Hey guys! I've been a member of this board for a long time, but I don't use it much now, except to come back and share some experiences.
I started off as an AFC. These days it's a different story. I'm currently trying to beat my personal records (2 girls in one day, 3 in a weekend or 5 in a week). Still have yet to achieve the elusive threesome but it's in my sights! Oh and, by the way I'm a hopeless sex addict who can't hold down a relationship. I wouldn't recommend this lifestyle for everyone but I'm having a blast. This is pretty much everything that I do to get there:
Instant Sex
I usually pick up in clubs, because I want to take a girl home the same night. But it also works at house parties, bars, weddings, anywhere there's a party atmosphere. Girls are drinking, having a good time, and they want to get laid. You'd be amazed how many hot girls go for weeks or months without getting laid. The trick is spotting those girls.
Be Attractive
I'm not a particularly good looking guy but I wear nice clothes and take care of myself. The grooming is the important part. The next most important thing is to always be having fun and always be talking to someone. It doesn't have to be a girl, but it helps. Chances are some of the girls you talk to later will already have noticed you, so make sure they get an impression of someone they would enjoy spending time with. Keep a chipper, happy, playful attitude all the way through the process!
Cold Opening
I use situational openers, but always pre-empted by some flirty eye-contact. The first thing that you have to master is locking eye-contact with every girl you see. From there it's pretty easy to tell who is open to being approached. If you get that eye-contact for at least 2 seconds, smile. Practise a warm genuine smile in the mirror if you have to, it needs to look natural. Sometimes I do a comical open mouth smile and point at them like "It's you!", wink, do air kisses, or something silly like that. If you get any kind of reaction then start a conversation. It doesn't really matter what you say.
Warm Opening
I find I'm 10x more likely to take a girl home if she's been introduced to me by another girl. Make female friends! Simples.
Conversation
Try to keep it light and flirty. There's general tone of sexual appreciation and fearlessness. Think in terms of overt sexual humor while staying respectful. And occasionally throw in a creative genuine compliment about something that is unique to her. If things get deeper I find it a lot easier if I can get her to talk about herself. She's got lines of thought that she can get lost in, and she will feel connected with you through sharing. Find out what she's interested in, and drop in enough supportive statements get her going. If she asks about you, talk about exciting things like travel and use words like "adventure". Tell some anecdotes, funny or interesting. You have them in there, just open up and trust yourself. Don't talk about yourself for too long, or anything boring, depressing or controversial. Wherever the conversation goes, always bring it gently back to flirtatious. Take any opportunity to accuse her of having a dirty mind, sex on the brain, or just trouble. Your mom warned you about girls like her. Also don't be afraid to talk about ex girlfriends. You want to portray yourself as sexually experienced.
Stay On Target
Sometimes I get distracted and lose my focus and lose the girl. If you're getting somewhere with a girl you like, don't jump ship because you see a better option. You might end up with nothing!
Don't Waste Time
Know when to move on. If she walks away or turns her back on you, or gets into a conversation with someone else without trying to include you, if you get the impression she's being unfriendly or not contributing to the conversation, if she is consistently resisting your kino or rude in any way: start talking to someone else. If she is interested she will come back to you and make an effort, and this time she will be more receptive.
Kino
-When she tells you her name, hold out your right hand and take hers gently, put your left on her waist and go right in for the double cheek kiss. Don't take your hand away from hers until she does first (don't hold it tight). Sometimes they just wont let go at all!
-Right from the start, natual touching. Light touches on the small of the back, or touching her arm, or even taking her hands for a second - all in time with the flow of your conversation so it feels natural. The trick is to touch on the highs of the conversation so it has context, and don't linger too long that she starts to notice it. Touch like you would with a close friend or family member, and as you escalate, like a girlfriend. Work it up over the course of maybe an hour. By the end you should be getting fairly intimate. I'll be stroking her neck by the end, eventually kissing her neck too. You want to get her horny and this is a surefire method, so long as the physical escalation is smooth, natual and consistent.
-I'm a Scotsman. Part of our culture is to learn traditional dances at school and, I teach these to girls on the spot. It's a perfect excuse to go hands in hands, body to body. And they love it! I suggest you go onto Youtube and learn a few basic Salsa/Waltz/Whatever moves, as this is dynamite. Or just take her onto the dance floor to whatever music is playing. Not quite the same but it works.
-There's also a martial arts balance game I like to play called "Pushies". You stand with your feet apart, facing the girl, 4 feet in a square, and put your palms against each other. The rules are simple: you need to get the other person to move their feet, but you're not allowed to touch them apart from the palms. And no grabbing. So all you can do is push their palms, and relax your arms when they try to push yours. Usually they fall right into you trying to push you over. Great fun!
