FR/PR: Daily Practice
The PR I have is called a Practice Report. Practice means that I'm not going out specifically to meet women, I just test out the openers when I'm at
work, school, etc. Of course, at work I am limited a bit, since I don't want to get accused of sexual harrassment. As Gunwitch (I think) pointed out
to me, you can't get good at driving if you drive one day a week. You have to drive every day, at least a little bit. The same with women. So, I've
bceome nearly obsessive about where and how I can approach women - the answer is everywhere and the how's are on this board and others.
Here goes...
-Part 1: Getting the "Look"
I initiate eye contact with a girl I knew from Miami-Dade Community College. I used to always see her in the gym. We recognize each other, but I
do the whole scrutinize her with my eyes thing, and squint. This gets a smile, so I decide to lock this look onto my face when I'm around women.
-Part 2: I pop my approach "cherry"
I hover around this one HB, waiting around for everyone else to leave, because I am terrified of people overhearing me. Then I remember Sharks
words - "Are you afraid people will know that you **** chicks?" I finally grab my sack, and due to some realizations on my part last night
(mentioned at the end of this FR/PR, as well as the previous encouragement from other forum members, I approach her.
"Hey! (She turns around) I need a female opinion on something. Who cheats more, guys or girls?"
I follow up with:
"Have you ever cheated on a boyfriend?" (She wanted to but didn't)
"Has a guy ever cheated on you?" (No, not that she knows of)
"Not to be too graphic here, but you know a **** is shaped the way it is to pull out other guy's sperm... and some sperm are meant to kill other
sperm?" (LOL Maybe that was pushing it, but **** it, she didn't seem to mind)
We get into a brief conversation, and I notice as I become more comfortable with her, the less attractive she becomes to me (or the less power her
attractiveness has over me). Weird. After a while, she has to go to the cafe to study, and I say, alright well thanks.
YAY! I count this as my first actual approach.
-Part 3: Confidence affects my automatic behavior
My ego is boosted and I am slightly more confident because I had the balls to approach a girl. Thus, when I'm ringing up a woman at the cashiers,
the following takes place.
She is a B, not a HB. I look at her eyes, and without intending to "approach" her, I say:
"Wow, are those your real eyes?"
"Yes."
"They're beautiful." (I said this slowly, and looking straight into her eyes. I wasn't even TRYING to do that. It came about naturally as a result of a
confidence boost from my first approach. Normally I would have said something more neutral, like "yeah they're kind of nice")
"Thank you."- She leaves.
-Part 4: Hesistation and it's results
I see this girl I want to approach, but I am waiting for her to get out of line. I end up assisting her in looking for a book. Then I bust the opener, but
it wasn't really "opening" her. We get into a brief conversation, but it stalls when the details get a little deeper (how she cheated on her bf, and he
cheated on her) and I don't want to run the risk of offending someone while on the job - otherwise I would have tried to find out her whole life story.
I need to come up with some neutral topics to prolong the conversation, yet keep her interested in the conversation and enjoying herself, any
ideas?
-Part 5: Sticking to my guns
I nearly make an excuse to not approach this one cute little skater chick, and there are people like 5 feet away from her, checking out other
books. I am afraid they might hear me. BUT, I man up, and open her, maybe talking a little too fast, and say "Hey, I need a female opinion. Who
cheats more, guys or girls?" She replies "Um... no hablo ingles" Then, in halting English she says "Maybe I understand if you speak slow." I repeat
the question and she says "Guys." I feel a little discouraged because I don't want to try so hard to open if she can barely understand me. So I say
thanks, and leave. I walk away and then think, maybe this could be a learning experience, so I turn around and go up to her and say "Okay,
why?" She shrugs, and doesn't answer. I am done with this one. I say thanks and leave.
-Part 6: Discovery of a good compliment
Later on, my boss, who is sexy as hell, and we always have C&F banter, accuses me of slacking. I say "You're the funniest woman I've ever met."
And she says "Thank you! No one's ever said that to me before." I think it had a good effect, and that type of compliment I can use on any woman
(when the time is right) and they will feel great.
-Part 7: Cute story/joke to tell girls.
"Girls pee in the beach. You can tell because they are all tightly wound up as they're walking into the water, and as soon as they get in, they get
this relaxed look on their face and they sigh - this is when they pee." My cousin told me this, although in a funnier way, with body language and
gestures, and when I told this to some co-workers they busted out laughing and said, it's so true! I think this is a good one for young chicks in the
18-25 age range. Older might get offended by it.
So, my score is: 2 approaches. I need about at least 23 more, or however many it takes for me to be comfortable approaching anywhere. I need to
find a wider array of openers, though.
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What drove me to do this:
I looked back on the time of when I was a freshman in high school. I saw the drumline and was like oh wow, they are good, I don't think I'll ever be
able to drum THAT fast. I got put playing the xylophones, which was a cool experience, but I was downtrodden a lot whenever I used to see the
drumline play, while I was stuck playing the geeky ass xylophone. I practiced that year like a maniac. If I had to write with my right hand, I'd
practice my left hand. If I took a ****, I would take a practice pad and drumsticks and practice. I'd practice while watching TV. During classes I
would practice. During lunch I would practice. While waiting for a ride I'd practice. I'd even practice AFTER practice. It was my obsession. When I
could, I got some of the other drummers to work with me. Sometimes I just went to watch them play and tried to learn by ear. I went to websites
and learned some exercises, and practiced some more. I loved it. By my sophomore year, I was really good at drumming. I made the drumline that
year, and everyone was like wow, and happy for me. After I became a bad-ass, I had the option to do Drum Corps for Boston Crusaders - not the
best, but a very good drumline. Drum Corps is like a professional marching band, and even the worst players there blow away really good players. I
even started teaching drumming for a while. Here's where this is relevant.
I parallel this to becoming a PUA/DJ. I beceme great at things when I get obsessed and commit myself to it. So instead of my previous scientific
approach of going to a club, or a county away once a weekend, I am trying to do it every chance I get. If I'm not on the field, I'll be theorizing. Of
course, I have to balance this with college courses, too, but damn this is a much better approach. Okay, so instead of studying like I'm supposed to
now, I'll do like I did in high school and look for some more openers.
This is ****ing great.
-Nocturnal (fastseduction.com)
-AresX (sosuave.com)
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