Not the best prom...

[JerryFl08]

Bear with me guys i havn't been on here for awhile and this is somewhat of a long post, but i need some advice...

Recently i've been talking with this girl for awhile, i asked her to prom an she agreed to go, she aint from my school..okay now this girl is like a virgin on alllll aspects,, she's never had a bf, never kissed, never anything!! from what i had heard she dumped a diff guy that asked her to his prom..it was pretty obvious she liked me and from the start i knew i was definately gonna go for a kiss close and possibly even further when i dropped her off..

Now to explain how my prom went:

i was going with her, i'll call her M and my friend was going with her friend, we'll call her A
My friend and i were waiting for them at his house.. when they came i took M out to go and eat.. We were having a good time laughing talking about past stuff that we had done, and making fun of our waiter cuz he was pretty dum..After that we went around cruising, and she was picking songs on my ipod to play on the radio.. Still laughing an what not, we got all caught up that i ended up a couple cities away..

My friend called said they were gonna go to prom already so we decided to head back as well.. It was all good we took pictures, and her since she's extremly shy if i havnt mentioned before, didnt want to do one dance, she kept saying she was going to get embarrassed and that she didnt know how.. i told her idk how either but i at least want to do once dance,, i kept trying to convince her and began trying to sweet talk her but she never budged, i was actually getting kinda annoyed and i was almost forcing her to get up but she never did,, she said she felt bad and it nearly looked like she was going to cry..it got to the point where prom ended, and you could tell i was upset :/..when we were walking out i told her to hold my hand and we did, then we took some pictures outside..

After that we walked to my car and i told her to hold my hand again but she said, "no, i feel bad". At this point i was like ahhh crap i messed up, she probably just wants to be friends now fck...i introduced her to my parents dunno if that was a good idea but it's cuz i had to go home an pick something up since we were going to a friends lil party. After we all ended up going to my friends with a couple of other people there..We were there for awhile, nothing really happened i showed her aroun his house since it was brand new..

Then A's sister called her and said she needed to be home already and that she would pick her up at M's house..So i decided i would take them home.. M didnt look all that happy when i was taking her home as she was sitting on the front seat with me. When i got there i wanted to kiss M but her friend was just right behind us and as soon as i parked both of them just said byeeee...

The next day i txted M saying "hey i know i was kinda upset about the whole dance thing, but i don't want you feeling bad about it"...Now again idk if that was such a good idea, sounds reall wussyish...We continued txtin throughout the day but it was like realllly gay,, one word replies, she sempt so uniniterested but idk if she was just trying to make me feel bad or if she really did just become uninterested.. i didnt talk with her at all today, as i figure i should just leave her alone about the whole thing..

Soo..What do you all think,, did she just friend me just like that or you all think she still feels attracted to me, and what do you all think i should do about this situation..please help unfortunately i got my emotions all mixed up right now,, sometimes i'll say i just won't talk to her anymore and other times i'm like ahhhh i want to talk with her!,, i just unfortunately don't know what to do...Please help..

NOTE: her nickname for me was "jerry the jerk" which i thought was super cute, when we were in my car she played that Your A Jerk song, and she said look its your theme song!,,she's super adorable,,i'll post a pic of her

http://i137.photobucket.com/albums/q238/primojerry/2010-05-01223144.jpg

 

[BananaSmile]

nice pic
that green dress girl cracked me up

btw if she said no to dancing and u werent happy you shouldve let her know (throught actions) like leave the table without her say ur going to the toilet and dont come bk for a while

btw why is your prom so bright? maybe she was shy because of that

 

[JerryFl08]

Idk why it was super bright, and yea it would have been smart to just walk away..but I don't really want to next her as I'm sure people who have read this are probably saying that in their minds.. I understand that she's a super shy girl an going to prom was probably a big step for her.. btw she's a junior I'm a senior...do you all think I should just talk to her about it with her.. I would like to point out to her that she's scared, because she dosnt wanta dance she's never had a bf, she's not really enjoying life that she's just living inside of a shell and letting time pass by...and if she tells me she just wants to be friends welll then idk, there's not really much I can do about it, but its cuz I wanta be persistant with her reather than just dropping her right off the back...wut you all think?

