Ok...single mom. What now?

[FrankWank]

So this chic i know that works in the same building as me approaches me during lunch. Sometimes im sitting just reading a mag, and she always approaches me and starts touching me with lots of eye contact. She more so rubs than just simple touching. This has been going for bout a month, though i dont see her every single day. Couple times i try and ignore her, but she doesnt allow me, cuz she will come up to me. I notice she will talk to other guys and look at me while she is doing this. I just kinda laugh it off and continue what im doing. Ive been aloof, unavailable, non-chalant, and mysterious and its working for the fact that she comes to me

Now all i want to do is bang her. Im aware she has a son which she told me. She says she doesnt go out when she is with him. When he isnt her friends have something planned to go out dancing. She said she aint been out in a month. So i asked her what her plans were this weekend. She's busy with her son this weekend. i say "oh cuz i was going to take you out". She had this happy look on her face. She then says "can we go another time" because of her son........i say "sure" then i leave.

so basically the ball is in her court. Now should i be busy that weekend when she wants to go out? She doesnt have much time cuz her son, so i dont want to be going back and fourth and neva get there. Should i give her another chance? Remember, she's a full time mommy.

 

[josekortez]

As far as single moms, I say proceed with caution. I dated one about four months ago, broke up with her and she still seems interested. Even offered to cook me dinner last night when I ran into her (she never did when we were dating), but methinks she misses the love muscle...

The sex was decent, but it wasn't worth writing home about.

Also, the kids could get attached to you. Whether that matters or not would depend on whether or not you have a conscience, but bad karma is bad karma.

Women without kids have less baggage...maybe.

 

[FrankWank]

bump

 

[Scought]

Here is what you should to, but wont do.

WALK AWAY.

What are you getting from dating her? You will always be second, you will have to support her or her kid, because you will feel you have to.

I have a feeling you already have your mind made up to stay with her, until something else happens, where you decide to split. But, honeslty, there are other women.

WALK AWAY.

But, you wont.

 

[spider_007]

I don't know her, so this is just a my best guess.

It wouldn't be unreasonable to say that she is looking for "her babys dady" as they say. Something to keep in mind. Even when looking for free azz. it can bring some drama

 

[Desdinova]

so basically the ball is in her court. Now should i be busy that weekend when she wants to go out?

Isn't that counter-productive? You've put up the offer, now she needs to make some time for you.

If all you're looking to do is bang her, don't think too much on this chick. Personally, I have no problem with dating SMs for the purpose of sex ONLY (unless you're a SF).

However, becoming attached to a SM can lead to problems. Her kid will ALWAYS come before you. You also essentially get into a relationship with two people at once.

If you're only interested in sex, DO NOT become attached to the child.

 

[NewMan]

Now all i want to do is bang her

So i asked her what her plans were this weekend. She's busy with her son this weekend. i say "oh cuz i was going to take you out". She had this happy look on her face. She then says "can we go another time" because of her son........i say "sure" then i leave.

You just want to fvck her.

So my advice is not to make a big deal out of it.

Just ask her if she wants to go get drinks after work Friday. Otherwise your setting yourself up from the start - with dinner, dates and the like. She's going to see you as BF and daddy material. You don't want that. You want to send her the message from the start that your just there looking for a good time - and if she's not up for that - then she's after the wrong guy.

So keep it simple - Say it with alcohol.

 

[JackPrescott]

Originally posted by Desdinova
Isn't that counter-productive? You've put up the offer, now she needs to make some time for you.

If all you're looking to do is bang her, don't think too much on this chick. Personally, I have no problem with dating SMs for the purpose of sex ONLY (unless you're a SF).

However, becoming attached to a SM can lead to problems. Her kid will ALWAYS come before you. You also essentially get into a relationship with two people at once.

If you're only interested in sex, DO NOT become attached to the child.

Yes and no. A woman who is interested will FIND time, a woman who is not will have excuses.

 

[Jus_LikeCandy]

There is nothing wrong with single women with children. Contrary to popular belief, some of us can stand on our own 2 feet.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with dating a single women with a child. We are not looking for fathers for our children! They already have fathers. Some men feel that we need someone to take care of us and support us and the baby. This not true for some.
I think it is important for a man who wants to date a women with a chld to understand what she want, if anthing and not jump to quick conclusion that we want fathers for our children and someone to take care of us. This is a ridulous misconception!!

 

[NewMan]

There is nothing wrong with single women with children. Contrary to popular belief, some of us can stand on our own 2 feet.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with dating a single women with a child. We are not looking for fathers for our children! They already have fathers. Some men feel that we need someone to take care of us and support us and the baby. This not true for some

I think it is important for a man who wants to date a women with a chld to understand what she want, if anthing and not jump to quick conclusion that we want fathers for our children and someone to take care of us. This is a ridulous misconception!!

True, not all single mums are like this - but the generalization is correct.

So if the generalization is correct, then why bother? if the majority are looking for a father - then why waste time and energy figuring out which this one is?