- Treat her like a little kid! Sometimes when I want to make fun of something a girl is saying I will grab her shoulders and shake her gently like a child, saying "nooo, you can't be serious!" or something silly. Or I might put my arm round her shoulder and go "aww bless" in a joke condescending tone.
Gauging Interest
How do you know if she's interested? Not as difficult as you might think. Is she still talking to you? Especially after her friends have left? Will she switch locations with you? Does she smile and giggle while you talk to her? Pay attention to any signs that she is resisting your kino.
Some tests:
- A great test after an initial opener is when you ask her name. When she tells you, carry on the conversation without offering yours. If she lets you continue without asking your name, she's probably not that interested. If she asks, she obviously wants to know!
- Stop talking for a second and just give her a flirty look. Right in her eye, with a knowing smile. Does she giggle?
- My favourite, use this at any time with any girl. She says something you like or you want to show appreciation for go for the hi-five. There are 2 types of hi-five from a girl. If she's interested she will actually grab your hand in the air if you allow her to. Otherwise you'll just get the friend-zone slap and retreat. Be prepared for that grab, if you get it, she's yours.
- You can also ask for a number... it's a good indicator.. but I prefer to...
Kiss Her
If you have got a good flow of convo and kino, if you're getting all the right signs, make a move. By this time you've held hands, danced close, and even kissed her neck to test for resistance. Get your faces close enough together when you're talking or dancing so that it doesn't feel like a lunge. Sometimes I make her think I'm going to kiss her before waiting until the next moment, drives her wild, sometimes she will kiss me instead. Another thing I've used is "you've got something on your face" and go in for a closer look before BAM!
Take Her Home
You want to be the sex guy, not the boyfriend guy. I usually talk about how I'm not very good with relationships, or how I've recently broken up with a girl. Basically, I'm an experienced lover but not exactly emotionally available. Because if she likes you enough to attempt a relationship she might want to take things slower. Make it clear that all that's on offer is sex and, if you've played the game right up until this point, she's horny, she want's to have sex you, she might just go "f*ck it" and take you up on that offer. It really helps if you live nearby. I have a favourite club that I use for pickups and I deliberately moved 5 minutes walk away. Sometimes they go "no, I really shouldn't" all the way to my house. Those girls will also say "yes but I'm not having sex with you", and I'm like "as you wish". And just keep working the charm until the magic happens. But hey, some girls know exactly what they want and will even take you home to theirs.
I started off as an AFC. These days it's a different story. I'm currently trying to beat my personal records (2 girls in one day, 3 in a weekend or 5 in a week). Still have yet to achieve the elusive threesome but it's in my sights! Oh and, by the way I'm a hopeless sex addict who can't hold down a relationship. I wouldn't recommend this lifestyle for everyone but I'm having a blast. This is pretty much everything that I do to get there:
Instant Sex
I usually pick up in clubs, because I want to take a girl home the same night. But it also works at house parties, bars, weddings, anywhere there's a party atmosphere. Girls are drinking, having a good time, and they want to get laid. You'd be amazed how many hot girls go for weeks or months without getting laid. The trick is spotting those girls.
Be Attractive
I'm not a particularly good looking guy but I wear nice clothes and take care of myself. The grooming is the important part. The next most important thing is to always be having fun and always be talking to someone. It doesn't have to be a girl, but it helps. Chances are some of the girls you talk to later will already have noticed you, so make sure they get an impression of someone they would enjoy spending time with. Keep a chipper, happy, playful attitude all the way through the process!
Cold Opening
I use situational openers, but always pre-empted by some flirty eye-contact. The first thing that you have to master is locking eye-contact with every girl you see. From there it's pretty easy to tell who is open to being approached. If you get that eye-contact for at least 2 seconds, smile. Practise a warm genuine smile in the mirror if you have to, it needs to look natural. Sometimes I do a comical open mouth smile and point at them like "It's you!", wink, do air kisses, or something silly like that. If you get any kind of reaction then start a conversation. It doesn't really matter what you say.
Warm Opening
I find I'm 10x more likely to take a girl home if she's been introduced to me by another girl. Make female friends! Simples.
Conversation
Try to keep it light and flirty. There's general tone of sexual appreciation and fearlessness. Think in terms of overt sexual humor while staying respectful. And occasionally throw in a creative genuine compliment about something that is unique to her. If things get deeper I find it a lot easier if I can get her to talk about herself. She's got lines of thought that she can get lost in, and she will feel connected with you through sharing. Find out what she's interested in, and drop in enough supportive statements get her going. If she asks about you, talk about exciting things like travel and use words like "adventure". Tell some anecdotes, funny or interesting. You have them in there, just open up and trust yourself. Don't talk about yourself for too long, or anything boring, depressing or controversial. Wherever the conversation goes, always bring it gently back to flirtatious. Take any opportunity to accuse her of having a dirty mind, sex on the brain, or just trouble. Your mom warned you about girls like her. Also don't be afraid to talk about ex girlfriends. You want to portray yourself as sexually experienced.
