Older woman then me

[Scaramouche]

Hi ManFom Italy,
You are overthinking this....Have that cup of coffee,relax and just let yourself be carried along like a leaf in her stream.

 

[Clockwerk50]

Hi ManFom Italy,
You are overthinking this....Have that cup of coffee,relax and just let yourself be carried along like a leaf in her stream.

The woman will put him on the friend zone as soon as she starts babbling and bitching about her husband and the things they do together. Just my thought.

Edit: I guess her talking about other guys would be a sign she is not interested.

 

[manfromitaly]

The woman will put him on the friend zone as soon as she starts babbling and bitching about her husband and the things they do together. Just my thought.

Edit: I guess her talking about other guys would be a sign she is not interested.

She didn't tell me about other guys, she told me that she doesn't like to go back to her hometown and that she prefers to stay here, I'm the one who deduced that the marriage isn't going well, she didn't tell me that

 

[The Duke]

I'd say she is interested somewhat, but not interested enough. I don't think pursuing her more aggressively, inviting her over to your place will work.

She likes the attention/validation she gets from you. She isn't ready to break it off where her husband.

I'd keep casual contact with her. Be friendly, firt with her. Let her desire grow some more. If she complains to you about her marriage then change the conversation to something else.

I've worked a few women this way over the years and eventually they became more comfortable with the idea, horny enough, timing was right, and sex happened. Don't let them take up much space in your head. Don't invest in them. Let them chase after you.

 

[BeExcellent]

Hi ManFrom Italy,
You are quite right to question and ruminate on anyones advice....Socrates thought we should carefully consider all issues,until our beliefs sit on a firm foundation...Indeed,It is quite possible that many here have a completely wrong take on this issue,and your actions have been quite appropriate....The Ladies Marriage seems to be going through a rocky patch,perhaps the last thing she wants is an affair,perhaps just a sympathetic shoulder to lean on someone to be a sounding board as she runs through the issues that are tormenting her....In you,she sees a shy,sensitive Soul,to pour her heart out to...I do.....As Amsterdam says,just take her for Coffee and let things flow.....Life is like a retort in the Chemists Laboratory,you throw the Chemicals in and,If you are wise enough to see it,you may predict,an almost inevitable outcome....Just where is BeExcellent[ when one needs her?

A very kind endorsement @Scaramouche in fact I was attending the wedding of my only son this past weekend, and it was a lovely event indeed.

I concur with your evaluation of our OP's situation. I think if he wishes to pursue this that asking her to coffee or lunch and listening is wise.

Avoid placing any expectation whatsoever on the interaction however. Expectations carry weight and marriage is heavy enough already.

And do not under any circumstances allow yourself to yearn for "more" with such a woman. She is unlikely to leave her spouse and run away with you but sometimes we humans, we entertain a most romantic fantasy along such lines. Don't go there. It is not a high percentage bet even in the most conducive environment.

Marriage can be very heavy. My guess is she wants a bit of emotional relief from those burdens. Do not get attached, the most likely result for you is pain through unrequited emotion.