 

[eaglez1177]

Well one part you definitely screwed up in was telling her to hold your hand. That just seems so needy to me. Like if you want to hold a girls hand, you just do it, it doesnt require a "hold my hand" or "can i hold your hand" or anything that requires any sort of "ok i'll hold your hand" reaction from the girl (even tho she might not actually say that, its whats going thru her mind). If your gonna hold a girls hand, just do it, theres no need to say anything.

And the reason why she said "no, i feel bad" is because she felt like she didnt really deserve to hold your hand on account that she didnt dance with you the entire night cuz she felt embarassed.

And yes, it was a bad move texting her the next day admitting how you were upset about the whole dance fiasco. It just shows that her actions got to you.

So let me get this straight. This girl is:

1. EXTREMELY shy.
2. Shy and insecure so much so that she didnt even have the freakin guts to dance with you
3. A really sh*tty prom date
4. Shes letting her insecurity and shyness get to her so much to the point where shes acting immature and uninterested (im referring to the texting the next day).

This chick is not worth your time whatsoever. You're WAYY better off finding a chick who is more outgoing and fun to be with. I was kind of in a situation you were in at a nearby school's prom last year, where the girl was just being really fvckin gay and didnt wanna dance, felt embarassed, etc, and you know what I did? I said to myself, "wow. fvck this buzzkill. If this chick doesnt wanna have fun, then im gonna have fun without her". I danced with a cuban girl the entire night and we wound up hooking up a little bit later right in front of my prom date. Actually kinda strange cuz it wasnt even my prom, like the girl invited me, so i was expecting to have fun with her, but i guess not lol.

 

[JerryFl08]

i know dude, but ahhhh i can't help it, i want to hook up with this girl.. This girl is fun when i'm talking with her, it just so happens not in dancing.. i'm guessing dancing is like realllly her downfall idk..My problem right now is that i actually DO want a relationship, i actually like this girl, and i think that only shows that i'm human,, but fck man honestly, i'd hate to say it but i think i'm whooped, fml....she' texted me right now saying "como estubo tu examenn haha" i took spanish ap test today... i said "mucho terribleeee" she said "porque" i said "the guy on the cd talked wayyy to fast" she said "ohhh suckss" i just said "yep"... wellll that was gay, i thought she woulda said something more interestiing.. yea idk my emotions are just on one hell of a rollercoaster right now..i know if i just next her, i'm always going to be wondering if something could of happened..i think i actually need to hear her say "i jus wanta be friends" before i can just drop the whole thing.....THOUGHTS???

 

[BongDuy]

just do exactly what you just said. don't hold back, try to make dates, show her you're interested in her, and make a move. do what it takes so that in a few years, you won't think " What if..." You won't regret it. Just don't do something crazy like try to rape her.

 

[eaglez1177]

i know dude, but ahhhh i can't help it, i want to hook up with this girl.. This girl is fun when i'm talking with her, it just so happens not in dancing.. i'm guessing dancing is like realllly her downfall idk..My problem right now is that i actually DO want a relationship, i actually like this girl, and i think that only shows that i'm human,, but fck man honestly, i'd hate to say it but i think i'm whooped, fml....she' texted me right now saying "como estubo tu examenn haha" i took spanish ap test today... i said "mucho terribleeee" she said "porque" i said "the guy on the cd talked wayyy to fast" she said "ohhh suckss" i just said "yep"... wellll that was gay, i thought she woulda said something more interestiing.. yea idk my emotions are just on one hell of a rollercoaster right now..i know if i just next her, i'm always going to be wondering if something could of happened..i think i actually need to hear her say "i jus wanta be friends" before i can just drop the whole thing.....THOUGHTS???

See its the fact that you're getting soo hung up over this girl which kinda worries me. The feelings that you're experiencing now can easily lead to a one-itis. I mean from what it sounds like, it seems to me like your going crazy over this chick and are just really attached to her.

