So I was chilling with my cousin and his wife today, and we met up with the crew. We got hella lifted, and it was all BC Bud, and I grew up on the east Coast, so this was a new level for me. I started talk about aliens, ninja assassin corporations, rivalry gangs, God, math and danced a little bit to beats coming from my buddy's car. I felt pretty cool. I don't know if you knew, but I have a leather jacket of my own. I was wearing a leather jacket. But I don't care. I'm kinda in beef with this dude cause I sexually harrassed his gf and hit on her. The slvt said she was single on her profile, but whatever. I didn't give a sh*t. There was this one chick. She was kinda lesbo but really cool and had a cool dog and a joint of good weed. we chilled in the parking lot at walmart but there was this other hot chick, Madison. I didn't talk to her at all, cause I got social anxiety with the weed, and I felt sh*tty after not even talking to her. so when we end up going home, my cousin's wife asks "Do you like sex?" It makes me feel like everybody keeps thinking I'm gay or asexual, but I keep trying to pursue girls. Like maybe I'm too shy? Pathologically? I don't know, but you guys get way more p*ssy then I've ever will in my sorry ass life, I'd honestly want some advice on how to sort out this situation. My reputation is on the line. Like I keep falling in love with different girls but never get close to them for some reason. Maybe I just smoked too much reefer I don't know. But I DO know that I'm not drunk right now. Just lifted and listenin to tunes hella baked on youtube. I smoke weed every week or two. Maybe I should stop? Maybe I should get a job? Maybe I should go f*ck a girl? But how?
OK so I'm back at this site after a little break. People think I'm gay? Is this true?
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Desdinova
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Let me tell you this... People who have known you for quite a long time are NOT going to change their opinion about you anytime soon. They've come to expect certain behavior of you and 'keeping your reputation' means that you either want to fit into the mold that they expect of you or you want to change what people think of you. If you continue fitting into the mold, you're not going to progress with anything. If you want to change how they think of you, you're going to find yourself fighting an uphill battle.MrJibbles said:
Both of those scenarios are NOT idealistic for someone who wants to progress with life. You need to WANT to change and not give a damn about what everyone else expects of you. When you actually begin to change, you'll find out who your genuine friends are. The ones who support you through your changes are the ones worth keeping around. The ones who say 5hit like "What's gotten into you? Quit behaving like that" are the ones who are NOT going to be supportive and will either be forced to change their opinion of you, or drop completely off the radar.
When you change who you are, your entire life will change and that includes friends and family. You can either be confident and progress with your life, or you can stay in your safe little sexless cubby hole where everyone expects to find you.
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Your gay.... Lol nah im just playing im like that too, except people dont call me gay and i dont smoke
The biggest compliment a girl can give a guy is to ask him if he’s gay. When you’re doing things right, you will get asked the question. It means they’re very much attracted to you but their little hamster is spinning around wondering why you aren’t giving them attention. Women cannot fathom why a sexy hot, single, otherwise eligible bachelor doesn’t want them, contrary to the hordes of men who are hitting on them every day. In the words of Pook, “If girls ask if you are gay, remember the important thing: they are thinking of you in a sexual context. One of girls’ favorite jokes is to tease a guy they like with another guy they like, pointing the two within a gay relationship. They just enjoy thinking about you in a sexual context. It is a victory.”
So, don’t take the question seriously.
If you “keep falling in love with different girls” without banging them, that means you’re an emotional slut. Tighten your inner game by keeping your emotions in check. As cold as it is true, women run away at the first hints of emotion.
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Why are you hanging out in the parking lot of a Walmart?
Don't see anything wrong here. If you don't want to close anyone that's fine. You said gay or "asexual". Why use even use the term "gay" to self-describe yourself since it is a strongly ladened word? "Asexual" just means you can't be bothered with closing which is fair enough. Nobody says you have to do that and you shouldn't if you don't want to.
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what do you mean by "is this true?"? Are you asking us If your gay? Cos If you want to fvck girls then no your not.
One of my female housemates used to think I was gay haha but it was just AA holding me back.
One of my female housemates used to think I was gay haha but it was just AA holding me back.
