Older guys, how do you find enjoyment in the game other than the sex alone? (validation issues)

[Good Gao]

I guess it is something that comes with age or just when you leave that sense of community you had in school itself.

A while back, I remember when this cute redhead at my high school was into me and there were so many girls and guys gossiping about us being together. Eventually, we hooked up and the sex was great but I enjoyed something other than the sex itself, I guess you can call it the spectators. It's like we felt like ****ing celebrities because people talked about us being together, it was annoying yet enjoyable at the same time.

I felt the same way in college. At uni, I had a group of friends and we went to parties enough to where we were somewhat popular. I hooked up with a couple of girls, brought some home, ****ed them, and my friends knew about it. I still remember being in an apartment ****ing this girl while my friends watched at night and one even recorded it, it was hilarious but it brought some fun to the game.

Yet, as I get older, I notice it is more one on one, just me and the girl and that's it. I mean I like the sex but looking back at it, I miss what came with the sex and hookups when I was younger.

Even these days as I see some of these tumblr blogs or snapchat leaks of what college kids are doing, it makes me jealous. Like ****, I want pics of me making out with a girl to go on some community blog because a friend of mines took the pic and put it on there. TBH, it's like I actually want the drama and the spectators alongside the sex rather than just the sex alone because if I wanted that, I would go see a hooker.

Any word from older guys?

 

[Mike32ct]

Interesting thread. Plenty of guys are in the game not because of their sex drive per se. A big part of the game is for ego purposes. Some guys want to "show off." Other guys got rejected a lot in the past and have a "score to settle", etc. I was driven by both when I was younger. So I sort of get what you are saying. I did my share of "showing off" in the club including a three-way makeout circa 2006. (I'm a late bloomer that commuted to college, so the dorm stuff doesn't apply to me.)

Fast forward to today, it's quite different. If you date in a mature age social circle, you have to keep your mouth shut and never "kiss and tell." Mature women hate guys who can't keep their mouth shut. Let them gossip, but it can't come from you. Most won't fool around publicly either. It's all behind closed doors. That's fine. It goes with the territory. It's simply a different game. I never wanted anybody to watch me have sex anyway. That would creep me out lol.

 

[daddymonsterpoodle]

I dont game much. I like leading women to the point where they want to **** and then keeping them as friends. I love that unrealised sexual tension.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Any word from older guys?

I got three fat b!tches my age that I fvck and a 21 y/o I live with...and occasionally fvck. Everyone knows about everyone else.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

I've had my share of drama queens. The thing about drama as you get older is it becomes more unpredictable and people are less forgiving. If you can continue fcking 21yr olds, then you'll be fine because they don't really give a sh!t about anything at that age. At about 25, things start to get more serious, I've seen this transition dozens of times. If you know a 21 year old girl and a 30 year old, you can tell the difference.

Take getting attention from other women as and example. At 21, everyone is banging everyone else. Monogamy is a low priority. At 25-35 everyone starts pairing off and the dating pool (for that age range) gets much, much smaller. Competition grows and therefore investment of every type presents more risk.

Some women will not take kindly to seeing you with others, jealousy is a terrible thing in a man or a woman; but to be honest those that are unimpressed or jealous are usually the hardest to please on every level, and aren't really worth your time anyway.

Myself, I remain single and continue to ramp up my value, seeing who I want, when I want. I let people post whatever they want online and it doesn't do any harm. In fact social pre-selection is ultimately powerful. It's quite funny watching these girls pandering over you on FB and the like. The higher quality women won't do it a lot, but every so often, they will make their presence known to the others.

'Drama' comes in all shapes and forms, some of which are best left well alone, trust me. Be careful what you wish for. The take home message is, rather than 'drama', look to attract 'abundance' and 'fun' in to your life, which is what I think is meant in the OP.

 

[RangerMIke]

When you get older or have kids... impressing your friends becomes less important. Importance of friends starts in puberty and pretty much ends, for most people, after you get out of college or your mid-20s. This is when you brain fully matures.

You are growing up, just go with it. There is nothing more pathetic that an adult that refuses to grow up.

 

[Good Gao]

When you get older or have kids... impressing your friends becomes less important. Importance of friends starts in puberty and pretty much ends, for most people, after you get out of college or your mid-20s. This is when you brain fully matures.