I mean theres nothing wrong in at least trying, but just be careful with your feelings. A man always has to protect his heart (hopefully you understand what i mean by that lol).

And if this girl is so shy, then how can you expect her to muster up the courage to LJBF you if she knows you're def interested? She may have already LJBF'd you in her head, but just doesnt have the guts to tell you. Bottom line is that you cant judge her based off what she says, if her actions telegraph that you've been friendzoned, then just move on.

 

[JerryFl08]

welll guys.. i talked about it with her,, i got friend zoned, she says "anyways why with me? i'm not even that cool haha and theres not much special about me i dont have any hidden talents or anything...its just right now i have other stuff to focus on in my own little world in my opinion my love life can wait for a while longer"... she said she just had a crush on me, but never really had strong feelings for me..so yea that's that oh well,, and yes eaglezz i was getting one-itis :/ that's probably what ruined it badly..can't really do much now i'll just leave her alone i guess...next!?

 

[Mr.Freestyler19]

next her and find lots of other girls man.....NEVER FOCUS ON ONE GIRL....only if she has shown u tht she wants to b with u

 

[BananaSmile]

DJ are supposed to have fun
what i ment walk away i ment like what eaglez did have fun
but what you did was went out of your way to accomodate her needs (not dance)

when you go our of your way you shows weakness
when you texted her you saying you angry(seems like an apology) what do you have to apologise for? i didnt get it, you did nothing wrong it was her fault. (read your title)

You really like this girl (WTF)
even after she wrecked your prom!??!

to like a girl she has to prove to you she is worthy

and next!? wtf your not sure? shes not even that good looking


ALSO COMMENTs ON YOUR PROM PIC AGAIN
YOU HAND WAS ON HER SHOULDER (awkward) put it on the girls hip

was she worth bringing along as your date??

 

[JerryFl08]

Yea I. Fkin realize that now, idk it was a fkin gay phase that I went through cuz I was whooped! Slapped that out of me,,I'm sure she's gonna be txtin me today asking how the cal AP test was..fck that ****, I won't reply..another thing is I'll prolly see her in golf, but ehh not looking forward to talking with her at all..I didn't look at it the way you all did, and now that I do its like wtf!.. fck that I'll move on....iand btw I took her to prom cuz I heard she like me, I needed a date and yea that's why I asked her, don't know what fot into me that I got so whooped but I'll make it go away..enough time was wasted, stop making that dum mistake

 

[eaglez1177]

DJ are supposed to have fun
what i ment walk away i ment like what eaglez did have fun
but what you did was went out of your way to accomodate her needs (not dance)

when you go our of your way you shows weakness
when you texted her you saying you angry(seems like an apology) what do you have to apologise for? i didnt get it, you did nothing wrong it was her fault. (read your title)

You really like this girl (WTF)
even after she wrecked your prom!??!

to like a girl she has to prove to you she is worthy

and next!? wtf your not sure? shes not even that good looking


ALSO COMMENTs ON YOUR PROM PIC AGAIN
YOU HAND WAS ON HER SHOULDER (awkward) put it on the girls hip

was she worth bringing along as your date??

Ya I couldnt agree more with this here^

Most important part is that you take this as a learning experience and move on from it.

EDIT: Lol and yea imo shes not that hot...id rather go with the chick in the pink dress to her left

 

[JerryFl08]

i was whooped man.. i'm still having somewhat of a hard time getting her off my mind.. thinking that she fcked up my prom is the only thing helping me get over her,, lols i don't really think the girl in pink is that hot, the girl i took has a perfect ass, that i am unfortunately not getting...trying to get my head straight, i know nothing good is gonna happen even trying to talk with this girl again so fck that.. gonna talk with other chicks now, perhaps go out to some partys and see what happens..fck getting my mind off of her is actually hard man...just gotta move on..

 

[eaglez1177]

Dont worry once you start talkin to other girls it'll be no problem gettin her off your mind

 

[JerryFl08]

Dont worry once you start talkin to other girls it'll be no problem gettin her off your mind

alright man thanks, talk to other girls as quickly as possible,, and NOT do what i did with this previous girl... btw i was trying to send you a msg cuz i had a curious question but yea it says ur inbox is like exceeded or something an that you had to delete some msgs...

