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Very good DJ Tip of the Day today regarding the movie "Office Space." Here's an excerpt:
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You've probably seen the movie Office Space. If you haven't, you
should. Did you see the scene where the guy asked the waitress
(played by Jennifer Aniston) out to lunch? This is an EXCELLENT
example to learn from. Go watch that scene and see why it is a good
example. If you can't tell why, watch it until you can.
Basically, the guy asks the waitress what she's doing for lunch. She
mistakenly thinks he's asking about lunch specials, points to a sign
and walks away. Does this stop the guy? No. He calmly walks over to
her and lets her know that he was asking what SHE was doing for lunch.
Then comes the really good part. After she says she doesn't think
she's supposed to just walk out and go to lunch with some guy, our
hero is still unflustered. He says he's going next door and he's
going to get a table. If she shows up, fine. If not...that's fine
too.
What did this communicate? He communicated that 1) He was confident
and relaxed. He didn't get rattled at all during the entire exchange.
2) Lunch wasn't a big deal. Whether she showed up or not he was going
to go have lunch and enjoy himself.
Did he want her to show up? Sure. But her presence wasn't going to
make or break him. It wasn't that big of a deal to him. His having a
good time was NOT dependent on whether the woman was there or not. He
avoided appearing needy or desperate.
Too often guys make a big deal out of things and appear needy. When
you ask a woman out, do it in such a way that suggests you were going
to go regardless of whether she came along, but she's welcome to if
she so choose.
Things like "I'm going to my favorite restaurant Friday and if you
want to come along you're welcome to" says something a lot different
(and a lot less desperate) than "Can I take you to dinner Friday
night?"
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Granted you can't always ask out women like this -- like everything on the DJ board, use some of it but not all of the time -- sometimes you need to lock down a date, time, location, etc. But this is a very good way of doing things.
I asked out a gal here if she wanted to go to this resort town on a Saturday and shoot winter pictures with me (I like photography). She wanted to go but had a conference to go to. She said she'd love to go in the future. I went anyway. Bottom line, it shows that nothing rattles you and that you have a life whether the woman comes along to the party or not! She will indeed go with me in the future.
Another great movie, "Bull Durham." Susan Sarandon is lecturing Costner and Robbins on the "ground rules" and how she gets to pick who to date.
Costner gets up and walks out saying, "After 10 years in the minors, I don't try out."
All of the sudden she's interested!
Fellow DJ's: Do what YOU want to do in life with or without a woman. It's much more enjoyable that way.
**********
You've probably seen the movie Office Space. If you haven't, you
should. Did you see the scene where the guy asked the waitress
(played by Jennifer Aniston) out to lunch? This is an EXCELLENT
example to learn from. Go watch that scene and see why it is a good
example. If you can't tell why, watch it until you can.
Basically, the guy asks the waitress what she's doing for lunch. She
mistakenly thinks he's asking about lunch specials, points to a sign
and walks away. Does this stop the guy? No. He calmly walks over to
her and lets her know that he was asking what SHE was doing for lunch.
Then comes the really good part. After she says she doesn't think
she's supposed to just walk out and go to lunch with some guy, our
hero is still unflustered. He says he's going next door and he's
going to get a table. If she shows up, fine. If not...that's fine
too.
What did this communicate? He communicated that 1) He was confident
and relaxed. He didn't get rattled at all during the entire exchange.
2) Lunch wasn't a big deal. Whether she showed up or not he was going
to go have lunch and enjoy himself.
Did he want her to show up? Sure. But her presence wasn't going to
make or break him. It wasn't that big of a deal to him. His having a
good time was NOT dependent on whether the woman was there or not. He
avoided appearing needy or desperate.
Too often guys make a big deal out of things and appear needy. When
you ask a woman out, do it in such a way that suggests you were going
to go regardless of whether she came along, but she's welcome to if
she so choose.
Things like "I'm going to my favorite restaurant Friday and if you
want to come along you're welcome to" says something a lot different
(and a lot less desperate) than "Can I take you to dinner Friday
night?"
*******************************
Granted you can't always ask out women like this -- like everything on the DJ board, use some of it but not all of the time -- sometimes you need to lock down a date, time, location, etc. But this is a very good way of doing things.
I asked out a gal here if she wanted to go to this resort town on a Saturday and shoot winter pictures with me (I like photography). She wanted to go but had a conference to go to. She said she'd love to go in the future. I went anyway. Bottom line, it shows that nothing rattles you and that you have a life whether the woman comes along to the party or not! She will indeed go with me in the future.
Another great movie, "Bull Durham." Susan Sarandon is lecturing Costner and Robbins on the "ground rules" and how she gets to pick who to date.
Costner gets up and walks out saying, "After 10 years in the minors, I don't try out."
All of the sudden she's interested!
Fellow DJ's: Do what YOU want to do in life with or without a woman. It's much more enjoyable that way.
