Now, this crap really sucks

[jophil28]

I have a GF that I haven't had sex with in about 2 weeks, I just don't feel it right now. I mean man I am OUT of it. She's georgous but this **** is really effecting me, and all i am getting is "man how did you not see that". now do you see why I am getting fustrated? Becuase I am having some real life consequences behind this that are not getting addressed.

3 pages of " you suck dude, how did you not know she liked you" is not making me sleep better at night.

You did deserve some sympathy and compassion for what that psycho did to you BUT not having sex with a HB G/f is seriously taking this all too far. What are you thinking ?
Get a grip man. Better still, get your G,f to get a 'grip' on you.
He he !

 

[backbreaker]

you are missing the point lol, it's not that I am choosing not to have sex with my GF, it's just not there. My horn toad level is like way down. poor baby, she went and bought some languerie a couple of nights ago and she put it on thick too.. It's just not there. I might need to go see a doctor. She's understanding but still, even a catcus needs water from time to time.

 

[Mr.Positive]

Backbreaker, I guess I'm missing something here...but why is this situation affecting you so much?

1) You did nothing wrong.
2) This crazy woman showed her true colors, you should be thankful for finding this out.

The past is the past, you can't change it. People come and go through our lives constantly...that's life. What's done is done now.

It's living in the present that's important, and knowing that the future holds good things because it's our actions and energy now, that holds the course for the future.

IE...don't beat yourself up. Forget this happened and let it all go.

In a few days this will all be old news...focus your energy now on positive things...and don't let this crazy woman have so much power over your life.

 

[backbreaker]

it's like she thinks I wanted to rape her or something like that, whatever, i'm scared to do anything now. it shoudln't get to me like that but it is. let me rephrase, not scared to do anything but the motivation just isn't there. she has sucked the fun out of sex for me, at least for now.

 

[Mr.Positive]

it's like she thinks I wanted to rape her or something like that, whatever, i'm scared to do anything now. it shoudln't get to me like that but it is. let me rephrase, not scared to do anything but the motivation just isn't there. she has sucked the fun out of sex for me, at least for now.

Well, sorry to hear this Backbreaker. The important thing is that you know you had good intentions..

Look on the bright side, that whole mess is done now. I'd personally try and keep busy, and keep your mind off of it. The longer you sit and stew over what happened, the more you delay getting your old self back.

You've got to find your strength here.

Maybe a change of scenery would be a good idea? Like a couple day weekend getaway with your GF.

 

[sodbuster]

When you have a chance to calm down and realize that you can trust your girlfriend[because of your history],you'll be OK. Just realize that your GF was trying to help the best she knows how to,talk to her. this can put you in a funk for a month or so[your **** isn't on auto-pilot like it was when you were 16]. Just be glad you have her,how would you like to be out trying to hook up right now?
You can't be responsible for what someone else thinks[forget psycho B],When an unattractive woman wanted you to be the father of her children and do the whole "whitepicket fence thing",do you feel guilty for saying no? Don't beat yourself up with her whole rape idea.You aren't responsible for either thought, we've all just had more experience with ugly.

 

[backbreaker]

that change of senery thing isn't a bad idea at all. we haven't gotten away since we had the baby...humm.. you might be on to something.

 

[Tazman]

Give it some time, don't force it. You know how guys need that release, it will come when your ready and the best part is that because you haven't done it in a while, when do you get down to business it should be even more enjoyable.

 

[backbreaker]

well we talked about the whole change of senery thing and she got excited about going on a vacation, so we are going to where I USED to live, Sarasota, FL this coming week for a couple of days, maybe a week, she's always wanted to go to Florida and has never been, and we can swing by LR and I can drop the baby off with my mom.

I'll keep you guys posted and let you know when I get laid

 

[potato]

Backbreaker, you seem to have posted here out of a bid for sympathy. Reading through all of this you never really say what it is that the woman called the police for – other than some vagueness about you rejecting her, about her being crazy. There is also this underlying NA/recovering addict issue that would not even be an issue if it truly was just this women being crazy.

Then in your posts starting in #10 and especially in post #31 you start getting mad even bullying type mad. By post #45 you are saying, “it's like she thinks I wanted to rape her or something like that.” In all that you’ve written I can see where you could have come off as being threatening to a woman.

