Went to Martini Fest with Deep Dish last week. Met up with Rollo T for a few minutes while he was working at one of the vendor booths.
Anyway, Deep Dish and I met up with some of my female friends, older (low 30's+) who were there as well.
One of them is a good friend, and she was with one of her co-workers who I have met on numerous occasions. I will call her "N".
"N" had always given me this stuck up kind of vibe. I even mentioned it to Dish before we really started talking to them.
So we start talking about the state of dating in our city, and "N" proceeds to launch into a speech about how she is moving back to her hometown because all the guys here are either 22 years old, married, or stalkers. I was like "Ok.....so which category do I fall into?"
My friend says something about how I only date 22 year old women, and "N" then says "THATS the category you're in! I forgot about that one! The category who only dates 22 year olds cause the ones around here are dumb, aggressive, and easy!"
Like I said, I had mentioned to Dish prior to getting onto this convo with these girls was that this is the first time "N" has greeted me and interacted with me in a friendly manner. She is usually the only one in the group who looks like she isn't having a good time. I have TRIED to get her to dance and whatever, but she's always a stick in the mud.
This girl isn't ugly. She has her really good days where she's actually what I would consider HOT, but most of the time she's at least above average.
So then this chick proceeds to go on and on about how men around here suck, and that they have no balls, and that since she's lived here she has only had three dates in the past year, whereas back home she had three dates a week.
I would have loved to have blatantly pointed out the obvious, which is that with her sour demeanor is about 99% of her problem, but I held back and only hinted that maybe she might be the cause of her own problems. She refused to acknowledge that the problem might lie in HER. I really wish Rollo would have been around to join in on this convo. It would have been VERY interesting to hear his responses.
So the convo goes back to how I prefer younger women, and as I was talking to "N" my friend thought I said that sex with younger women was better than with older women. I told her that's not what I said, but she kept pushing it so I told her the truth- that my experience HAS been that the sex is better with women in their early 20's.
Of course that isn't what they wanted to hear, so they started pushing me to explain HOW younger women were better in bed. I resisted at first, but then I just blurted out "You really wanna know? Cause they give better head" (which was only to shut them up.....it goes a lot deeper than that) Again, not what they wanted to hear, but it was funny to see their reaction.
This friend is the best friend of the chick I dated last year who got married and moved away, the one who bet me awhile back that I wouldn't date a woman in her 30's. So I told her tonight that she lost the bet- I've been seeing a chick that's over 30. Immediately when both women hear this, they are giving each other high fives, giving me high fives, and doing a happy dance (not quite THAT over the top, but you get the picture). It was like the highlight of their night.
Dish and I left when the party ended and we went to another bar. We were talking about the convo that I had earlier with the girls. I found it funny that these chicks were basically CELEBRATING the fact that I acknowledged that I was willing to date outside of my usual mid 20's preference. It was like they were claiming a victory for 30 something women everywhere! Dish also made an interesting comment about how it seemed that "N" was "pricing herself out of the market", to which I agreed.
So I started wondering if other people would consider it to be a red flag when an older woman talks sh!t about younger chicks.
Personally, I'm beginning to think it is.
I understand the psychology behind it, but some women are VERY vocal about it. The claws come out when you mention younger women. But others I have noticed don't make the same snide remarks. They don't seem nearly as insecure.
I would say about half of the older women I know are very catty about younger chicks, and the other half doesn't seem to acknowledge them much.
The ones who are so worried about the competition seem to be the ones who are looking to settle down SOON, or have some other issues with men.
What do you think? Red flag or no?
Anyway, Deep Dish and I met up with some of my female friends, older (low 30's+) who were there as well.
One of them is a good friend, and she was with one of her co-workers who I have met on numerous occasions. I will call her "N".
"N" had always given me this stuck up kind of vibe. I even mentioned it to Dish before we really started talking to them.
So we start talking about the state of dating in our city, and "N" proceeds to launch into a speech about how she is moving back to her hometown because all the guys here are either 22 years old, married, or stalkers. I was like "Ok.....so which category do I fall into?"
My friend says something about how I only date 22 year old women, and "N" then says "THATS the category you're in! I forgot about that one! The category who only dates 22 year olds cause the ones around here are dumb, aggressive, and easy!"
Like I said, I had mentioned to Dish prior to getting onto this convo with these girls was that this is the first time "N" has greeted me and interacted with me in a friendly manner. She is usually the only one in the group who looks like she isn't having a good time. I have TRIED to get her to dance and whatever, but she's always a stick in the mud.
This girl isn't ugly. She has her really good days where she's actually what I would consider HOT, but most of the time she's at least above average.
So then this chick proceeds to go on and on about how men around here suck, and that they have no balls, and that since she's lived here she has only had three dates in the past year, whereas back home she had three dates a week.
I would have loved to have blatantly pointed out the obvious, which is that with her sour demeanor is about 99% of her problem, but I held back and only hinted that maybe she might be the cause of her own problems. She refused to acknowledge that the problem might lie in HER. I really wish Rollo would have been around to join in on this convo. It would have been VERY interesting to hear his responses.
So the convo goes back to how I prefer younger women, and as I was talking to "N" my friend thought I said that sex with younger women was better than with older women. I told her that's not what I said, but she kept pushing it so I told her the truth- that my experience HAS been that the sex is better with women in their early 20's.
Of course that isn't what they wanted to hear, so they started pushing me to explain HOW younger women were better in bed. I resisted at first, but then I just blurted out "You really wanna know? Cause they give better head" (which was only to shut them up.....it goes a lot deeper than that) Again, not what they wanted to hear, but it was funny to see their reaction.
This friend is the best friend of the chick I dated last year who got married and moved away, the one who bet me awhile back that I wouldn't date a woman in her 30's. So I told her tonight that she lost the bet- I've been seeing a chick that's over 30. Immediately when both women hear this, they are giving each other high fives, giving me high fives, and doing a happy dance (not quite THAT over the top, but you get the picture). It was like the highlight of their night.
Dish and I left when the party ended and we went to another bar. We were talking about the convo that I had earlier with the girls. I found it funny that these chicks were basically CELEBRATING the fact that I acknowledged that I was willing to date outside of my usual mid 20's preference. It was like they were claiming a victory for 30 something women everywhere! Dish also made an interesting comment about how it seemed that "N" was "pricing herself out of the market", to which I agreed.
So I started wondering if other people would consider it to be a red flag when an older woman talks sh!t about younger chicks.
Personally, I'm beginning to think it is.
I understand the psychology behind it, but some women are VERY vocal about it. The claws come out when you mention younger women. But others I have noticed don't make the same snide remarks. They don't seem nearly as insecure.
I would say about half of the older women I know are very catty about younger chicks, and the other half doesn't seem to acknowledge them much.
The ones who are so worried about the competition seem to be the ones who are looking to settle down SOON, or have some other issues with men.
What do you think? Red flag or no?
