Objective: Are you in a Neverending Battle?

Victory Unlimited

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Yo Troops!


Since enlisting into the this man's army, known on the internet as SoSuave,
I have found something very disturbing about some of the people who are already serving.

It seems like not many of you are interested in the war, you're just interested in the battle.

What I mean is:

The climate here seems to be more favorable to commending a guy on how many chicks he's managed to bang rather than commending a guy on bagging a chick worth banging til' death do they part. In fact, I usually see guys get almost FLAMED for bring the subject of LTR/ marriage up in the first place.

What the heck is the name of this site---- FASTseduction.com???? I get confused sometims. LOL

Anyway, I understand the need to learn the seduction skills needed to bag the women you want. But is that YOUR ultimate goal? Do you think beyond the battle? Do you want to win the war???

I'm a little older than some here, I'm in the mature man category. So I understand the desire that you young recruits have to just keep dropping SEX BOMBS all over the place, but for the older guys (and some of you young guys too), when does it end?


Two Questions:

1.How many of you guys actually want an LTR/marriage, and why?

2.And how many of you guys are just satisified with enjoying the NEVERENDING BATTLE (sexing multiple women), and why?



Speak up MEN!
 

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i'm interested in both. it will take a really great woman to make me switch from 2 to 1, though.
 

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On the road of self-discovery I want 1, but on the way to 1 I want to experience 2.
 

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Nice questions there sir.

The point of this site in my experience is to help a man be the best man he can be, regardless of whether his supreme desire is 1 or 2. One of the things in being the ultimate 'man', is to realize that you cannot be a man without having freedom, and you cannot truly be free without being and acting as a man.

I value intimate relationships. The kind where there is love. With that comes hate and dissapointment, frustration, anxiety and worrying. This doesn't even mean it's a LTR or marriage, just that it is intimate to the extent that emotions spanning the entire rainbow are at play.

I enjoy the pleasures of physical interaction just like the next guy, and I further enjoy relationships where I can experience all of the emotions. That means opening oneself up and being more vulnerable and sensitive to the person(s) we are with.

These types of relationships if held with multiple partners often lead to us being labled womenizers because of the deep affection shown to us by women and our apparent lack of willingness to settle down with a single one. This is just societys pressure and ideals pinning us to the floor and telling us what we should and should not do. So yes, it can be viewed as a battle, but it is a battle as much with oneself as it is with society and its norms.

Being satisfied for me means knowing that I am being the man I choose to be each day. That when I get blown off course, getting back on track becomes less difficult each time until the point where being blown off course is a barely noticable event and easily corrected.
 

Peace and Quiet

If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.

Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.

This will quickly drive all women away from you.

And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.

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Well everyone has different goals.

For some people, all they want is to get laid all the time with no strings attached or with very little strings attached. This seems to represent a large part of the site, and any seduction site, especially since the release of the book "The Game" brought a whole new wave of horny people into this community.

For other people, like me, the goal is relationships. You do have to be careful though. I dated around a lot before I settled into the relationship I have now. Its important to pick the girl you are going to be in a relationship with from a place of having choice and experience, than from "I must have her" perspective.

After having dated around for well over a year without any real commitments or formal relationships I finally found a girl who I wanted a relationship with and was able to get her, and now she is very into me and we are both happy. But I picked to be a relationship with her because she was right for me not because she was the first girl that wanted me as her boyfriend, because having dated around a lot I was able to learn what I liked and didn't like, so when my gf came around I knew this is what I wanted.

A lot of guys though make this mistake. They don't date around first, they don't know what's out there, and they get attached quickly to attractive girls who, despite their looks, are not good for them. I would strongly recommend everyone to just date around for a while all types of different girls. Just spend time with different people and get to know people so you know what's out there and you know you can get whoever you want.

That way your decision to get in a relationship will be coming from the right place. You won't be getting into a relationship because you're desperate, but because you choose to. Trust me, this distinction makes a big difference.

Overall though there is no right or wrong pursuit. If you want to pursue a lot of different, new girls that's fine, and if you want a single girlfriend eventually that's great too.

The real conflict comes in though is when guys who are seeking one thing are giving advice to those who are seeking something else. Example: when guys who are looking for relationships are told to move on and ditch girls by guys who are looking for different @$$ every night.

So keep that in mind whenever giving or getting advice. Try to see the other person's point of view and consider their goals when giving advice, and when recieving look around at that poster's other posts to see where he fits in.
 

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Scoring with many chicks, that's what you do when you're young. But anyone passing up on a good serious relationship because he wants to bang more women has to be real stupid. An immature man. A toddler, in fact, who has never grown up. When you do grow up, you realize you should marry and have children. "Oh no, how can you be so judgmental, everybody has different goals...." Fantastic, how far men have fallen in the West these days. No wonder our birth rates are dwindling until there will be none of us left. That's what too much luxury does to you; you lose all sense of that maybe there's something more important than your own precious pleasure. Maybe a good hard depression would make some of these immature kids wake up.

Don't get me wrong; I enjoy banging women as much as the next guy, and have done my fair share. I have also been in long-term relationships, and hope to find a woman I can spend the rest of my life with. And if you're only thinking of your own selfish desires - believe me, you won't have much fun being an unmarried forty-something without children. You'll feel empty, and think yourself an idiot for not arranging something better, and an idiot is exactly what you'll be.

Harsh words for a dumbed-down society....
 

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Friendly Otter said:
Scoring with many chicks, that's what you do when you're young. But anyone passing up on a good serious relationship because he wants to bang more women has to be real stupid. An immature man. A toddler, in fact, who has never grown up. When you do grow up, you realize you should marry and have children. "Oh no, how can you be so judgmental, everybody has different goals...." Fantastic, how far men have fallen in the West these days. No wonder our birth rates are dwindling until there will be none of us left. That's what too much luxury does to you; you lose all sense of that maybe there's something more important than your own precious pleasure. Maybe a good hard depression would make some of these immature kids wake up.

Don't get me wrong; I enjoy banging women as much as the next guy, and have done my fair share. I have also been in long-term relationships, and hope to find a woman I can spend the rest of my life with. And if you're only thinking of your own selfish desires - believe me, you won't have much fun being an unmarried forty-something without children. You'll feel empty, and think yourself an idiot for not arranging something better, and an idiot is exactly what you'll be.

Harsh words for a dumbed-down society....
I think you're wrong about people needing to marry when they grow up. Marriage is a society-bred contract agreement that for some simply just doesn't make sense. Having children, sure. Getting married? No.
 

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Victory Unlimited said:
1.How many of you guys actually want an LTR/marriage, and why?
2.And how many of you guys are just satisified with enjoying the NEVERENDING BATTLE (sexing multiple women), and why?
I have spent most of my time in the past few years involved in LTRs. During my last LTR I was banging loads of other girls because I think deep down, I wanted to be single.

I am single now, and have about 4/5 fvck buddies. This is what I WANT at this stage.

I think it is very important for guys to get the whole "shagging loads of different women" thing out of their system BEFORE marriage.

Once you get married, that is it! You have to accept that you will only be with one woman for the rest of your life. You have to understand that you stand to lose SOOOO much if you d1ck around!

So for now, I am keeping my options open and IF the right woman comes along and absolutely knocks me off my feet.....

HELL YEH! i'm gonna hold on to her, marry her and spend the rest of my life with her.
 
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