OK, so this is a long shot, but help me out here...

[brod716]

So there is this girl................

She is a student assistant of the office secretary in my college department. Everyone drools over her but no one's got the balls to talk to her, as usual. I've always been the easy-going one and would come into the office and crack some jokes and totally bust her chops to see how she'd respond. The amazing thing is that she always did respond and always seemingly welcomed our interaction - but it never went past that. Now, as bad as it sounds, I, frankly, have just been really busy at school to even eat or sleep enough in the past 3-4 weeks, much less go out or try to involve myself with a girl.

So, now it's summer, and I have a job 8-5 outside of school... And, the school is in summer session. I have no idea if she's working there or not, but she is from this area, so regardless, I'm pretty sure she's around.

The daunting question is this. I have her e-mail, since obviously everybody's e-mail is available to everyone else in the school. I also know her phone number, but that's from the phone book. Is there any chance in hell that I could somehow, possibly contact her without it being totally awkward, sounding stupid, completely unexpected, or all of the above? There has been minimal interaction between us, but as I mentioned before, it's been more than pleasant.

So, help me out here with what to write/say, or wait until school starts in 3 months and for now keep dreaming?

Thanks. Flamers welcome, I'm self-critical, I can take it

 

[516]

Nope. I think that you go out and meet other chicks. You will completely forget about this one. Then, if you still so desire, you can pick things up when you see her again or when school starts back up. Chalk this one up as a learning experience. You were unable to seal the deal with her, so now you can only wonder what could have happened. Dont let that happen again.

 

[Grey Fox]

Yeah this is pretty much a lesson learned situation, you had a shot and let it slip. You'll be lucky if she shows at least the openess you say before. Just date other girls, college is to short to spend it chasing just one girl around.

-Grey Fox

 

[Don_Marko]

Had a similar experience few years back... I looked up the girl on ICQ and tried to hook up, but didn't go over too well.

I'd take the advice from people above and focus on other chicks during the summer, and then when you're back at school give it another shot

 

[Cheiradawg]

Here is a story.

My freshmen year of college there was this chick in my English class. This was before I had discovered this site and I was beyond clueless. I didn't even know that I didn't have a clue-it was that bad.

This chick kept trying to make eyecontact with me in class, she smiled when I looked at her for about half a second, she tryed to talk to me twice, and she would walk diffrent around me in class. At a party she adjusted my collar as I passed her by. Anyway in retrospect I am fairely sure she liked me. One day I had fallen asleep in the library and she walked right over and sat on my lab. She had me pinned and was dtermind to flirt with me but I couldn't even hold a conversation.

Later after the class was over and basket ball season started I was at one of the games and noticed that the girl was one that was on the freakin' dance team!!! (just think how those girls could move)

So I decided I was going to have some balls and call her. So I looked up her name and gave her a ring.

Her: hello
CD: Hi, this is CD from Freshmen English Class. (Then I start talking about how I saw her on the dance team blah blah blah)
Her: Dial tone

The point is that it is wierd justot call someone up and ask them out. Hopefully my shame will save you some.

 

[squirrels]

Originally posted by brod716
Is there any chance in hell that I could somehow, possibly contact her without it being totally awkward, sounding stupid, completely unexpected, or all of the above? There has been minimal interaction between us, but as I mentioned before, it's been more than pleasant.

WTF?!

Yeah there's a way you can contact her without it being stupid, awkward, or unexpected...swing by where she works and ASK FOR HER PHONE NUMBER.

 

[brod716]

Re: Re: OK, so this is a long shot, but help me out here...

Originally posted by squirrels
WTF?!

Yeah there's a way you can contact her without it being stupid, awkward, or unexpected...swing by where she works and ASK FOR HER PHONE NUMBER.

Umm.... that's why I prefaced my question with saying that I work from 8 to 5. How am I gonna be in two places at once?

 

[4afe]

Re: Re: Re: OK, so this is a long shot, but help me out here...

Originally posted by brod716
Umm.... that's why I prefaced my question with saying that I work from 8 to 5. How am I gonna be in two places at once?

Take a day off? Tell your boss you have an oppointment? Or do what I do, just say "I have to take off a couple of hours early" (but I do it, just because not because I have some thing important to do)

 

[noseguard20]

Originally posted by brod716
So there is this girl................

She is a student assistant of the office secretary in my college department. Everyone drools over her but no one's got the balls to talk to her, as usual. I've always been the easy-going one and would come into the office and crack some jokes and totally bust her chops to see how she'd respond. The amazing thing is that she always did respond and always seemingly welcomed our interaction - but it never went past that. Now, as bad as it sounds, I, frankly, have just been really busy at school to even eat or sleep enough in the past 3-4 weeks, much less go out or try to involve myself with a girl.

So, now it's summer, and I have a job 8-5 outside of school... And, the school is in summer session. I have no idea if she's working there or not, but she is from this area, so regardless, I'm pretty sure she's around.

The daunting question is this. I have her e-mail, since obviously everybody's e-mail is available to everyone else in the school. I also know her phone number, but that's from the phone book. Is there any chance in hell that I could somehow, possibly contact her without it being totally awkward, sounding stupid, completely unexpected, or all of the above? There has been minimal interaction between us, but as I mentioned before, it's been more than pleasant.

So, help me out here with what to write/say, or wait until school starts in 3 months and for now keep dreaming?

Thanks. Flamers welcome, I'm self-critical, I can take it

You should have cold approached when you first saw her. Don't worry about her signs. Wait until school starts and then go up to her and say something like "(her name)I thought about you this summer, and i think you're a very attractive person and was wondering if I could get your number and take you out sometime." bam!!! You just got your foot in the door. If she says no, it'll suck because it was someone you really liked. But be polite and please make sure you go up to her yourself. I wouldn't just call and email, even though calling would be a bold thing to do. You gotta let her know you want her. You're gonna be scared, just do it anyway. Every man is scared to apprach a woman that he really likes. Just remember its possible she may say yes.

 

[Walden]

Email her and ask her some inane school related question (think of one) after that you're having a conversation that you can turn in other directions if you wish.

 

[Shot Callin]

Here is one possible ....

Why don't you call her at her work number with some school related question in mind. Then when you are talking to her you can be like "oh, this is Jenny... you work in the ____ office right? hey my friend is having a party next saturday and I'm inviting a bunch of people, what are you doing?"

But then again, will she know you by name? When you saw her in the office before did she addrerss you with your name? If not I wouldn't attempt it on the phone. Plus you will have to have some party/function whatever for this to work.