*OFFICIAL* December 2011 Bootcamp - Week 2

[flint]

Lol so I just went out and had a convo with the girl at the coffee shop I met last week (the one I said that hit it off with me). I'm not counting it because she's not a complete stranger at this point.

I then talked to these two hot chicks at the booze store but I don't think it lasted at least 2 minutes, but I should knock this out when I go out tonight.


In any rate, c'mon guys step it up. I know some of you don't think you'll be able to complete this week, but just PLOUGH TONIGHT. Its sad that almost 20 people signed up for this, and by week 2 only two people look like they'll make it again.

Also, I noticed a lot of you guys are younger than me (going into college or in college). I want to pass on a piece of insight. You are in an environment SURROUNDED BY WOMEN. This should make this THAT MUCH EASIER for you. When you start working full time like me after college, not only do you have less time to go sarging, but the women don't just show up out of nowhere, you have to seek them out.

Step it up guys. Week 3 and 4 are the hardest weeks and I know I'll need some support as well!

 

[MrJibbles]

Ok so I've fallen behind a bit because of work... It's not really an excuse but whatever, I'm doing the exercises now. I didn't report last week for saying Hi to 50 strangers, so I've done the exercises this week for both Week 1 and 2. A few days ago, I walked to the grocery store to say Hi to about ten strangers. Some people are very receptive and will say Hi back, but I've noticed that most people will go out of their way to avoid eye contact and interacting with strangers. This is a little bit of a sad commentary on society, but I will keep my hopes high for next week.

As for the other 40 or so people, I work in retail so I approach tons of people every day. I am a TV/home theatre salesman, so I am forced to give customers lots of knowledge and information... I have been doing this for about a month now and find starting conversations with customers pretty easy now, like it's second nature.

With that considered, I have had well over ten conversations with strangers this week...

Week 3 will require me to step up my game A LOT though... I still have approach anxiety (aka. b*tch butterflies, in the words of Simple PickUp) with girls, especially pretty ones, so this should be a big jump out of my comfort zone.

 

[JonJaper]

I'm back in my family home area for Christmas holidays, so I'm out of London. Again, the difference is huge. People are a lot friendlier. I was out drinking with friends who unlike my friend in London, had a good mindset and wanted to approach girls. If you go out with dudes who are keen to approach, it definitely helps you as you can feed off the good vibes.

I spoke to loads of girls, definitely over 10 girls and some dudes as well, but as I said before, I'm not counting conversations with dudes as part of bootcamp work. Again, I am a massive escalation n00b, so I would open, do small talk... and because I don't know how to escalate properly it would fall apart LOL. The girl would end up getting bored saying "Anyway, I better get back to my friends, nice talking to you, bye!".


Then.... I remembered something I read in the Book of Pook. The fountain of youth article: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=39559

I really identified with the part about how we, as little boys, were much more confident, uninhibited and comfortable around girls. How we would dictate what games we would play with them and how they would submit, how we teased them, throw caterpillars at them etc and they came chasing us. As kids, we never thought "OK, what openers should I use on that little girl? How many negs should I throw in before I escalate to step A2 of the Mysterymethod? Let me wear a stupid hat for peacocking!" We never overcomplicated things by cramming our minds with too much analysis.

As a little boy I was very confident, loud, charming etc. I also had so much carefree fun.

It was one of the best times of my life.

As I grew up, all these rules, regulations and pressures in our society meant my inhibitions would also grow...growing up made me overanalyse, become overly serious and thinking too much about $hit that wasn't worth thinking about. Because of this overanalysing, when I was in conversation with the girls, I ended up thinking too much like "OMG what do I say now? How do I escalate? How can I move the topic of conversation from her job to something a bit more flirtatious? Is she giving me IOIs or not?"

Pook's fountain of youth article made me realise something. An AFC is made, not born.

Then... when I realised I have to drink from the fountain of youth, free my mind from overthinking AND have fun in a boyish way, I got better responses from girls.

For example, instead of thinking of an opener (opinion, situational etc) I spontaneously opened a set of 3 girls. I was at a table with my friends and we heard a smashing noise. We turned and saw a set of 3 girls and they accidentally knocked some glasses over. We slow clapped, laughed and (sarcastically) cheered them for doing that. I then walked up to the girls and was like "Haha, good job" and was playful like I was as a child and they responded well.

We got talking and introduced ourselves. The girls went out for a smoke and asked if my friends and I would join them. As we walked down, one of the girls was giving me heavy kino (grabbing my shoulders, resting her hands on my chest etc). We went outside and started talking (I got two of the girls to kiss each other on the lips because they were joking about being lesbians LOL), but I fell into the habit of overthinking and got into boring small talk (job, where they live etc). I'm kicking myself here, I mean, these girls are out on a Saturday night wanting to have fun and probably get away from their jobs, not talk about it, yet here I am asking questions about it lol.

