zoom rader said:
Hey guys i need some help. I have been chatting online with a chick about 3mts where i had two meetings with her. She told me that she has a b/f but i still went out with her. The first meeting we just had some drinks and small talk ect, after i dropped her at her place .She was kinda cold towards me all nite so i did not go for the kiss.We continued to IM from time to time and got to know each other very well,I tease her online and bust on her and she seems to like it, always calling me a flirter.On her birthday she wanted to know if i was going to hang with her and i told her no becuase she said she was going to meet her b/f later that day.Two weeks after birthday we went out for drinks where i picked her up from her work, as soon as she got in my car she kissed me, she just went for it.Our second meeting was more relaxed she was more open, after while dropping her home she was talking about her gym and what she does to keep fit(shes 38 and fit) she said she love to work on her legs and likes to keep them firm, i told her they look great.She then allowed me to feel how frim her legs at, which i did at that point i was lost and did not know what to do next
I dropped her home and she gave me another kiss and thanked me for the eveing.She continue to IM during the day, telling me that she trusts me fully with her,Does this mean she sees me as a nice guy? or wants me to go further with her?. I have another meeting with her and this time i want to get past the kissing stage, how do i take it from here?
You already have it past stage one, you just don’t know it.
You’re a shy guy who does not read the signals being thrown at you.
The leg act screams of the women wanting a good seeing to.
Why are you trying to LTR this girl?
She as a BF which in my book equals not LTM since she is cheating on the guy, if she sleeps with you or not, how would you feel if you date her and she is out clubbing e.t.c knowing she had a BF when you met her? Oh yes that’s right, most guys think they are better then the guy and see women as some great object. Fact is women want fu**ing BF or not and this seems like one of them, regardless LTM which ever ego trip is getting you to play this thing cool is a bad idea. She is screaming red flags galore. Put it this way, if she as a BF then she would have left him for you, for a LTR.
So lets get this sorted out!
This women is a certified FB, but your reading too much into it, I assume its from a need to have a GF and strip that loneliness!
If this carries on it could turn into something negative for you, i.e a sad sap she simply keeps on for attention with out giving anything back!
You think your lonely now just wait till 4months when you lack of balls as shown you got no where with this girls and she is draining all the esteame out of you with a flash of leg here and there.
What I am saying is be a man and take the opportunities this girls is throwing at you.
Trust your dam gut, you are reading the signs.
If a bird kissed me then insisted I touch up her leg in my car I guarantee 10min later I would be fu**ing her in the back seat, not making small talk or thinking of dropping her home, even more so since she as a BF.
Get real here and turn it up a notch.
Conclusion:
She is no good for LTM girl, so why drag it out?
She is hot and sending signals like she wants some excitement.
You’re a very shy guy who is holding back is man hood.
Women want sex, face the facts of this and this women too wants the touch of a man! She maybe bored at him with the BF but loves him, e.t.c.
Who cares at the end of the day this is a fu** only situation nothing else can come of it!
At the leg touch, stroke it, enjoy it, smile, lean in kiss her, move your hands around her slim body, to her breasts e.t.c. Kiss, the rest is history.
This girl obvioulsy finds you sexually attractive, remember that sexually attractive. So take it.
But i think you are investing too much into this girl and i dont think personnally she is GF material.
Chatting to guys online, regardless of how great they are, great guys come and go. A real GF would not be looking online for other men with a BF.
Hell maybe you will get lucky and she likes you over the BF and is just testing the waters. 3 Months is a long time, maybe she is after something more to replace the BF with. But saying that spare a thought for the poor sap who as no idea his women is seeing other men and for all he knows your just a male friends, remember this as this could be you with this girl. If she did not like the BF a sane healthy women would dump him, seems some like to have options, like this one, i would tread carefully.
FB is all this is and lets hope its all you use it for.