I’m not buying into your crack-cocaine was a powerful drug bit either. Over the years, as a recreational drug user, I’ve tried many different types of drugs, including crack cocaine, yet have never become addicted to anything. People become addicted not because the drug itself is addicting but rather that one prefers the fog of intoxication over the reality of their own life.

AA and NA have proven to be ineffective precisely because they just ask you to trade one unreality (the fog of intoxication) for another (some imagined higher power). The problem with people in AA and NA is that they end up with a twisted sense of what is and isn’t.

For instance you wrote, “I'm a pretty smart guy” when you writing reveals a very different story. In the same paragraph first you wrote, “…someone before implied that I was a a piece of **** person, when i'm not.” Then finished it with, “The drug in itself did not make me a peice of ****.” Well what is it? Are you or are you not. I’m not even going to get into overall poor writing skills and over use of ****.

So now you have an erectile dysfunctional problem that is now whose fault? This woman you’ve been complaining about, who you never had designs for, who you never touched. How exactly does she do it? Or is it that you’re not that well balanced, not that healthy, not that recovered.

So what is your solution to all your problems? A change of scenery? Aren’t you just blaming others for your problems then running away from them?

 

[ketostix]

Backbreaker, you seem to have posted here out of a bid for sympathy. Reading through all of this you never really say what it is that the woman called the police for – other than some vagueness about you rejecting her, about her being crazy. There is also this underlying NA/recovering addict issue that would not even be an issue if it truly was just this women being crazy.

Then in your posts starting in #10 and especially in post #31 you start getting mad even bullying type mad. By post #45 you are saying, “it's like she thinks I wanted to rape her or something like that.” In all that you’ve written I can see where you could have come off as being threatening to a woman.

I’m not buying into your crack-cocaine was a powerful drug bit either. Over the years, as a recreational drug user, I’ve tried many different types of drugs, including crack cocaine, yet have never become addicted to anything. People become addicted not because the drug itself is addicting but rather that one prefers the fog of intoxication over the reality of their own life.

AA and NA have proven to be ineffective precisely because they just ask you to trade one unreality (the fog of intoxication) for another (some imagined higher power). The problem with people in AA and NA is that they end up with a twisted sense of what is and isn’t.

For instance you wrote, “I'm a pretty smart guy” when you writing reveals a very different story. In the same paragraph first you wrote, “…someone before implied that I was a a piece of **** person, when i'm not.” Then finished it with, “The drug in itself did not make me a peice of ****.” Well what is it? Are you or are you not. I’m not even going to get into overall poor writing skills and over use of ****.

So now you have an erectile dysfunctional problem that is now whose fault? This woman you’ve been complaining about, who you never had designs for, who you never touched. How exactly does she do it? Or is it that you’re not that well balanced, not that healthy, not that recovered.

So what is your solution to all your problems? A change of scenery? Aren’t you just blaming others for your problems then running away from them?

^^I swear only a cooky, feminist chick could think up a post like that. Potato, just finally admit you are a feminist, old woman and I won't have a problem with you.

 

[jafyk]

Dang after seeing the blows some people here dealt backbreaker if I had a serious problem I wouldn't bring it here to share. And Potato you had some grammatical error yourself. See paragraph 5, line one of your post. The word is "your" not "you"
As for you Mr.Backbreaker, I'm sorry about your ordeal. Things happen but how we react is our choiced don't dwell on the problem. I'm sure all these people here trying to act like they can see every problem creeping up have all had things happened to them unexpectedly. Some people are actually serving time for crimes they didn't commit you're not in that situation so be glad and find things to do to take your mind of things.

 

[potato]

And Potato you had some grammatical error yourself. See paragraph 5, line one of your post. The word is "your" not "you"

In a writing class I might have lost a couple of points over that little oversight. Backbreaker would have failed and most likely be unaware as to what he did wrong.

 

[jafyk]

Lol, you're right but the point is not his writing skills. Just because someone is not grammatically effective doesn't necessarily mean they are not smart. I consider myself intelligent but I'm no Einstein and I'm sure in some aspect of life I may come across as dumb. I don't think calling myself intelligent is bragging either.

 

[jophil28]

AA and NA have proven to be ineffective precisely because they just ask you to trade one unreality (the fog of intoxication) for another (some imagined higher power). The problem with people in AA and NA is that they end up with a twisted sense of what is and isn’t.