Not to sound harsh - by why take care of some other guy's baggage - because that what you will be doing - paying and taking care of someone else's problem.

She picked the loser for the father of her kid.... and now she's looking for a way out - someone to take care fo them both.

Just say no to single moms.

 

[Jus_LikeCandy]

That is Bull!! I am a single mom. 23 years old, my own house, car. I take care of myself and my son without a hand out for anything from anyone!!

If I become involved with a man, he is dating me, not my son.

 

[Lost In Translation]

lol

GO NewMan GO !!!

and in the words of PR_L

Quote: PuertoRican_Lover
“ Any young man who marries a woman who is a hor with the offspring of another is an utter fool!!!! “

 

[PVSSY-EATER]

Single mom or married mom or mom at all----this has nothing to do with humans coming out of her vagina! You got me!

You like you are very nervous around her....hmmmmm...I smell something...........AFC!!!

OH yeah, you did the don juan stuff, but are you a don juan? Imiatiion is suicide my friend! You must evolve into a don juan, and I am going to tell every new person this when they post. Too many times, AFCS, ask for don juan advice! Its like a cat asking a dog how to bark. Cats dont bark! AFCs, are not don juans. My question to you is, have you read my thread, The Truth: The End, read it, it will have you naturally become a don juan. Some say women with kids are trouble, any woman can be trouble. You become a don juan, you will have a lot of women to choose from, and you might not even have time for women with children, why?? Because you are too busy fvcking those without! But, you must evolve first kid. It wont take long, just do it, like Nike says, just do it.

 

[NewMan]

That is Bull!! I am a single mom. 23 years old, my own house, car. I take care of myself and my son without a hand out for anything from anyone!!

True, not all single mums are like this - but the generalization is correct.

I never said all. I said it was a correct generalization. You are one of the exceptions then.

If I become involved with a man, he is dating me, not my son.

Yes - for sure. But if I were dating you and wanted to go see a movie after work on Wednesday - or go out with you a some work colleagues to a local bar - could you come? or would you not be able to unless you could get a sitter?

Point is - your kid, will always come first (as it should be). So if I'm dating you - I know that your child will come before me. If we are in a resteraunt an you get a phone call - your taking it. Your phone will be on just in case.

We can only go away on weekends that your not taking care of your child.

There are limitations.

There is baggage.

So, taking all things into consideration - why "date" a single mom - when there are millions of available women who are not tied down?

 

[Jus_LikeCandy]

You points are valid, but it is not a hard task. It is not even a task. Everyone has there times when they are busy and can't go out. But, if you are a single mom, it is automatically assumed that the child is the cause.
Men have it all mixed up. We don't want your money or anything else. We like to have fun also.

This way, you men won't feel smothered, cause we won't have time to...lol.

 

[PVSSY-EATER]

Jus Like Candy, you are still here, I am about to go, I want you to do something...........

Start a thread..start a new thread.

And I want you to answer this question.........

How does a woman, herself, evolve into a don juan(independent woman)?
Then give me your definition of a don juan?
Then tell me, in your own words, the REAL problem with nice guys and AFCS.

I will reply to it later..............I want to see something.

 

[NewMan]

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Jus Like Candy, you are still here, I am about to go, I want you to do something...........

Start a thread..start a new thread.

And I want you to answer this question.........

How does a woman, herself, evolve into a don juan(independent woman)?
Then give me your definition of a don juan?
Then tell me, in your own words, the REAL problem with nice guys and AFCS.

I will reply to it later..............I want to see something.

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Oh, and while your at it, I'll take a Ham and Chesse sandwhich.

 

[JackPrescott]

Originally posted by Jus_LikeCandy
You points are valid, but it is not a hard task. It is not even a task. Everyone has there times when they are busy and can't go out. But, if you are a single mom, it is automatically assumed that the child is the cause.
Men have it all mixed up. We don't want your money or anything else. We like to have fun also.

This way, you men won't feel smothered, cause we won't have time to...lol.

Jus like Candy, am I right or wrong? IF you want the man, you will FIND time, if you do not, you will FIND excuses.

 

[FrankWank]

Peater?

Where was i nervous? Are u just coming to the conclusion and assuming? Like they say, people who assume look like an azz

Your making it sound like since your "assuming" that i want a LTR with her, which is not what i want, noted i said i just want to bang her. I said nothing about raising her kid or anything of that matter

Yes i offered her a date. An AFC will ask for a date. When you offer a women a date it says, that you have a busy schedule and your time is valuable, and that she should be happy to go out with you for a nite. An AFC will seek approval and come off as needy when asking for a date. Therefore offering means i have other options!

Does that make sense?

 

[Jus_LikeCandy]

If she is interested, she will find time. Some women just like to flirt, just to see what reaction they can get out of a man. Will he respond or not? She got you to respond and that may be all she wanted.

Maybe she can sense that all you want is a bang and she is not interested in that....