I guess I'm not used to prolonged conversations with girls, so I don't know how to keep momentum or playfulness. And no wonder they rarely respond in a fun way to me, because the conversation is boring and about their jobs, where they live etc...it's not fun!

I really need to get in touch with my inner child again, free my mind, let go of all the bull$hit that is making me overanalyse and just HAVE FUN like I did as a kid.

I'm actually gonna watch old home videos of me as a young kid to get inspiration.



I definitely suggest others read Pook's Fountain of Youth...if you've read it already...REREAD IT AGAIN. I would also suggest to look at home videos of you as a child, old photos...ANYTHING to bring back memories and your inner child.

That little kid was probably more of a Don Juan than you are now. Learn from him.




PS flint are you gonna post week 3 of the bootcamp tomorrow?

 

[Alex DeLarge]

During week two, I conversed with several strangers. These were people in my apartment building, people on the subway, people at parties, people at bars, and so forth.

I initiated a conversation with a girl at a party 2 nights ago, pulled some kino, and got a number close. I probably could've even gotten a kiss-close out of her too if I wasn't in such a rush cause the public transportation in my city stops at a certain hour.

Thinking about hitting this said girl up tonight. I could tell she was super interested.

 

[flint]

Alright gents. Not only did I get my last convo but I chatted up with 4 hotties last night (not counting them for week 3 because it hasn't started yet, but now I'm feeling comfortable going into it). I'll give you guys the light summary of the conversations below.

Conversation 10:

I went to this bar that was attached to a bowling alley. As soon as I walked in I saw this stunning HB9 blonde by herself at the bar. I assumed she was with people but they left her to get their drinks. I led myself and my three guy friends to the bar right next to her, and keeping in mind the three second rule I opened immediately.

Flint: Hey, is that a bowling alley? (politely touched her shoulder to get her attention

HB9: Hahaha yeah it is (very friendly/receptive)

Flint: So do they expect me to get hammered and then play with bowling balls? That's a little dangerous no?

HB9: Hahaha yeah I wouldn't recommend it.

Flint: What are you drinking there?

HB9: Oh a *something* breeze, its really girly

Flint: What's in it?

HB9: *a bunch of different fruit, and some vodka, forgot details*

Flint: So you're basically drinking juice.

HB9: Laughs.


After that the conversation sort of died off. Later I ran into her in the other room and asked her why she had barely had a sip of it. Then I asked for a sip and she let me have a taste. She then ran off to her boyfriend who was grilling me haha.


Conversation 11:

After this my 3 buddies dared me to chat up this HB8 couger who was surrounded by three dudes. They offered me 20 bucks if I could get her number. I was really nervous because she was surrounded by 3 dudes, and she was in a booth so I couldn't even make it look like we casually bumped into each other, I had to actually go out of my way.

I went to the bathroom, and kind of winked at myself in the mirror to pump myself up for this one. I then went to the table and said "Excuse me, I'm not from around here do you know of any solid bars to go to?"

They recommended some place 10 minutes away but said they didn't want to give me directions because they would be sketchy since they weren't good at giving directions. I gently touched the Couger's shoulder while looking at the 3 dudes and said "So wait, are you guys saying you're sketchy? Are you going to lead me to get mugged or something?"

We then chatted a bit about where I was from. I lied and said I was from NY city and made up some bs story.


Convo 12

Later in the night I ordered a round of shots for my friends, something called 3 wisemen (part jim jack and john).

This HB8.5 black girl who was working at the bar sort of started to laugh after I ordered, so I started talking to her.

Flint: I'm sorry, is something funny? Do you think that I can't handle this drink?

HB8: Oh no, I think you've got this.

Flint: Well listen, I'm the DD tonight and I'm afraid I won't be able to drive aftern this. If I get too messed up can you drive me home? (smirk)

HB8: *laughing* Well I don't know where you live.

Flint: That's fine, I've got GPS. Actually you're a stranger, how do I know you're not going to try and kill me or something once you get to my house?

HB8: I'm not sure, I guess you'll have to just trust me.

Flint: Oh man I'm so sketched out now. I should stick to craigslist.


After that I started talking to my friends for a second and she basically had to fill some orders for the customers.


Convo 12:

After the HB8 left I saw this girl that was around these two guys. She looked like she was trying to bang the guy in front of her. I noticed her glasses had a neat design so I just interupted their conversation.

Flint: Hey, those glasses are cool.

