"Oh, I'm glad it wasn't me"

[Atom Smasher]

Yesterday I was on a job and was a little "shorter" than normal in my response to a female manager there because I had a bad case of food poisoning and felt like I had been kicked in the stomach.

I emailed her today about a different matter and in passing said if I sounded short it was because I had food poisoning.

Now, back in the day most women would have said, "Oh, you poor thing. Are you feeling better today?". I know you youngsters find that hard to believe, but it's true that most would respond that way.

But today what I got was, "Oh, I'm glad it wasn't me".

You see, whereas in the past this would have triggered the nurturing instinct, that has been replaced with the selfish "How does that affect me?" syndrome.

The female spirit has been crushed, but it can't die completely. Brainwashing can all but remove a person's (or gender's) natural inclinations, but it can't fully kill them.

That's why it is up to us to call women out on their selfish, entitled behavior and re-awaken that which is natural but currently dormant and buried within them.

Edit: I should mention that this girl likes me a lot. It's not like she's not invested.

 

[Desdinova]

Agreed. I think I only dated one woman who had that whole sympathetic / nurturing thing going on. Too bad she wasn't hot enough.

 

[VladPatton]

Damn, that's a bonafide twąt!

 

[Atom Smasher]

No, she definitely wasn't joking. I could see a little hurt and surprise in her eyes when I was short with her, because I usually give her a little attention and she likes that. She tends to run around and try to please me by helping me with computers, finding me a safety pin if I pop a button, stuff like that.

 

[Packers2010]

you think these *****es got respect?

hardly. we have created a generation of people who don't give a shoot.

and when i say don't give a shoot. i mean.. " i fill fooken stab you and do 20 years" i don't give a shoot.

most of us, stop and have self control not to go to jail and get in trouble. these guys don't really sickens me

 

[WalterSolcheck]

As my first post, I felt compelled to respond. You are dead on. I had a female manager also, to make a long story short, this ***** was receiving all the accolades, raises, boneses, as I was doing over 50 percent of the work out of a team of 6.
Well when it came time for my raise, I was told that I was capped out.
Well I responded my last day will be 2 weeks from now. She came back a few times inquiring if I had changed my mind, I said not unless they bring their checkbook.
After over 5 years of working for this broad, never missing a day of work, On my last day when it was time to leave, she never even turned her back to say good luck or Thank You.
That alone was enough for me to justify getting out of there..
Society has gone way overboard with this feminism crap and it has gone to all of their heads..

 

[btownbuck2012]

I hate my generation for this reason too. Just the overall, lazy, entitled attitude.

But, what AS has pointed out I've noticed a-lot more so in girls/women than boys/men. It's this "I've earned the right to be an arrogant little B!t ch" attitude. In general, guys will show you some sympathy. They'll "feel for you". But women, on the other hand can be very cruel and cold towards other people's feelings.

I'm not sure why this is, but my best guess would have to go back to how women act in an overly feminized environment. Again, they're like children who haven't been disciplined. How would you expect a 6 year old to act if he/she hadn't been put in check yet? The answer is: The exact same way a woman who is totally, 100% "feminized" would act.

They really don't know what they're doing. They're incapable of acting in the ways men do towards one another. BUT AGAIN, it's really not their fault. It's just how they act in this liberal, feminized country of ours. You always hear people throw around the analogy on this website of a dog being left alone in a room with a steak. You wouldn't be mad at the dog for eating the steak because that's what it does. So you can't be mad at women for acting like obnoxious, little self-entitled jerks in this feminized society of ours.

What YOU can do is stand up for yourself and call them on their bullSh!t. Unless of course it's work related like AS's example. In that situation I'm not sure what you'd do. But in your personal life stop assuming women are these confident, all knowing creatures. They're not. Even if they act like that don't buy it. Men built this world and if we have any chance of saving this country, then men are going to need to step up and start acting like men again (You know, instead of having the moderator stick up for you, defend yourself like a man..lol). It's not being a misogynist, it's just doing what is in your nature. Call women out on their bullSh!t. I beg of you.

F-ck.

 

[C-quenced]

Atom Smasher, I don't intend to over analyze the situation but I've noticed that the "How does that affect me?" responses would generally point to a female having little to no interest. The more a female is interested in a man the more likely she is to give a more nurturing response. In every last one of my LTR's I discovered that women slowly begin to withdraw their nurturing tendencies as their feelings for you begin to fade. Whether we like to accept it or not, the truth is women don't owe us any affection.

 

[btownbuck2012]

Atom Smasher, I don't intend to over analyze the situation but I've noticed that the "How does that affect me?" responses would generally point to a female having little to no interest. The more a female is interested in a man the more likely she is to give a more nurturing response. In every last one of my LTR's I discovered that women slowly begin to withdraw their nurturing tendencies as their feelings for you begin to fade. Whether we like to accept it or not, the truth is women don't owe us any affection.

I agree, BUT they do owe people in general a sense of respect. Especially at work. A "glad it didn't happen to me response" is ridiculously unprofessional. It's sophomoric and resembles that of a middle school kid's level of maturity. What I took away from AS's post is that this is more and more the norm in today's world. It goes back to what Brad said too. Women are getting their a$ses kissed by so many guys/people that it's only natural that they're going to act like this. I'm not sure what the solution is. I know what the solution is on a personal level, for myself. But on a massive scale, I'm not sure how this type of behavior will ever be corrected.

 

[C-quenced]

they do owe people in general a sense of respect. Especially at work. A "glad it didn't happen to me response" is ridiculously unprofessional. It's sophomoric and resembles that of a middle school kid's level of maturity.

Well that I can't disagree with.

