Ok, tell me where I f*cked up!

[mr. kennedy]

Long story short.

I match with a chick on Bumble. She asks for my number 3 messages in. She texts me right away. She initiates again the next morning. Initiates in the evening again asking how my day was. Initiates again next morning. I'm too busy so can't give her a date to meet yet. I finally initiate the next morning. At this point I'm still not sure I want to see her as her pics are in the 7.5 range. I ask her for more pics and she says after me. I send her a shirtless selfie and that seems to really turn her on as she sends me a really nice sexy pic in a tight dress. At this point I realize she is really hot. Her Bumble pics don't do her any justice. She asks me to meet up that night for a drink. I tell myself why not (I had nothing planned that night, my friend cancelled on me).

I show up 15 minutes late to date due to not finding parking. Place is loud so she asks me to sit right next to her. For some reason the topic of Mariokart on Super Nintendo comes up and she says she is the best at the game. I tell her no one was better than me when I played. She invites me to her place that night to play Mariokart. I say maybe. I'll see after our drink.

I then decide to give her a ride home and to play Mariokart at her place. We make out between a race. After our tournament, she jumps up and says it's late. We make out more but then she goes to the door to open it as to tell me I should leave. She says she had a good time we should do it again.

I had no condom on me and wasn't really in the mood to bang so that's why I didn't push it besides making out.

I come home that night and don't see a text from her. I know it's a bad sign as in my experience a chick usually texts you to see if you made it home or to say she had a good time. I haven't reached out to her yet and she hasn't contacted me either since. She has always initiated the days before our date and now she's gone cold. She has also deleted her Bumble profile. In my experience when a chick doesn't reach out after a few days it usually means she's not interested as an interested girl can't stop herself from reaching out for fear of losing the guy.

Where did I f*ck up?

 

[DidIDoThat]

Too much mario kart

 

[btownbuck2012]

Quite possibly could have been a rebound attempt after a breakup if she deleted her bumble account and with how forward she was.

 

[mr. kennedy]

Quite possibly could have been a rebound attempt after a breakup if she deleted her bumble account and with how forward she was.

She did mention she was living with her ex for 2 years but I don't remember when they broke up.

 

[btownbuck2012]

She did mention she was living with her ex for 2 years but I don't remember when they broke up.

The fact that she brought him up on the first date/ meetup with you let's you know where her mind is at. I'd bet money her and this guy were in the middle of another breakup, fight, etc. I'd forget about her.

 

[mr. kennedy]

The fact that she brought him up on the first date/ meetup with you let's you know where her mind is at. I'd bet money her and this guy were in the middle of another breakup, fight, etc. I'd forget about her.

So I shouldn't even reach out? I haven't yet since the date.

 

[lizardking82]

I'd say there is nothing you can lose by reaching out one more time, cooly, simply ask her if she;s in the mood to come over at your place. If she flakes/doesn't answer, you'll have your answer and your mind at ease. If she comes over, make sure you bang her this time. If she comes over and doesn't bang, kick the ***** out cause she don't know what the fak she doin' LOL

 

[btownbuck2012]

So I shouldn't even reach out? I haven't yet since the date.

I'd maybe wait a week and then call, don't text. But I wouldn't put any thought towards her anymore. Even if she doesn't have an ex she's obsessed with, her behavior towards you indicates she does this a-lot would probably only be good for sex.

 

[mr. kennedy]

I'd maybe wait a week and then call, don't text. But I wouldn't put any thought towards her anymore. Even if she doesn't have an ex she's obsessed with, her behavior towards you indicates she does this a-lot would probably only be good for sex.

She was working as a waitress in a busy bar when she was in college. She definitely seemed like she knew how to play the game.

 

[btownbuck2012]

She was working as a waitress in a busy bar when she was in college. She definitely seemed like she knew how to play the game.

It really depends on what you want from this? What is your goal here? do you just want to bang this girl or what?

 

[mr. kennedy]

It really depends on what you want from this? What is your goal here? do you just want to bang this girl or what?

I think I was caught off guard. After trying to bang for so long on a 1st date with various chicks and being accused of being too aggressive I changed my style and became more patient. I didn't expect to bang going in the date but when I look in hindsight all the signs were there that she wanted to bang.

She is 10 years younger than me and has smoking body so I would like to bang her for sure.

 

[EyeBRollin]

I think I was caught off guard. After trying to bang for so long on a 1st date with various chicks and being accused of being too aggressive I changed my style and became more patient. I didn't expect to bang going in the date but when I look in hindsight all the signs were there that she wanted to bang.

She is 10 years younger than me and has smoking body so I would like to bang her for sure.

Dear lord, have some patience.

This one is screwed up. You spent way too much time texting before the first date, so now if you ghost for a week you may get some back lash for pattern interrupt. I would still try to do it anyway.

Don't contact her for 5 days. After that, ask her out again. If she's interested, she most likely will hit you up before the 5 days are up. If she does, ask her out.

 

[mr. kennedy]

Dear lord, have some patience.

This one is screwed up. You spent way too much time texting before the first date, so now if you ghost for a week you may get some back lash for pattern interrupt. I would still try to do it anyway.

Don't contact her for 5 days. After that, ask her out again. If she's interested, she most likely will hit you up before the 5 days are up. If she does, ask her out.

She was the one texting. I only politely responded with a few words. I initiated only once.

 

[hockeyfreak79]

So 1 drink and straight to her place? Was it a work night or weekend... Sounds like to me she was really hungry for a rebound bang.

 

[mr. kennedy]

So 1 drink and straight to her place? Was it a work night or weekend... Sounds like to me she was really hungry for a rebound bang.

2 drinks and it was a Sunday night.

She also mentioned to me I was her first Bumble date and that a guy on Bumble cancelled on her 3 days before we met.

 

[mr. kennedy]

She also said she was on Tinder a few years ago and only met 1 guy that became her bf for 2 years (the aforementioned ex).

 

[Initiatedindenial]

It feels like she desperately wanted to bang, when you maked out who initiated?

You may have beem to calmed on here bro, the calmed approach is good but have to learn to read the signs and trigger the beast when the light is green.

 

[mr. kennedy]

It feels like she desperately wanted to bang, when you maked out who initiated?

You may have beem to calmed on here bro, the calmed approach is good but have to learn to read the signs and trigger the beast when the light is green.

She initiated the 1st make out. She even put her leg on my leg while we were playing Mario kart.

I initiated the 2nd make out.

 

[machoMax]

She probably wanted sex, maybe for one night only, who knows.

 

[AlphaNate]

She's in a relationship or was trying to make someone else jealous. You fell for it just like we all have. Let it go.