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There is this chick who I am having sex with on a constant basis.

Let me get to the point. I like her. She likes me. We get along great. however, for reasons that I won't get into, mainly her just getting out of a marriage, it's just sex.

She had been living with her Ex out of convenience for the last month even though they were technically seperated, but she got fed up with him one night and called me and asked could she stay for a couple of days. I said I could use the company so I told her to come over.

This happened last sunday. I knew off the top of my head that she was going to be over my house for around 2 weeks, simply because she had to get the money to get her own place. Plus i am not seeing anyone to the point where they could get offened that I have a women over my house.

So everything is fine, calls me 10 times a day (even when she lived with her ex), goes out of her way to dot hings for me, gives me sex literarly whenever i want it, so I am doing pretty good.

last thursday, I was on the phone with my best friend, who happends to be a girl... a pretty attractive girl.
This whole time, the girl at my house was sleep, and I was trying to wake her up so we could have sex, but she had just gotten off of work and was tired, so I went in the other room to watch tv and talk on the phone.

Me and my friend then start talking and I tell her i am going to "steal" her from her house (her parents that she still lives with are extremely strict, you had to be listening to the conversation). 10 seconds later, the girl at my house, stroms out of my bed room in tears putting on her clothes.

I tell my friend I would call her back, to see what was wrong and she says "I always knew you wanted to **** her" and ' you won't use me for to get with her" (which wans't the case by anymeans). She is giving me this look while she was crying that was soo adorable.

So I tell her to sit down and we can talk like adults (I am 21, she is 24). She pushes me away, so I tell her to get out and to come back when she grows up and can talk like an adult.

She comes back later that night and apologizes, and tells me she overreacted, which she did.

I didn't get any friday night, because I let one of her friends, (who was smokin hot by the way) spend the night after we all went out drinking that night.

I didn't get any saturday because i had too much to drink when i wasn't looking at the bar, had to carry her home and put her in bed myself.

Sunday she was still recovering but later that night we had a nice session.

Okay, here is the odd part. She works at a bar, she is a waitress (goes to school in the day time). So I get home at around 3: 30 from work, and she is getting dressed to leave. She tells me she will be home around 10:30.

She calls me around 3 times from work to see how i am doing, and still says she is coming home around 10:30.

Okay, now it's 11:00, and I get a call from her saying she is going to have drinks with a friend and wont' be home until around 2:00.

I was caught off guard, but i handled it pretty smoothly. I told her to be careful (seriously) and to have fun, and I went to sleep, thinking she would wake me up when she got home

I woke up at 4:35 in the mornign by myself and she wasn't there. to be honest I wasn't as h urt as I was worried about her saftey, i mean, she did just drink herself into a blackout 2 nights before. So i call her, and she doesn't pickup. Then I thought it for a second, and I knew exactly what she was doing, as do you.

So I go back to sleep, and she walks in my house at 6:30 in the morning, and brings me breakfast. I asked her "so, was it good". She said "what?" I said "the sex silly, dont' act like I don't know where you have been".

I told her that I don't have a problem with her doign whatever she wants to do... we don't date, we just have sex, and she happends to be staying with me for a couple of days, but what I do have a problem with is that she can't get mad at me looking at other women or talking to someone else, and then turn around and have sex with someone else. she then offered to leave my house, I told her that wasn't necessary, and it wasn't. I mean, I have no problem with just ****ing, but my problem lies in when she acts like she wants it to be more.

We had a nice conversation and she admited that she really likes me, but is scared to get into another relationship at this time, which i can understand

I know I caught her off guard because i wasn't really mad as i was irrated that I was up worring about her well being, and the fact that she says one thing and does another.

In my honest opinion, she was trying to see how much control she has over me by ****ing someone else.

So after the convo I gave her a backrup and turned her over and we had the best sex we ever had to date.

Tonight, to reenforce that we are just having sex, I am going over a friends house to spend time with her, and I'll be the one comign home a little later than normal.
 

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Hell yeah man tap that asssssssssss... sounds like you got yourself a nice little fukk buddy. but it also sounds like you got feelings for this girl, or i could be wrong. anyway

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Plan on getting this chick out of your place as soon as humanly possible.

My guess is that she's going to milk your place for as long as possible.

Milk you to.

Your getting fvcked reguarly - and I know that great - but just don't let this get out of hand. Remember you want ot be hitting other poon to - and a b#tch in your house prevents that happening.