Stay On Target
Sometimes I get distracted and lose my focus and lose the girl. If you're getting somewhere with a girl you like, don't jump ship because you see a better option. You might end up with nothing!
Don't Waste Time
Know when to move on. If she walks away or turns her back on you, or gets into a conversation with someone else without trying to include you, if you get the impression she's being unfriendly or not contributing to the conversation, if she is consistently resisting your kino or rude in any way: start talking to someone else. If she is interested she will come back to you and make an effort, and this time she will be more receptive.
Kino
-When she tells you her name, hold out your right hand and take hers gently, put your left on her waist and go right in for the double cheek kiss. Don't take your hand away from hers until she does first (don't hold it tight). Sometimes they just wont let go at all!
-Right from the start, natual touching. Light touches on the small of the back, or touching her arm, or even taking her hands for a second - all in time with the flow of your conversation so it feels natural. The trick is to touch on the highs of the conversation so it has context, and don't linger too long that she starts to notice it. Touch like you would with a close friend or family member, and as you escalate, like a girlfriend. Work it up over the course of maybe an hour. By the end you should be getting fairly intimate. I'll be stroking her neck by the end, eventually kissing her neck too. You want to get her horny and this is a surefire method, so long as the physical escalation is smooth, natual and consistent.
-I'm a Scotsman. Part of our culture is to learn traditional dances at school and, I teach these to girls on the spot. It's a perfect excuse to go hands in hands, body to body. And they love it! I suggest you go onto Youtube and learn a few basic Salsa/Waltz/Whatever moves, as this is dynamite. Or just take her onto the dance floor to whatever music is playing. Not quite the same but it works.
-There's also a martial arts balance game I like to play called "Pushies". You stand with your feet apart, facing the girl, 4 feet in a square, and put your palms against each other. The rules are simple: you need to get the other person to move their feet, but you're not allowed to touch them apart from the palms. And no grabbing. So all you can do is push their palms, and relax your arms when they try to push yours. Usually they fall right into you trying to push you over. Great fun!
- Treat her like a little kid! Sometimes when I want to make fun of something a girl is saying I will grab her shoulders and shake her gently like a child, saying "nooo, you can't be serious!" or something silly. Or I might put my arm round her shoulder and go "aww bless" in a joke condescending tone.
Gauging Interest
How do you know if she's interested? Not as difficult as you might think. Is she still talking to you? Especially after her friends have left? Will she switch locations with you? Does she smile and giggle while you talk to her? Pay attention to any signs that she is resisting your kino.
Some tests:
- A great test after an initial opener is when you ask her name. When she tells you, carry on the conversation without offering yours. If she lets you continue without asking your name, she's probably not that interested. If she asks, she obviously wants to know!
- Stop talking for a second and just give her a flirty look. Right in her eye, with a knowing smile. Does she giggle?
- My favourite, use this at any time with any girl. She says something you like or you want to show appreciation for go for the hi-five. There are 2 types of hi-five from a girl. If she's interested she will actually grab your hand in the air if you allow her to. Otherwise you'll just get the friend-zone slap and retreat. Be prepared for that grab, if you get it, she's yours.
- You can also ask for a number... it's a good indicator.. but I prefer to...
Kiss Her
If you have got a good flow of convo and kino, if you're getting all the right signs, make a move. By this time you've held hands, danced close, and even kissed her neck to test for resistance. Get your faces close enough together when you're talking or dancing so that it doesn't feel like a lunge. Sometimes I make her think I'm going to kiss her before waiting until the next moment, drives her wild, sometimes she will kiss me instead. Another thing I've used is "you've got something on your face" and go in for a closer look before BAM!
Take Her Home
You want to be the sex guy, not the boyfriend guy. I usually talk about how I'm not very good with relationships, or how I've recently broken up with a girl. Basically, I'm an experienced lover but not exactly emotionally available. Because if she likes you enough to attempt a relationship she might want to take things slower. Make it clear that all that's on offer is sex and, if you've played the game right up until this point, she's horny, she want's to have sex you, she might just go "f*ck it" and take you up on that offer. It really helps if you live nearby. I have a favourite club that I use for pickups and I deliberately moved 5 minutes walk away. Sometimes they go "no, I really shouldn't" all the way to my house. Those girls will also say "yes but I'm not having sex with you", and I'm like "as you wish". And just keep working the charm until the magic happens. But hey, some girls know exactly what they want and will even take you home to theirs.
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