Women focus much more on the emotional side (duh). I ride the train to class, and at the station there's a newspaper stand. It sells Playboy, FHM, the works and also books such as:
Nights of your dreams
Boy meets girl
Calender girls (Girls making nude calenders)
It's all literotica, and women will buy it. The whole emotional/romantic crap is emotional porn for women. Women will also watch movies where people have wild sex (with a ton of emotions) and marry afterward.
There is porn for women, we just don't see it as such. (Sex and the City, Desperate Housewives, Grey's Anatomy, Private Practice, etc etc etc.)