Oh - and make sure you wear a rubber always.
 

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Also.. if she likes you, lives with you, and doesnt like you associating with other girls.... sounds to me, she has the potential to FLIP out and become a STALKER.. be careful..
 

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God Damn, I hate reading long posts. I just read peoples comments so I'll guess what's going on.

You seem very emotional over this fbuddy, it's obvious she wants more than that and perceives this relationship to be an actual one. You better talk to her straight before continuning anything. And she seems to have some obsession/stalkish behavior on you.
 

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Get her out.........

A major mistake in letting her move in with you. You may think that you are in control but you are not. She's pulling you into her web before she devours you. It is just a matter of time. Beware!
 

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Yeah, I would NOT take a woman in and start supporting her.

As long as she's there, expect to be tested regularly. She KNOWS she got to you a little bit by staying out all night...don't let her get to you TOO much or she WILL start closing the trap.
 

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Originally posted by DJ_Dork
God Damn, I hate reading long posts. I just read peoples comments so I'll guess what's going on.

You seem very emotional over this fbuddy, it's obvious she wants more than that and perceives this relationship to be an actual one. You better talk to her straight before continuning anything. And she seems to have some obsession/stalkish behavior on you.
don't if thats not blatantly saying "i don't know whats happening but i'll post anyway to raise my count" i don't know what is..

how about if u don't know whats going on, don't post. cause chances are, you won't help.

backbraker.. i'm with an earlier poster.. watch this one, sounds like she could milk you for some free rent..

but i live with my olds, i don't really know enough about that type of situation..

i'd be getting rid of her after 2 weeks.. or getting some $$ from her.
 

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To her detriment, I think she showed that she's not ever relationship material, not that you were worried about it.

She may like you and have wanted something more, but if it were me in your position, her actions would just have confirmed that nothing significant will happen in the future.
 

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a fbuddy that after a period of time wants more than just sex??? HOLY SH1T that IS odd.

I mean, about as odd as the sun rising.

It would be an odd situation if your fbuddy DIDNT want a relationship, as it would show you that you're not good in bed, and not a good person to be around.

So take it as a compliment, get her out of your house, and get other women.
 

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As far as her milking me, my rent's paid for the year, so that's the least of my concerns.

She really doesn't have any family (foster child growing up) and I let her move in for a copule weeks not becuase I wanted to **** her constantly, but because she seriously needed a place to stay and I didn't mind helping out.

All I told her to do is to put a certain amount of her tips back from work every night, which she does. She will have her own place soon enough.


Plus I like it when my house is spotless when I get home from work and there is a naked woman laying in bed :_)
 

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Originally posted by JasonR
a fbuddy that after a period of time wants more than just sex??? HOLY SH1T that IS odd.

I mean, about as odd as the sun rising.

It would be an odd situation if your fbuddy DIDNT want a relationship, as it would show you that you're not good in bed, and not a good person to be around.

So take it as a compliment, get her out of your house, and get other women.
The odd thing wasn't the relationship silly, it was the point where she didn't want me ****ing other women but went out and had sex with someone else.

Anyway, I got home from work yesterday and we went at it for around 3 hours before she had to go to work.

I then called up a friend and went and hung out over her house from like 7-11 and ended up having sex with her.

I went home and got in bed, and the girl living with me woke me up at around 2am when she got off work. She climed in bed and we started to have sex. She asked me in a joking manner did I go and have sex with anyone while she was gone and I told her actually I did. She was acting mad but I told her to shut up and give me a BJ... which she did. I told her she can't get mad at me for doing the same thing she did.

Because of the whole situtation and I guess she wanted to prove that she was better than the girl I had sex with (which she is), we had anal sex for the first time together (not bad if the girl can handle it).
 

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backbreaker,

I don't want to burst your little sex-orgy bubble, but your playing with fire, dude....Never trust a woman's ability to just be a f-buddy.
Seabreeze;)
 

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???

That had to be the most pointless statement I have ever seen.

That's what I want... at least for now anyways.
 

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An Australian Street Pimp's Perspective :

Quote - backbreaker
The odd thing wasn't the relationship silly, it was the point where she didn't want me f***ing other women but went out and had sex with someone else.

WARNING WARNING ! DANGER WILL ROBINSON DANGER !

