First post on this board, or any like it.
Huh.
I've read the Game and all that, and Style was right about one thing: In many ways, going to a community like this is an admission of failure, of some kind.
I hate failing at things. I hate it more than anything else in the world.
I am sixteen years old. I have never had a girlfriend. I've never been kissed, much less gotten any kind of advanced sexual actions. I've never even been on a date. Not once.
Now, I can't figure out the reason for my startling lack of success. I'm fairly handsome. I'm ridiculously intelligent, I really am hilarious, and I'm generally pretty confident in most things. I'm one of the more popular kids in my highschool. Most people know and like me, in a bunch of clubs and activities (don't like sports much, though), get invited to stuff, all that bull****. Until recently, I didn't go to parties because of a misguided sense of honesty and over-protective parents. Recently, they've lightened up so that's good.
And I have to admit, I'm irrationally scared of women. Really, I know it's stupid, I know there's no harm coming, but I am. This fear stems from ignorance- I don't know how to ask a girl out, what to do once I do, etcetra.
Saddest thing is this: I've read PU material for about four years now. It started from a strong interest in psychology I developed in 7th grade (that's how I found out about this). I know all the ****, all the techniques, etc. But the problems were threefold:
First, and most importantly, me. I have the aformentioned irrational fear, and low-self confidence in the area of women due to no success. I have a bad case of pancake ass. Partly, it's because I just enjoy the subject (it's really interesting).
Second, my lack of knowledge is so ridiculously basic that I have no ****ing idea how to get to the stage where I'm on some kind of date.
Third, most of the material isn't that applicable to highschool.
I've been into self-improvement for almost as long. Since 9th grade I've kept a binder with updated yearly, monthly, and weekly goals. It seems to have worked for all areas but women- I've grown a lot, personally.
I'm almost entirely happy with my life, but there's just this one nagging area that isn't working. And it's not like me to have let such a major thing go on for so long with so many opportunities to fix it.
I hate having to ask for help, but: please help.
So there. That's out.
I guess this post is kind of whiny and worthless and really tl;dr. If so, oh well. I guess it's stuff that's been pent up inside for a while, and I wanted to get it all down.
Hi. My name is Colton, and I'm terrible with women.
Huh.
I've read the Game and all that, and Style was right about one thing: In many ways, going to a community like this is an admission of failure, of some kind.
I hate failing at things. I hate it more than anything else in the world.
I am sixteen years old. I have never had a girlfriend. I've never been kissed, much less gotten any kind of advanced sexual actions. I've never even been on a date. Not once.
Now, I can't figure out the reason for my startling lack of success. I'm fairly handsome. I'm ridiculously intelligent, I really am hilarious, and I'm generally pretty confident in most things. I'm one of the more popular kids in my highschool. Most people know and like me, in a bunch of clubs and activities (don't like sports much, though), get invited to stuff, all that bull****. Until recently, I didn't go to parties because of a misguided sense of honesty and over-protective parents. Recently, they've lightened up so that's good.
And I have to admit, I'm irrationally scared of women. Really, I know it's stupid, I know there's no harm coming, but I am. This fear stems from ignorance- I don't know how to ask a girl out, what to do once I do, etcetra.
Saddest thing is this: I've read PU material for about four years now. It started from a strong interest in psychology I developed in 7th grade (that's how I found out about this). I know all the ****, all the techniques, etc. But the problems were threefold:
First, and most importantly, me. I have the aformentioned irrational fear, and low-self confidence in the area of women due to no success. I have a bad case of pancake ass. Partly, it's because I just enjoy the subject (it's really interesting).
Second, my lack of knowledge is so ridiculously basic that I have no ****ing idea how to get to the stage where I'm on some kind of date.
Third, most of the material isn't that applicable to highschool.
I've been into self-improvement for almost as long. Since 9th grade I've kept a binder with updated yearly, monthly, and weekly goals. It seems to have worked for all areas but women- I've grown a lot, personally.
I'm almost entirely happy with my life, but there's just this one nagging area that isn't working. And it's not like me to have let such a major thing go on for so long with so many opportunities to fix it.
I hate having to ask for help, but: please help.
So there. That's out.
I guess this post is kind of whiny and worthless and really tl;dr. If so, oh well. I guess it's stuff that's been pent up inside for a while, and I wanted to get it all down.
Hi. My name is Colton, and I'm terrible with women.
) and I'm very sociable and well liked. But I also have somewhat of a fear of women. I don't know why, and I don't know where it came from, but it's there. I have no trouble when I start talking to them, but it's initiating and getting the confidence to just talk to them that's the problem.