What I took away from AS's post is that this is more and more the norm in today's world. It goes back to what Brad said too. Women are getting their a$ses kissed by so many guys/people that it's only natural that they're going to act like this. I'm not sure what the solution is. I know what the solution is on a personal level, for myself. But on a massive scale, I'm not sure how this type of behavior will ever be corrected.

It'll self correct itself as society further deteriorates to the point of no return and inevitably crumbles. There's just no other solution. Mind sharing your personal solution buddy?

 

[btownbuck2012]

Mind sharing your personal solution buddy?

My own solution is to call women out on their crap. I can't control society's erosion because of these liberal, feminist men/women. However, I can control the erosion in my own life from these people.

Too many guys allow irreparable damage to their lives because they think they need women to be happy. They think they need to have this lifestyle they've dreamed of for years and years play out in real life. Women get giant heads because of guys like this. I fully support the idea that you need to get laid. It's a healthy thing to have sex. But the extent to which a-lot of guys kiss women's asses is ridiculous. I mean think of how many guys have ruined their potential in life by getting some chick pregnant in high school or getting married in their 20's.

I'm NOT gonna be that guy. I respect and like myself too much to let any one woman walk over me because there's a chance I might get laid. I love the opposite sex for what they are. I have no delusions anymore about what they are not.

This is my own solution to the problem. If every single man in America adapted this mindset, in a few months women would be acting quite differently. However, the reality of the situation is very grim.

 

[Desdinova]

After over 5 years of working for this broad, never missing a day of work, On my last day when it was time to leave, she never even turned her back to say good luck or Thank You.

When it comes to women in higher positions in the workplace, you're best off to actually seduce them (but don't sleep with them) and you'll get much better treatment.

 

[Mike32ct]

I know what the OP is talking about.

I have a female coworker that I no longer mention any misfortune to. Her canned response is "Sucks to be you."

 

[Who Dares Win]

It doesnt need to be as ancient as atom to compare the changes, I remember even in the 90s it wasnt like that.

I remember young female teachers being concerned about the health of the kids, even thos middle aged ones.
Now its more like "why did he had to get hurt during my hour".

And well regarding women, guess you better look somewhere else if you are looking for nurturing and caring factors.

Good thing about it is that you dont have to pretend to not givng a fvck about them when you approach, in the end it comes a natural reaction to such state of things.

Anyway Atom you are spot on as usual and what you pretty much sums it up however it makes me feel kinda sad.

 

[Purefilth]

I know what the OP is talking about.

I have a female coworker that I no longer mention any misfortune to. Her canned response is "Sucks to be you."

Heh thats my canned response
either that, or "haahaa!"

 

[Brosy]

Eh? maybe this is because I'm English, but even my mum (an actual back in the day old person) would never say "Oh, you poor thing. Are you feeling better today?" to me!?

You sound like a girl who wants a cuddle!! How is she acting entitled??

...and Walter, your story is how the corporate machine works when you aren't effectively making your attributes and efforts visible to the next levels up, the sex of your boss appears to be completely irrelevant.

Don't get me wrong I have been enlightened to some great advice on this forum, but if a woman came here and stumbled across posts like this it's a f!*king embarrassment to us men. Now I'm starting to realise how their snotty condescending remarks like "man-flu" enter our culture.

 

[Sofomore]

I agree, BUT they do owe people in general a sense of respect. Especially at work. A "glad it didn't happen to me response" is ridiculously unprofessional. It's sophomoric and resembles that of a middle school kid's level of maturity. What I took away from AS's post is that this is more and more the norm in today's world. It goes back to what Brad said too. Women are getting their a$ses kissed by so many guys/people that it's only natural that they're going to act like this. I'm not sure what the solution is. I know what the solution is on a personal level, for myself. But on a massive scale, I'm not sure how this type of behavior will ever be corrected.

Hey I wouldn't say that sh!t!

In all honesty tho, she is just dumb. Sounds like AS was looking for some sympathy (hey, we all do when were sick) and all he got was a b!tchy response.

 

[Atom Smasher]

Atom Smasher, I don't intend to over analyze the situation but I've noticed that the "How does that affect me?" responses would generally point to a female having little to no interest. The more a female is interested in a man the more likely she is to give a more nurturing response. In every last one of my LTR's I discovered that women slowly begin to withdraw their nurturing tendencies as their feelings for you begin to fade. Whether we like to accept it or not, the truth is women don't owe us any affection.

Some of you guys aren't getting it.

She absolutely adores me. When I look at her you can almost see those little hearts flying out like in a Betty Boop cartoon. She's constantly finding reasons to stop by my office just to chit chat. She runs aaround trying to serve me in whatever way she can and I can see the pleasure she gets when I "approve" of her actions.

The reason she said "Oh, I'm glad it wasn't me" was that she was immensely relieved that I wasn't rejecting her. My point is that women used to put nurturing and service above "how does this affect me?"

They used to get satisfaction and fulfillment as a woman by nurturing. That has been eclipsed by "If I get rejected I will disintegrate as a person, because that is not allowed to happen to a woman anymore" in her mind.

Edit: I just read a few more responses. She's extremely intelligent which is why the The Great Smasher grants her audience and chit chats with her. I recently amped up the attraction by emailing her a couple of song clips that I recently recorded so now she's hooked. She's extremely direct and firm with her staff, and I know that if she weren't attracted to me she would blow me off coldly in a New York second.

 

[VladPatton]

I know what the OP is talking about.

I have a female coworker that I no longer mention any misfortune to. Her canned response is "Sucks to be you."

Mike, next time she says that immediately come in with:

"Nah, not really, I got a huge one and get way too many women to cheer me up!"