I never thought you were gay and have enjoyed many of your posts, MrJibbles.
Also, I don't believe it's a compliment when anyone asks asks a man if he is gay. Letalone be "the greatest compliment you can get". Does a woman saying you are gay mean you are pretty? Maybe, but pretty wasn't even an option in my "Top Compliments A Woman Gives a Man" post.
I've had women say the opposite. I used to joke "I enjoy gardening, cooking, drink Chardonnay and love my cat but I am not gay". "I am 100% sure you are not gay". I considered that a compliment.
Also, I don't believe it's a compliment when anyone asks asks a man if he is gay. Letalone be "the greatest compliment you can get". Does a woman saying you are gay mean you are pretty? Maybe, but pretty wasn't even an option in my "Top Compliments A Woman Gives a Man" post.
I've had women say the opposite. I used to joke "I enjoy gardening, cooking, drink Chardonnay and love my cat but I am not gay". "I am 100% sure you are not gay". I considered that a compliment.
Yes it’s a huge compliment, albeit subconsciously. And no, it’s not just about looks.
It began to happen to Pook when he packed on muscle and went through the roof as he mirrored female communication, i.e. adopting female psychology. Which, as Vice’s recent thread proves, is game changing. It has nothing, nothing, to do with flamboyance or anything else like that.
In the words of Roissy,
It began to happen to Pook when he packed on muscle and went through the roof as he mirrored female communication, i.e. adopting female psychology. Which, as Vice’s recent thread proves, is game changing. It has nothing, nothing, to do with flamboyance or anything else like that.
In the words of Roissy,
Alpha males and gay men have a lot in common. They know how to playfully jive with women. This is why there are so many fag hags in the cities. It’s not the shopping or in-depth color wheel knowledge that chicks love about gay men; it’s the teasing they get from them that they sorely miss from the straight men they date.
If you listen to a conversation between some gay guys and their chick friends, you’ll notice that the gays almost never answer a girl’s questions or discussion tangents logically. They will nearly always take the path of evasion, obfuscation, wit, teasing, ****y misdirection or backhanded compliments (aka negs).
…Girls despise logic and straight answers, because it sucks all the fun and unpredictability out of life, and girls need fun injected into their lives because they don’t have the creative chops to make fun themselves. So they lean on gay men or ****y alpha males to generate the fun for them. Oh, sure, girls can mimic logical thinking at the office, but that’s just an act. Once they get home, they revert to their more favored natural state: EMOTIONAL AMPLIFICATION BIOFEEDBACK.
And it’s not a one-way street between girls and their gay male friends. Gay guys expect just as much entertainment out of their chick friends as the girls have come to expect from their gay friends. You will often hear of gay friends unceremoniously cutting off contact with a dumbfounded girl because she became too boring to hang out with. This puts pressure on the girls to SEEK THE APPROVAL of their gay male friends, something girls desperately wish they would need to do with their straight male suitors. Why do they wish this? Because it is natural for a girl to seek the approval of a powerful social peer, whether that peer is a friend or a lover. Women, as the submissive sex, feel more comfortable seeking the approval of others rather than having their approval sought, much like a dog feels more at ease following a strong owner who has trained it to obey.
The man who can awaken and amplify a woman’s emotions until her electrified feelings are ricocheting off every tendril of her body is the man who holds access rights to her püssy. Stop thinking logically to seduce women. Train your brain to think in the female mode, where nothing is off-limits to silliness and questions are merely props to demonstrate social mastery. It is the rare time indeed that a woman wants a banal question answered seriously and in the full, and won’t appreciate a playful deflection to more emotionally-charged topics.
http://heartiste.wordpress.com/2011/06/13/gay-men-have-game/
If you listen to a conversation between some gay guys and their chick friends, you’ll notice that the gays almost never answer a girl’s questions or discussion tangents logically. They will nearly always take the path of evasion, obfuscation, wit, teasing, ****y misdirection or backhanded compliments (aka negs).