You are growing up, just go with it. There is nothing more pathetic that an adult that refuses to grow up.

LOL don't give me that dumb ****, you may as well be the same dude who thinks all 30 + yr old men should get married and have kids with a former slut because she is a "reformed" woman now. **** that, you're ALWAYS impressing friends, older people just do it through buying fancy cars and keeping up with the joneses.

 

[Good Gao]

Take getting attention from other women as and example. At 21, everyone is banging everyone else. Monogamy is a low priority. At 25-35 everyone starts pairing off and the dating pool (for that age range) gets much, much smaller. Competition grows and therefore investment of every type presents more risk.

Those sluts can go buy some ****ing cats then, no way in hell am I going to take anything seriously from a former reformed slut at 25 who expects me to buy her skankyass a nice meal and date before I **** her while she would easily dropped down to her knees at 19 to the spoiled brat in a fraternity.

21 year olds for life!

 

[bigneil]

No way in hell am I going to take anything seriously from a former reformed slut at 25 who expects me to buy her skankyass a nice meal and date before I **** her!

Wait, so she has to prove she's a current sl-ut before you pay for dinner, because you presume she's such a former sl-ut?

Remember: a "sl-ut" with high interest will be much more fun than a "nice girl" who is not that interested. Focus on whether she is interested, not whether she has a past.

 

[Desdinova]

I still get people talking about me, but that's because a lot of people in my social groups have heard that I'm the community man slvt. It doesn't bother me. Many women become intrigued because of it. Many men become jealous of me.

For me, I really could take or leave the sex. I almost like wanking better because it's quick and easy. But now that I know I can get sex on a regular basis, it feels more like a necessity in order to keep the woman happy. I'm much more fond of the companionship that comes with a relationship.

 

[mynameisntNigel]

Well, everyone on this forum only cares about sex, from the looks of it. That's one of the few things that makes the forum an abomination

 

[daddymonsterpoodle]

I dont think that is true. Even if you bothered to read all the posts on this thread you would see that sex isnt the main motivator for some guys.

This is a seduction site though. You can't go on a hunting site and complain that all they talk about is killing stuff.

 

[The Duke]

What I enjoy the most is the thrill of the hunt. I like going after something thats hard to get. I feel on top of the world when I drop a new hottie's panties for the first time. It isn't about the sechs for me, its about the challenge leading up to that point.......its about seduction. I've accomplished what many never will and that sets me apart from the masses. Its all about winning on my terms and getting what I want out of life because my skills were better than the other guys, because I tried harder, studied more, understood more.

 

[FinallyFree]

Hmmm anything with dudes watching me have sex kills it

 

[SuckItUp]

As you get older it's more about your experience and your value as a man. You've been through some that **** that life serves up so you're unfazed when crazy **** happens.

The game changes towards your agenda as you control the frame. You can delve into a more intricate mental game where you try to get a woman to do irrational things or become irascible sex fiends because you know how to turn her knobs and dials.

In sum it becomes about power.

 

[BetterCallSaul]

Yeah being married I dont game like everyone else here does. But what I do enjoy is when women of all age ranges make it obvious to me that they're checking me out or are interested in me making the first move. When I'm out strolling around on my lunch break, and some random woman walking the other way makes eye contact with me is one thing, but when she follows up with a big smile and does a small nod at me.....yeah stuff as simple as that I still enjoy. From college age girls making themselves look dumb because they're inexperienced at getting men's attention in a normal everyday setting that is outside some frat party, to women around my own age, I enjoy all of it. It does help brighten my day.

Overall yeah it's a small form of validation. But as I'm getting older I suppose i am concerned like any other guy my age would be is, am I aging well? We all hear about how guys age better than women, but that's not the case for every guy. So far I guess I am doing ok.

 

[Dingo]

I like the manipulation... the seduction..... I like the knowledge of how and why I get certain reactions from women.

 

[badboyjmm]

I enjoy being able to dissect a situation as I please, thinking about ways to approach. Plus it fun to be able to call out women for the games they play and watching them getting embarrassed trying to explain the reasoning between their actions

 

[PantyWhisperer]

For me, it's 100% ego feed. Sex is overrated and there's no such thing as a golden pvssy.