HB trying to bang out: Oh really? Thank you I just bought them, they're the first I ever bought for myself.

Flint: Oh really? Has this guy bought all of your previous glasses? (trying to figure out if they were dating or something)

Hb bangout: No haha.

Flint: Well they're really chill, the design looks like stary night or something.

HB bangarang: Yeah that's why I bought them.



Anyways guys, glad some of you made it through this week with me. I'll post week three in a few minutes. Keep it up guys!

 

[Leopold]

Ok... here's me reporting my attempts. I have to say Im very satisfied with my results this week. I DO NOT hesitate to smile,look,approach and talk to girls anymore. Also Im not even discouraged whatsoever when i get rejected. ITs actually QUITE FUN LOL

I have got to say... that Pook's advises of being the "GREAT CATCH" has changed my mindset COMPLETELY. Also BIG props to this article...
http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum6/HTML/000507.html

Im definitively not trying to qualify myself to get girls to like me. Instead... im giving them motives that THEY should prove themselves to ME instead.

I probably had WAY lots of more convo with strangers but i only count on girls. I have noticed that my attitude with girls have changed to this egotistic semi jerk but im having fun and it seem girls like it as well

I talked with many girls so far.. Im just gonna post the convos I enjoyed the most.

Approach 1:
I was working at retail and was talking to one of the regulars when suddenly I got interrupted by this HB5-6 that wanted to ask a question. I said bye to the regular customer and started teasing her about being rude for interrupting my convo. I did it like twice and she was playing along with it...

HB5: "sorry again I interrupted XD"
Leo: "Yah hun you better be! dont do it again "
*I started teasing her for not being able to locate a price sign on front of her face, I made sure i was very close to her ( I always do get close on girls at some point in the initial convo)*
*HB5 starts sniffing on me*
HB5: "You smell really good, what's your cologne?"
Leo: "Im not telling you, its a secret "
*I start leaving to resume what i was doing and she comes following me*
HB5: "awww come on!!" *gets really close to me and starts sniffing like crazy*
Leo: *awkward joking face* WHAT ARE YOU DOING!!!?? you think im some scratch and sniff magazine page?
HB5: *giggles* "Is it... blah blah blah?" (trying to guess)
Leo: "Nope not even close, guess you are not finding it out today... .
HB5: LOL "...is it blah blah blah?? (keeps guessing)
Leo: Listen... I'm busy and need to keep working, Whats your name?
HB5: "Its HB5"
Leo: "and mines???"
HB5: *looks at name tag* "Leo!!"
Leo" "Good smart girl; We should go out sometime and I'll tell your the name of the cologne other time"
HB5: *giggles* "OHHH but.. i have a boyfriend"
Leo: *puzzled face* "OHHH and i have two goldfish!! Listen hun, I really dont care if you have a bf or not"
HB5: *more giggles* "but he's on the next aisle"
Leo: "OHHH but I didnt asked where he was?!! * I dont care look on face and shrugs* Its not like i want to meet him"
*other customer comes for aid and starts interrupting*
Leo: "Allright hun... whatever.. see you around " and i left her with a big smile while she smiled back at me.

I made a HUGE mistake of saying stuff like.. "we SHOULD go out and exchange phones and whatnots..." I must always take the lead and say "GIVE" instead of... "is it ok?" Last time I made that mistake in my life

What do you guys think? Do you agree or not? How would you have handled it?

I'll post other encounters in another moments.. so stay tuned

 

[AlexLefty]

I made a HUGE mistake of saying stuff like.. "we SHOULD go out and exchange phones and whatnots..." I must always take the lead and say "GIVE" instead of... "is it ok?" Last time I made that mistake in my life

What do you guys think? Do you agree or not? How would you have handled it?

I'll post other encounters in another moments.. so stay tuned

Not a big deal. The rest of it was pretty much flawless, especially if you were getting good kino in.

You could replace should with 'lets'/'we will' or if your trying to lead her somewhere just grab her hand and lead while you say 'lets go [...]' etc.

 

[AlexLefty]

Ok so I'm not done with week 2 yet!!!

I got my 8th convo in on saturday with some scary looking gangster black guy, i started out by commenting on his ink.

Anyways, my excuse is that I was supposed to be home by midnight on saturday. However, my friend had the house to himself so I went over there and we invited 2 girls over. The girls showed way late and I didn't get home until 3, so my dad was pissed. Thus, I am grounded. The rest of this is going to be hard since I am practically homebound! It was kind of worth it and kind of not because I ended up having sex with the girl, but at the same time I'm grounded. :/

My only saving grace is that he'll let me go out and volunteer, and I can get my last 2 convos in there.

Wish me luck guys.