…Girls despise logic and straight answers, because it sucks all the fun and unpredictability out of life, and girls need fun injected into their lives because they don’t have the creative chops to make fun themselves. So they lean on gay men or ****y alpha males to generate the fun for them. Oh, sure, girls can mimic logical thinking at the office, but that’s just an act. Once they get home, they revert to their more favored natural state: EMOTIONAL AMPLIFICATION BIOFEEDBACK.
And it’s not a one-way street between girls and their gay male friends. Gay guys expect just as much entertainment out of their chick friends as the girls have come to expect from their gay friends. You will often hear of gay friends unceremoniously cutting off contact with a dumbfounded girl because she became too boring to hang out with. This puts pressure on the girls to SEEK THE APPROVAL of their gay male friends, something girls desperately wish they would need to do with their straight male suitors. Why do they wish this? Because it is natural for a girl to seek the approval of a powerful social peer, whether that peer is a friend or a lover. Women, as the submissive sex, feel more comfortable seeking the approval of others rather than having their approval sought, much like a dog feels more at ease following a strong owner who has trained it to obey.
The man who can awaken and amplify a woman’s emotions until her electrified feelings are ricocheting off every tendril of her body is the man who holds access rights to her püssy. Stop thinking logically to seduce women. Train your brain to think in the female mode, where nothing is off-limits to silliness and questions are merely props to demonstrate social mastery. It is the rare time indeed that a woman wants a banal question answered seriously and in the full, and won’t appreciate a playful deflection to more emotionally-charged topics.
http://heartiste.wordpress.com/2011/06/13/gay-men-have-game/
It doesn't matter how good-looking you are, how romantic you are, how funny you are... or anything else. If she doesn't have something INVESTED in you and the relationship, preferably quite a LOT invested, she'll dump you, without even the slightest hesitation, as soon as someone a little more "interesting" comes along.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
I'll admit, thinking back on it, I was really high and getting paranoid. I was taking some things people said to me out of context or distorting them, which increased my anxiety.FairShake said:
But this girl, my cousin's wife, is my friend and cousin-in-law, and I have talked to her about my problems with different girls. She knows I'm shy. In fact I'm painfully shy, so when I got back in the car that night, she was like "That girl [her friend] likes you. Do you want her number?" Being high and having poor self-esteem when it comes to chicks, I just drew a blank. She said it nicely with my best interests in mind, but it was subtly patronizing at the same time. Silence. And then that's when she asked the question "Do you like sex?"
Thinking back, she introduced me to one of her girlfriends weeks before and gave me that girl's number. I never did anything about it. I never had the confidence to contact her.
With that considered, she probably thought I was gay or asexual because there were so many opportunities for me to get girls (i.e. at parties, through family friends, etc.), but I never cashed in any of the cheques.
The funny thing is, I can talk to guys easily and, within the social circle that night, I was cracking jokes, telling funny stories, bringing up interesting topics, and overall was acting confident and not shy at all. People were responding positively. In fact earlier, we had a run-in with a security guard and while the other guys were trying to talk themselves out of trouble, I straight-up went up in the guard's face, went into kung-fu stance, and challenged him to a game of "ninja" to claim our territory. I was just trying to diffuse the situation, and it seemed like a good idea at the time. I didn't really give a sh*t. At the time, people found it really funny.
Later, while joking about the story, someone blurted out to me the words "alpha male." It's interesting, because if you read my post history, you'll realize that I'm a beta or omega male. I'm a failure with girls right now. I don't consider myself alpha at all. But I go boxing, work out, gained some muscle, act stoic, hide my emotions, etc. to compensate for my low-self esteem. And I'm not that tall, but I've got broad shoulders and, from what people tell me at least, a handsome face, so I seem to fit in that "alpha" mould, aesthetically-speaking.
This is probably why the girls think I'm gay. I come across as alpha, physically and behaviorally, but never act sexual around girls.
I honestly feel I have to dig down deeper in my head to figure out where my intimacy hang-up with girls comes from. Is it low self-esteem? If so, where is it coming from? I'm I too nervous? Too sensitive? Poor social skills? A combination of both? The fact I have no sexual experience? A dysfunctional, emotionally-abusive history with my mother as a child? Too much passivity? Too much blame?
Help me out, fellas. I'm feel like I'm going insane these days.