunity to improve myself this sht is getn old.
I'm skinny, no car, no money, no job so life basically sukks....tha only really good thing i got goin rite now is my ipod, skinny body and the HB8 girl at my skool who barely knows english and we can barely understand each other.

 

[petah2001]

mmos are a nice escape, it probably won't fix anything in the long run though.

i agree on the competitive sports thing, basket ball or football is mad fun.

A very small portion of people in MMOs develop social skills. Most people run around aimlessley, soloing missions and letting their brain rot in the montonomy.