 

[eaglez1177]

Lol yea sry bout that I fixed it now

 

[CarlitosWay]

alright man thanks, talk to other girls as quickly as possible,, and NOT do what i did with this previous girl... btw i was trying to send you a msg cuz i had a curious question but yea it says ur inbox is like exceeded or something an that you had to delete some msgs...

Hmmm..weird, you're a handsome guy. You must have been acting pretty goofy for her to not want you as bf/sexual material. I say more experience @ parties, other interactions is much needed and reading from the older real experienced don juans is in order.

Trust me bud, it's easy to open up girls, get dates/numbers, get some action. The toughest part is getting a girl to commit to you as her gf. It's a slippery slope especially when you guys are so young, hell she could be real into you for a month or two than next month *poof* she's not, leaves you and you're stuck getting all emo over her ass.

I suggest you have some good hobbies on the side, of course education is put first. I enjoy weight training/nutrition and cooking up some awesome food.

Being smart about life, taking care of your health, being smooth/comfortable in your own skin, good charming sense of humor, good sense of clothing styles (I think what you should you wear should express masculinity/power/freshness/with a touch of class) Be a risk taker!!! doing something fun and some chic gets hesitant? Tell her with a big smile "I'm all about fun and taking risks! How does it feel to live such a boring life?" Some will shrug it off or say "whatever" yet, c'mon I want a chic that's down to have fun be it bungee jumping off a freakin' bridge or going mountain biking down some trails and finding a place to mess around at ...

Some people don't know how to live!!! They get caught up in the average run-of-the-mill ****, satisfied with mediocrity. I like how they say excellence does not come very easily it's a habit one must create in whatever you put yourself into!!! You're going to game chics? Be excellent at it. Going through a hard academic program/exam? Study hard and bring excellence from preindulged knowledge, working a little part-time job @ a market/store to have some extra cash, be excellent at it!!!

listen to this song, listen closely and read the lyrics http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8mCb9dKH1vI&feature=related. A lot of people don't understand, we have something that no money can buy, that NOTHING can bring back, many spend millions to try and reverse it's wear and tear ....don't let minutes that turn into hours, which turn into days, which turn into years, which turn into decades, don't let em become wasted!!...... I like how the buddhist say with every step you take, it should be as if you just came back from a very long voyage where you saw no people, no family, nothing.

 

[JerryFl08]

That first sentence actually gave me a little boost of self-confidence ha.. and what you said on your second paragraph is EXACTLY what happened..but its all good now, I realized my mistake an even though I may kinda miss her, I know nothing good could come out even if I talked to her..Gald to say though I moved on yesturday was a funny day..a couple of buddies of mine and some girls went out to go and eat..well one of the girls kinda has a thing for me and she's definaely not as shy as the previous girl I've been talking about an this one does have a bigger butt ..anyways what happened was that she was trying to get me to pay for her meal and I kept telling her nawww no thanks its ok you can pay for mine..we kept going back an forth an we got our tickets I handed her mine, she just kept telling me that I was gonna pay, but I turned it around on her and INSTEAD she ended up paying for my meal so I saved a good $10? haha so that was pretty cool, she texted me after we left and I've just been acting sort of disinterested and giving her a hard time. She wants me to buy her breakfast now but I keep making some funny bull**** excuse to why I can't..so that was coool duno if she even has a bf or not,, I wanna go see the iron man 2 movie an I was thinking of telling her to go..

I like you post though carlitos it's actually very helpful to get my mind straight..haha I think if I actually told her about the how does it feel to live such a boring life she would get pretty hurt..I ain't even gonna see her anymore though in person, the only times I would see her was in golf an that's already over. Thanks again though, it really helps get my mind straight

 

[eaglez1177]

Hmmm..weird, you're a handsome guy. You must have been acting pretty goofy for her to not want you as bf/sexual material. I say more experience @ parties, other interactions is much needed and reading from the older real experienced don juans is in order.