Quote - backbreaker
I didn't get any saturday because i had too much to drink when i wasn't looking at the bar, had to carry her home and put her in bed myself.

patron saint of drunken wh0res :D

Quote - backbreaker
I guess she wanted to prove that she was better than the girl I had sex with (which she is), we had anal sex for the first time together

i don't want to even consider what she does with the other guys she picks up at the bar she works at.

as we say here in Australia " up the bum no babies "

Quote - backbreaker
We had a nice conversation and she admited that she really likes me

after she gets home at 6:30am

after having unprotected sex with another man

she admits she likes you ?

do you like going second ?

do you like slops ?


ok lets break that down shall we


you want her for sex. she knows you are available for sex.

but she likes you SOOOOOO much she goes and has sex with someone else.

*TAKE A MOMENT TO DIGEST THAT LAST BIT*

bro it sounds like you have a certain type of woman on your hands

WH0RE / NYMP HO

that blow job she gave you did you wear a condom ?

where else has her mouth been ?

Quote - backbreaker
I didn't get any friday night, because I let one of her friends stay over

what the hell sort of reason is that for not having sex with a chick in your own house ????

sounds like you are getting scammed into accepting HER TERMS for this contract. I thought she knew the GO and had signed on the dotted line for your contract of : she stays at your house = she is your HO

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She is giving me this look while she was crying that was soo adorable.

lol dude you need to remember the childhood nursery rhyme

NEVER SMILE AT A CROCODILE

personally i would have kicked the sneaky b*tch out for eavesdropping on a personal call.

she is so upset. she makes up her mind.... ahah she says !

i will go out and have unprotected sex with another man !

and so she does.

DO NOT BE FOOLED INTO A FALSE SENSE OF SECURITY WITH WOMEN !

JUST BECAUSE SHE IS CUTE / SWEET so far

I ASSURE YOU THAT IN AN INSTANT SHE CAN UNLEASH A WAVE OF FURY THAT CAN RIVAL ANY DEMON IN HELL !

the old saying is true :

" hell hath no fury like a woman's wrath "



In Conclusion :

As long as you realise that you cannot make a HO a housewife

she is an STD waiting to happen

she doesn't have ANY real feelings for you otherwise she wouldn't be going elsewhere for a booty calls.

why go out for burgers when you have got steak at home ?

you sound like you know enough of the game. just be honest with yourself and admit she is the mad HO

get rid of her before she comes up with a better way to pay you back than sleeping with another man

a woman like this is dangerous TRUST ME


i wish you all the best with your pimpin'

stay safe ! :D


Lost In Translation

**AUSTRALIAN STREET PIMP**

Quote: PuertoRican_Lover
“First off - she is just another hor who has opened her legs to another man - you are no one special - and there are no "Greatest" to hors - you are just the next pimp in line!!! “

Quote: PuertoRican_Lover
“ the 'pimp' mentality works today because you are living in a time such that there are an overabundance if hors - this is the Pimps playground!! Pimps and hors go together like bread and butter - they are complementary natures!!! Pimps need hors like hors need pimps!! “
 

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Hey Backbreaker,

It may be all you want, but it's the rare woman who would sleep with a man every night under the pretext of it just being a f-buddy relationship. I'd say she's already turning it into something more in her mind and possibly yours. Remember, she was married and she's used to sleeping with a man, doing the wifely things, etc. I just don't think it's going to be that easy for you to get out of this situation when you're ready to. Either you're going to hurt her really bad and she'll turn slightly borderline psycho on you, or she'll turn you into an AFC. As a woman, I'm suspicious of her motives...

Just be careful. Nothing is THAT easy in life.
Seabreeze ;)
 

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Re: An Australian Street Pimp's Perspective :

Originally posted by Lost In Translation
Quote - backbreaker
The odd thing wasn't the relationship silly, it was the point where she didn't want me f***ing other women but went out and had sex with someone else.

WARNING WARNING ! DANGER WILL ROBINSON DANGER !

Quote - backbreaker
I didn't get any saturday because i had too much to drink when i wasn't looking at the bar, had to carry her home and put her in bed myself.

patron saint of drunken wh0res :D

Quote - backbreaker
I guess she wanted to prove that she was better than the girl I had sex with (which she is), we had anal sex for the first time together

i don't want to even consider what she does with the other guys she picks up at the bar she works at.

as we say here in Australia " up the bum no babies "

Quote - backbreaker
We had a nice conversation and she admited that she really likes me

after she gets home at 6:30am

after having unprotected sex with another man

she admits she likes you ?

do you like going second ?

do you like slops ?


ok lets break that down shall we


you want her for sex. she knows you are available for sex.

but she likes you SOOOOOO much she goes and has sex with someone else.