You have sprouted some wacko stuff in most of your posts , Spud, and I think that most of us have not bothered to set you straight because your beliefs are too feminine in scope and quality, however the above quote from you is your most ignorant and ill-informed.
The AA program has been the ONLY effective agency to bring recovery to chronic problem drinkers. The 12 Step program has succeeded where therapists, psychologists ,doctors, ministers and counselors have failed miserably.

I have seen the evidence and the last time I looked in the mid 1990's, over three million sufferers had quit since 1935..

Are you sure that you are on the correct forum or even the correct medication ?

 

[Mr.Positive]

Backbreaker, you seem to have posted here out of a bid for sympathy. Reading through all of this you never really say what it is that the woman called the police for – other than some vagueness about you rejecting her, about her being crazy. There is also this underlying NA/recovering addict issue that would not even be an issue if it truly was just this women being crazy.

Then in your posts starting in #10 and especially in post #31 you start getting mad even bullying type mad. By post #45 you are saying, “it's like she thinks I wanted to rape her or something like that.” In all that you’ve written I can see where you could have come off as being threatening to a woman.

I’m not buying into your crack-cocaine was a powerful drug bit either. Over the years, as a recreational drug user, I’ve tried many different types of drugs, including crack cocaine, yet have never become addicted to anything. People become addicted not because the drug itself is addicting but rather that one prefers the fog of intoxication over the reality of their own life.

AA and NA have proven to be ineffective precisely because they just ask you to trade one unreality (the fog of intoxication) for another (some imagined higher power). The problem with people in AA and NA is that they end up with a twisted sense of what is and isn’t.

For instance you wrote, “I'm a pretty smart guy” when you writing reveals a very different story. In the same paragraph first you wrote, “…someone before implied that I was a a piece of **** person, when i'm not.” Then finished it with, “The drug in itself did not make me a peice of ****.” Well what is it? Are you or are you not. I’m not even going to get into overall poor writing skills and over use of ****.

So now you have an erectile dysfunctional problem that is now whose fault? This woman you’ve been complaining about, who you never had designs for, who you never touched. How exactly does she do it? Or is it that you’re not that well balanced, not that healthy, not that recovered.

So what is your solution to all your problems? A change of scenery? Aren’t you just blaming others for your problems then running away from them?

Alright...I rarely do this, but this whole post is complete bull****. Potato, grow back into the ground you came from..

because your advise, your analysis, makes absolutely no sense at all.

It's just too much to try and tackle in a few words...and I haven't got the time. I just hope anyone reading this knows this is a bad post.

 

[potato]

You have sprouted some wacko stuff in most of your posts , Spud, and I think that most of us have not bothered to set you straight because your beliefs are too feminine in scope and quality,

Ah, such are the opinions of those unaccustomed to the life experiences of a babe magnet.

…however the above quote from you is your most ignorant and ill-informed.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Effectiveness_of_Alcoholics_Anonymous
http://www.orange-papers.org/orange-effectiveness.html

The AA program has been the ONLY effective agency to bring recovery to chronic problem drinkers. The 12 Step program has succeeded where therapists, psychologists ,doctors, ministers and counselors have failed miserably.

I have seen the evidence and the last time I looked in the mid 1990's, over three million sufferers had quit since 1935.

Compare this to the 60 million who had not quit drinking after going through AA.

 

[ketostix]

The point is potato you are a feminist old woman. What you basically said, and you've said this before like all cooky feminist do, that no matter what a woman does she isn't accountable and the man is in the wrong. And you're a big liar and a troll trying to push your feminist agenda and antagonize here. I doubt anyone puts any creedence into anything you say, and I don't know why you're allowed to continue to post here. I guess for the amusement and shock value. I don't find cooky feminist amusing myself.

 

[Desdinova]

The woman either had a goal to 'steal' you away from your gf, or she just had a very fvcked up perception of your friendship with her.

I believe most of us will probably experience a woman like this at least once in our lives. Thank god women like this are a minority as opposed to being the norm.

Don't worry to much about this woman, Backbreaker. She's just a bit fuct in the head. I hope to hell that you plan on cutting contact with her, because this type of behavior will only get worse over time.

 

[Desdinova]

And let's please try to get the thread back on topic. The thread isn't about Potato's post attacking Backbreaker, it's about Backbreaker's experience with some psycho.