Trust me bud, it's easy to open up girls, get dates/numbers, get some action. The toughest part is getting a girl to commit to you as her gf. It's a slippery slope especially when you guys are so young, hell she could be real into you for a month or two than next month *poof* she's not, leaves you and you're stuck getting all emo over her ass.

I suggest you have some good hobbies on the side, of course education is put first. I enjoy weight training/nutrition and cooking up some awesome food.

Being smart about life, taking care of your health, being smooth/comfortable in your own skin, good charming sense of humor, good sense of clothing styles (I think what you should you wear should express masculinity/power/freshness/with a touch of class) Be a risk taker!!! doing something fun and some chic gets hesitant? Tell her with a big smile "I'm all about fun and taking risks! How does it feel to live such a boring life?" Some will shrug it off or say "whatever" yet, c'mon I want a chic that's down to have fun be it bungee jumping off a freakin' bridge or going mountain biking down some trails and finding a place to mess around at ...

Some people don't know how to live!!! They get caught up in the average run-of-the-mill ****, satisfied with mediocrity. I like how they say excellence does not come very easily it's a habit one must create in whatever you put yourself into!!! You're going to game chics? Be excellent at it. Going through a hard academic program/exam? Study hard and bring excellence from preindulged knowledge, working a little part-time job @ a market/store to have some extra cash, be excellent at it!!!

listen to this song, listen closely and read the lyrics http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8mCb9dKH1vI&feature=related. A lot of people don't understand, we have something that no money can buy, that NOTHING can bring back, many spend millions to try and reverse it's wear and tear ....don't let minutes that turn into hours, which turn into days, which turn into years, which turn into decades, don't let em become wasted!!...... I like how the buddhist say with every step you take, it should be as if you just came back from a very long voyage where you saw no people, no family, nothing.

I couldnt agree more with this post. I cant stand people that never want to take risks and have some real fun in their life. Ive already got a massive list of some really awesome and crazy things that Im going to do before I die. Actually just wrote down #60 yesterday, which was to join the mile high club. I think the one before that was seeing the northern lights.

 

[CarlitosWay]

That first sentence actually gave me a little boost of self-confidence ha.. and what you said on your second paragraph is EXACTLY what happened..but its all good now, I realized my mistake an even though I may kinda miss her, I know nothing good could come out even if I talked to her..Gald to say though I moved on yesturday was a funny day..a couple of buddies of mine and some girls went out to go and eat..well one of the girls kinda has a thing for me and she's definaely not as shy as the previous girl I've been talking about an this one does have a bigger butt ..anyways what happened was that she was trying to get me to pay for her meal and I kept telling her nawww no thanks its ok you can pay for mine..we kept going back an forth an we got our tickets I handed her mine, she just kept telling me that I was gonna pay, but I turned it around on her and INSTEAD she ended up paying for my meal so I saved a good $10? haha so that was pretty cool, she texted me after we left and I've just been acting sort of disinterested and giving her a hard time. She wants me to buy her breakfast now but I keep making some funny bull**** excuse to why I can't..so that was coool duno if she even has a bf or not,, I wanna go see the iron man 2 movie an I was thinking of telling her to go..

Buying her breakfast is good, she bought you some food and it's only fair. Than she can treat you again next time You already showed her it's not all about "her" already, so the ball remains in your court. As far as a movie? Movies are "meh" for first dates. Take her bowling, golfing or hiking something involving actions is always best, it'll allow you to get closer and really make a better impact

I like you post though carlitos it's actually very helpful to get my mind straight..haha I think if I actually told her about the how does it feel to live such a boring life she would get pretty hurt..I ain't even gonna see her anymore though in person, the only times I would see her was in golf an that's already over. Thanks again though, it really helps get my mind straight

lol yeah I'm a handsome ******* and I usually don't care and will throw lines like that out, some chics get left "stunned"

Anyways you're young and are fortunate enough to be able to get a head start on some of this stuff. Just grab some ice cold kool aid and enjoy the ride.