*TAKE A MOMENT TO DIGEST THAT LAST BIT*

bro it sounds like you have a certain type of woman on your hands

WH0RE / NYMP HO

that blow job she gave you did you wear a condom ?

where else has her mouth been ?

Quote - backbreaker
I didn't get any friday night, because I let one of her friends stay over

what the hell sort of reason is that for not having sex with a chick in your own house ????

sounds like you are getting scammed into accepting HER TERMS for this contract. I thought she knew the GO and had signed on the dotted line for your contract of : she stays at your house = she is your HO

Quote - backbreaker
She is giving me this look while she was crying that was soo adorable.

lol dude you need to remember the childhood nursery rhyme

NEVER SMILE AT A CROCODILE

personally i would have kicked the sneaky b*tch out for eavesdropping on a personal call.

she is so upset. she makes up her mind.... ahah she says !

i will go out and have unprotected sex with another man !

and so she does.

DO NOT BE FOOLED INTO A FALSE SENSE OF SECURITY WITH WOMEN !

JUST BECAUSE SHE IS CUTE / SWEET so far

I ASSURE YOU THAT IN AN INSTANT SHE CAN UNLEASH A WAVE OF FURY THAT CAN RIVAL ANY DEMON IN HELL !

the old saying is true :

" hell hath no fury like a woman's wrath "



In Conclusion :

As long as you realise that you cannot make a HO a housewife

she is an STD waiting to happen

she doesn't have ANY real feelings for you otherwise she wouldn't be going elsewhere for a booty calls.

why go out for burgers when you have got steak at home ?

you sound like you know enough of the game. just be honest with yourself and admit she is the mad HO

get rid of her before she comes up with a better way to pay you back than sleeping with another man

a woman like this is dangerous TRUST ME


i wish you all the best with your pimpin'

stay safe ! :D


Lost In Translation

**AUSTRALIAN STREET PIMP**

Quote: PuertoRican_Lover
“First off - she is just another hor who has opened her legs to another man - you are no one special - and there are no "Greatest" to hors - you are just the next pimp in line!!! “

Quote: PuertoRican_Lover
“ the 'pimp' mentality works today because you are living in a time such that there are an overabundance if hors - this is the Pimps playground!! Pimps and hors go together like bread and butter - they are complementary natures!!! Pimps need hors like hors need pimps!! “

First of all, the guy she had sex with that nigth was her Ex BF from before she was married.

I date enough women to know a slut when I see one... she isn't a slut, just likes sex.

And I always wear a condom, not even because of that, but becuase I have sex wtih other people as well. It's only right.


About her being a drunken *****, it turns out she didn't have to much to drink, but something was in one of her drinks that she had. She hadn't drunk more than she normally drinks, and when we got ready to leave the club she looked perfctully fine, but then she just lieteary fell to the floor.

About me not hvaing sex with her because her friend was in the house, my bedroom is right next door to the living room, where her friend was staying. We make alot of noise when we have sex. that's very disresectful to a guest to make them listen to you having sex all night long.


I would really, really hate to see the way you act with women.

At the end of the day, even if she was usign me, which I can assure you she isn't, at the end of the day a) I can have sex wtih her whever I want and b) I still have sex with other women and c) If I ever needed anything, as in money or just someone to run to the store at 1am in the morning, she would do it without thinking twice.

The night she came home at 6:30am she handed me her key and started packing her clothes without saying anything. By the time I actually woke up, she was almost out the door. I had to stop her and tell her that she didn't have to go anywhere. She was under the assumption that I thought we were in a relationship and that I would be hurt, which I wasn't so much as I was worried about her saftey.

In other words, you guys keep telling me what I am doing wrong, how this girl is using me, but I haven't ever given her a dime of my money, she pays for EVERYTHING when we go out, even drinks, if I walk into her bar and order food I rarely have to pay for anything, she keeps my house spotless, washes my clothes, I get to have sex with her whenever and wherever I want, and there are 2 other girls that I have see on a semi constant basis and one girl just call up strictly just to have sex... b ut yet I am the one who gets used and don't know what I am doing.
 
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