ok this has been bugging me. thoughts?

smoothtalker72

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i've been talking to this girl for a while now. we text here and there and talk a lot when in person. however lately when i've tried to call her she neither picks up nor does she call back and i did leave a voicemail message. today i tried texting her afterwards because there was a problem at one time where she had a hard time receiving phone calls because of phone issues. didnt get an answer there either. now i dunno what to do. i feel like i should just stop talking to her but i also feel like i should at least find out whether it was a phone problem or she was just ignoring me.

i need some help making a decision here guys help me out please. should i cut contact or try to contact her later today and see how that pans out?

note: we're both in high school (different schools) and i get the feeling that you have to handle these situations differently than you would with girls out of high school because they are just as new to this as most guys are.
 

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I would cut the attention with her for a bit, if shes still interested then she should contact you.
Maybe shes an afc and she is scared of talking to you on the phone?

I think that emotions cannot be seen through texts (unless you use smilies) whereas phone calls you can tell what she means and how she means it by the tone of her voice and the pauses she has between sentences. Especially if you make her think on the spot.

Personally i would try building some real life rapport with her first then i would go for the phone calls.
 

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i know her in real life. there was a time where we worked together, that was a while back tho. but yea, thats one for cutting contact. the other option for me is trying to contact her one last time tomorrow to maybe find out the situation like if she didnt have her phone or something. any more opinions?
 

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I say cut contact.

There's probably not a problem with her phone, and you constantly trying to get back to her just makes you look desperate. She'll come back to you if she's interested. Even IF there is something wrong with her phone, let her make the next contact.

Good luck
 

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if she isnt replying to your txts n **** then hit her up in person and ask whats the deal.. if you keep trying to call/txt her you'll look desperate most likely..
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Don't make a small thing a big deal dude...

Just ask her next time you see her why she isn't picking up her phone or something.
 

smoothtalker72

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turns out she didnt have her phone. (still doesnt) she told me via aim today. thanks for the advice guys
 
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