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It would appear then, that a goal in finding the newly defined soul-mate, is to locate a woman who "gets it" and is also qualifying -us- in return. Since what we are talking about here is a conscious CHOICE, then the perhaps the best choice would be one where both sides are working in tandem, approaching the selection process from a similar mindset.Victory Unlimited said:You MUST qualify her.
Channel your excited feelings into positive thoughts and behaviors. You will attract women by being enthusiastic, radiating energy, and becoming someone who is fun to be around.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
Yo Special Agent Thirdtimescharm,thirdtimescharm said:It would appear then, that a goal in finding the newly defined soul-mate, is to locate a woman who "gets it" and is also qualifying -us- in return. Since what we are talking about here is a conscious CHOICE, then the perhaps the best choice would be one where both sides are working in tandem, approaching the selection process from a similar mindset.
This ONE sentence that you have written right here shines a huge light on one of the MAJOR reasons why there exists such a divide between the two sexes. No one side is fully to blame. We all share in it somewhat. But what I'm speaking of is the LACK of recognition, the LACK of appreciation, and the LACK of willingness that exists between men and women to fully explore the WHOLE of the potentially "good attributes" we each can share with the other.There are plenty of people on SS who are only interested in fvcking women and don't realise the other benefits.
At this point you probably have a woman (or multiple women) chasing you around, calling you all the time, wanting to be with you. So let's talk about how to KEEP a woman interested in you once you have her. This is BIG! There is nothing worse than getting dumped by a woman that you really, really like.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
And this:Victory Unlimited said:Masks of cynicism CANNOT provide enough cover to camofluage the mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual DAMAGE that's been done to many of us who post here. No need for anyone to raise their hands, men. We all know who we are...
These two things mix together in the same man and create a huge problem. You see, when you are one of the "walking wounded" one of your problems is that you won't always know what is "realistic" to expect from women.Be careful though, to not let the death of your "realistic" relationship HOPES and DREAMS be by your OWN hand (your overly negative attitudes, limiting beliefs, melancholy mental focuses, etc.).
All of these dilemmas are readily resolvable when a man has defined clear and immutable criteria for his relationships with woman.Luthor Rex said:You see, when you are one of the "walking wounded" one of your problems is that you won't always know what is "realistic" to expect from women.
When you're one of the 'walking wounded' you may start to ask yourself questions like:
Is it realistic to expect a woman to never cheat?
Is it realistic for any LTR to last more than a few years?
Is it realistic to have to be constantly on my guard against the woman I'm dating?
Is it realistic to be able to let my vulnerabilities show every once in a while?
I'm sure the list could go on.
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What do you want?Luxius said:I never considered a woman as a masturbation tool, never ..
I happen to agree with this, however, by this definition then, does not commitment make you a 'slave' by default? If by the circumstances of a commitment you cannot, figuratively, say "no" to the that (or due to that) commitment, are you not then a slave?Victory Unlimited said:"ANYTHING that you can't say NO to, is your MASTER. And YOU are it's SLAVE." - Victory Unlimited
Yes, and therein is the rub...what needs to be understood is that many times "committment" is made and signed off when the emotional appeal of a course of action is at it's highest. Then feelings commonly wane, and desire and passion are often diluted due to changed circumstances.Rollo Tomassi said:I
It's my take that commitment 'should' be a function of genuine desire. Ideally, commitment should be to something one is so passionate about that the limiting of one's own future opportunities that come from that commitment is an equitable trade. This is unfortunately rarely the case for most people in any form of commitment because people, circumstance, opportunity and conditions are always in flux. A commitment that had been seen as equitable sacrifice at one time can become debilitating 5 years after depending upon circumstance.
Men frequently err by talking too much. They often monopolize conversations, droning on and on about topics that bore women to tears. They think they're impressing the women when, in reality, they're depressing the women.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.