Rata Blanca
Senior Don Juan
...red_karma said:
Old bf is coming back
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Remulak
Senior Don Juan
So are you implying that if a girl ever brings up their ex bf in any way they're still in love with them?
Women say “stop being insecure” to keep you from pointing out the insulting, disrespectful things they do to harm the relationship. Remember: this isn’t a matter of your need for her, it’s a matter of her respect for you.
The key is to tell her what she’s doing wrong without phrasing it as a Demand or Ultimatum. When she says, “I’m going to have coffee with so and so, and he’ll show me some sights around town,” say, “You shouldn’t date other people when you have a boyfriend.”
She might try to argue, “it’s not a date.” “Great, then I can go with you guys, right?” “Um, er, . . . no, blah blah.” “So you need to be alone, so it’s a date, so you should break up with me 1st.”
Just calmly explain to her what you need: which is respect! If you can’t get it from her, you’ll get it somewhere else.
The key is to tell her what she’s doing wrong without phrasing it as a Demand or Ultimatum. When she says, “I’m going to have coffee with so and so, and he’ll show me some sights around town,” say, “You shouldn’t date other people when you have a boyfriend.”
She might try to argue, “it’s not a date.” “Great, then I can go with you guys, right?” “Um, er, . . . no, blah blah.” “So you need to be alone, so it’s a date, so you should break up with me 1st.”
Just calmly explain to her what you need: which is respect! If you can’t get it from her, you’ll get it somewhere else.
The Bad Ass Canadian
Master Don Juan
You say this to her:
"Babe, I can't stop you from seeing him... if you're gonna do it, you're gonna do it, but know this; If this was just two old friends getting together to play "catch up", I would think that you would want me to be around to meet someone you spent alot of time with, in your past so that we could be introduced... but since this isn't the case, I'll let you decide what's best for us and in the mean time, I'll decide what's best for me. If you respect me, you'll decline his offer to meet... and if you don't then I'll go find someone who does."
"Babe, I can't stop you from seeing him... if you're gonna do it, you're gonna do it, but know this; If this was just two old friends getting together to play "catch up", I would think that you would want me to be around to meet someone you spent alot of time with, in your past so that we could be introduced... but since this isn't the case, I'll let you decide what's best for us and in the mean time, I'll decide what's best for me. If you respect me, you'll decline his offer to meet... and if you don't then I'll go find someone who does."
Big Eee Zee
Master Don Juan
this was in may, it already happened by now
At this point you probably have a woman (or multiple women) chasing you around, calling you all the time, wanting to be with you. So let's talk about how to KEEP a woman interested in you once you have her. This is BIG! There is nothing worse than getting dumped by a woman that you really, really like.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.