Not sure the best way of apologizing here?

[Dannyrt34]

Ok the girl who I really do like tries to text me or call me. And most of the time I don't get back to her til later. Which seems like a good thing right?

Well last night when I texted her that I was sorry about taking a while to get back to her, she responds with this:

"Ok, that's such a lie. You always have an excuse anymore for not answering me. I'm over it. Sorry if I'm bothering you or whatever, I won't anymore."

She really is a great person and I'm dumbfounded on how to respond to this text. I feel like anything I say, she might just perceive it as me making more excuses.

What do you guys think?

 

[Hidden-Hand]

Ok the girl who I really do like tries to text me or call me. And most of the time I don't get back to her til later. Which seems like a good thing right?

Depends, you can go overboard with it. 'Everything in moderation' if you will.

Well last night when I texted her that I was sorry about taking a while to get back to her, she responds with this:

"Ok, that's such a lie. You always have an excuse anymore for not answering me. I'm over it. Sorry if I'm bothering you or whatever, I won't anymore."

Hmm. You most likely over did it, I usually wait 10-15 minutes before answering a text...but why were you texting her anyway? You should only use texts/phone calls to set up dates, you do know what those are right?

She really is a great person and I'm dumbfounded on how to respond to this text. I feel like anything I say, she might just perceive it as me making more excuses.

What do you guys think?

Ok, this is what you do. Text her this exactly as I wrote it- "Haha that was cute. You know what, I'll make this up to you, dinner and a movie at my place . You free on tuesday or wednesday at say...9pm?"

Not that hard. If she rejects your offer then you lost out with her. Move on.

 

[horaholic]

Ok the girl who I really do like tries to text me or call me. And most of the time I don't get back to her til later. Which seems like a good thing right?

Well last night when I texted her that I was sorry about taking a while to get back to her, she responds with this:

"Ok, that's such a lie. You always have an excuse anymore for not answering me. I'm over it. Sorry if I'm bothering you or whatever, I won't anymore."

She really is a great person and I'm dumbfounded on how to respond to this text. I feel like anything I say, she might just perceive it as me making more excuses.

What do you guys think?

So sorry I'm busy.

 

[Dannyrt34]

So I been thinking about this and realized I'm doing exactly what I hate when a girl does it to me. I do fully understand where she's coming from, she's putting in alot more effort than I am.

We all know the Push/Pull method. Well, I think I'm doing too much pushing and not enough pulling. Now I just have to figure out how to recover.

I just told her "Sorry If I'm coming off that way but I just want you to know that I like hearing from you anytime."

She responded with "It don't seem like it to me because everytime I contact you, you always have excuses an I feel like I'm bothering you."

 

[Tazman]

Don't apologize anymore, once was enough. Just enjoy whatever time you have with her and if she brings it up again tell her you've already apologized and if she can't get beyond it you're going to have to move on.

If you feel you pushed her away a little too much just take her out and show her a good time. However, don't let her flip the script on you and take the upper hand. You did your part to make it up and if she can't accept that let her know that you WILL move on.

I had a friend that broke up with this chick and she kept coming over to the house crying all damn day. Eventually he gave in and took her back, but he did it on her terms and now several years later she wears the pants in the relationship. You've been reasonable, so don't lose your stance or manhood for this chick's attitude.

 

[xectxny19x]

Most times, I don't explain things to girls, because it seems like they always take it as an "excuse." The girls I know anyway.

Now I don't explain anything unless asked, and when asked, I keep it simple. Say I'm sorry. I've been busy. Works much better and saves time from explaining.

 

[WaterTiger]

Why did you apologize in the first place??????

"Sorry for not getting back with you sooner" is an apology. FOR WHAT?

Let this situation drop and next time say: "I'm returning your call/text/IM"

DON'T APOLOGIZE! Unless you run over her pet cat, take SORRY out of your vocabulary!

 

[Ease]

She's manipulating you. She sees weakness and beta in you when you apologise for taking too long, and she she's pushing it further.

You're being alpha by being busy and having your own life and not being available for her, but apologising for it completely cancels it out and is very beta.

Its about having a STRONG mindframe. Dont let her manipulate you. Why should you apologise for having a life? That doesnt make sense when you think about it does it? But having a weak mindframe, when she puts you on the spot its easy to just blurt out an apology and reveal the BETA in you. You need to train yourself to completely remove the word 'sorry' from your vocabulary, like said.

Now in this situation when she says: "Ok, that's such a lie. You always have an excuse anymore for not answering me. I'm over it. Sorry if I'm bothering you or whatever, I won't anymore."

She's looking for you to run to her and apologize, just like your thinking about doing. Dont. Use the suggestion earlier^. Make it look silly that shes throwing an immature tantrum about you not replying but remain strong if she tries to test you.

 

[DarthNihilus]

Never apologize to a woman.

It almost always puts you in a position of being seen as weak.

Its how the female mind works.

Women LOVE unreliable guys, guys that are never on time, guys that are too busy for them etc, they LOVE it.

Gives them drama that they can cry about and get off on and talk to their beta male emotional tamp0n magina friends about why the hot guy is always ignoring them.

Stop thinking of women's mindset like your own.

They don't think the same logical way you do.

Stop worrying about "where they're coming from" or any of that other stupid bullsh!t.

If you don't believe what I just said go read some SunnyD posts and you will.

Good luck. :yes:

 

[hello2k1]

This really reminds me of a model I used to date... very self conscious. Sounds like she just wants to know you actually give a **** about her (you can definitely go overboard with ignoring girls).
Back in the day I would have said something like "You're a beautiful girl, you really shouldn't worry about 'bothering' me, I love our conversations. Now that I have some time to talk, how was your day yesterday?" - matter of fact compliment to raise her self esteem a bit, acknowledge her feelings, and start another conversation thread... but on the phone, not in a text