There is no workable “serious” relationship or marriage that is a charity. There is a transactional component, and if there weren’t, households would fall apart. That doesn’t mean there isn’t romance and lust.
Reproductive-age female lust after average looking 68y old guy? We aren't talking about George Clooney type of guy here. Ask 30y old woman whether she finds average looking 68y old guy attractive and tell me what you have found out. I bet the answer will be somewhere between "Yuck" to "Ewww".
Apparently this guy’s path works for him.
For now his beliefs are not in check.
Do you think someone who moves out of Manhattan or Los Angeles to a more forgiving area is escaping reality or dealing with reality? Is a “5” marrying a “4” instead of seeking supermodels dealing with reality or escaping it or facing the music and leveraging what he has. Of course another option is to be womanless.
5 marrying a 4 is entirely natural. If you are 5 in looks (btw he is slightly above average looking 68y old male, so he is not 5/10, most likely 3.5/10 in looks tops now, taking age under consideration) and you want to marry supermodel, it is called fantasy or a transaction (if you have enough $$$ or mix of $$$ and fame or social worth) because your game and looks will not carry you on forever. Reality will always chase you. That guy being 3.5/10 went for like 6/10? 6.5/10 and half his age? This means troubles buddy. Maybe not now, maybe not in a year, but eventually it means inevitable breakup or getting cucked (it will end this way or another).
If I would be in this guys shoes I would
- keep contact with my family, children and friends (if any) - so no SEA other than fun trips if this is his preference
- if no family (like already mature children btw. ex-wife does not count) therefore no worrying about the future of children (I'm the type that considers it important) - then try to find ok looking, elegant, around 50, perhaps 50+ female that is not only after his financial assets (single, no children) and enjoy her companionship from time to time or just abstain from looking for any LTR (if that would fail) whatsoever and just pay-for-fun from time to time (but keep those expenses in check) and pursue hobbies instead
He kind of went YOLO and overboard with it/with "do as you please" mentality - alas it seems for him it doesn't really matter at this point - perhaps he decided to do not agree with being past action-time and his options were limited so decided to SEAmaxx how the OP called it - alas I do not envy the eventual burdens and outcome (as already mentioned, that female is with him on a contractual basis only, child will not change much - if he thinks otherwise, he does not understand SEA females mentality)
There is no workable “serious” relationship or marriage that is a charity. There is a transactional component, and if there weren’t, households would fall apart. That doesn’t mean there isn’t romance and lust.
Yeah, but there's a relationship with good foundations where you and your female partner both exchange interest built on somewhat similar attraction levels for each other bodies, minds and souls (which is somewhat even, even if you are slightly more about her looks and she gets slightly more high about your career prospects or your intellect than your body) while he has entered basic-level (therefore transactional) relationship where he exchanges his material assets and abilities connected with them for her interest and access to her body (because he would probably still prefer interesting conversation with attractive western female interested in him other his usual convo with Philipinian wife and she would prefer body of young male other his body in case she could keep his assets for use but exclude him). This is why it is called "transactional" and standard relationship is standard (btw. term "expensive car" does not mean that "car" is for free - hope you see the logical fallacy in stating that "all relationships are transactional" - because we sure know it - except the levels of transactions and the bond based on them is entirely different - that's why we have terms like "golddiggers" used for some type of ppl.
