Not sure if I should break up with my girl

[SamMalone]

Ok, I'm not sure what to do guys and I need help. I met this girl a while ago, she was engaged and cheated on her guy so they broke it off. She tells me shes real loyal usually but she was in love with her first boyfriend still while she was engaged and thats why she cheated.

Anyways, I've had trouble trusting her but we've been going on pretty good. I went over and she cooked me dinner and gave me a a beer and she had a schmirnof. I finished my beer and went to get another one when I noticed two had been dranken before mine, along with some of her drinks. I asked her about it and she gave me some convulted story about she drank one and didn't like it and her mom drank the other. It doesn't fit this girl to drink a beer by herself though. Not to mention they were not twist offs and I needed a bottle opener and she didn't have one. I haven't really confronted her about it but the trust thing has been a problem in the past and if I even ask her about it I'm she'll break it off regardless because I can't trust her.

Am i being paranoid or what? Hell, even if she is cheating I could stay with her just for the P*ssy but I don't know if I want too. Thoughts?

 

[horaholic]

Ok, I'm not sure what to do guys and I need help. I met this girl a while ago, she was engaged and cheated on her guy so they broke it off. She tells me shes real loyal usually but she was in love with her first boyfriend still while she was engaged and thats why she cheated.

Well, of COURSE she is gonna TELL you she's 'normally' loyal. Why the hell was she getting engaged, while still in love with her ex? Did she cheat with her EX, or someone else? Either way, bad sign. How do you know she's not STILL in love with her ex?


Anyways, I've had trouble trusting her but we've been going on pretty good. I went over and she cooked me dinner and gave me a a beer and she had a schmirnof. I finished my beer and went to get another one when I noticed two had been dranken before mine, along with some of her drinks. I asked her about it and she gave me some convulted story about she drank one and didn't like it and her mom drank the other. It doesn't fit this girl to drink a beer by herself though. Not to mention they were not twist offs and I needed a bottle opener and she didn't have one. I haven't really confronted her about it but the trust thing has been a problem in the past and if I even ask her about it I'm she'll break it off regardless because I can't trust her.

You cant just go playing detective like that. It will only eat you alive. I undertand where you're coming from though. It sounds to me, like you will never be able to trust her, and if that's the case, you should really move on, or you will be miserable. This distrust, will eat at your confidence, and you will end up turning her off, making it more likely that she WILL cheat. Chicks also have the mindest of "Well, he thinks Im cheating anyway, I might as well just do it."

Am i being paranoid or what? Hell, even if she is cheating I could stay with her just for the P*ssy but I don't know if I want too. Thoughts?

Bottom line is, whether she is or not, you have trust issues, and I've never known them to just go away. Ask yourself honestly, if you think these issues are stemming from her history, or if you are naturally insecure, and you would have those feelings with anyone. If it is honestly, just her, you should save yourself a headache, and move on.

 

[WC2]

The fact that she got engaged to some dude while she was still seeing an ex bothers me a lot. It shows a lot of character to lead a dude on for that long all the way up to engagement.

Tell me this.. what's your gut feeling? When your chick told you this story and you saw these extra drinks, what kind of vibes were you getting from her? Usually a woman who IS cheating will get angry when their man doesn't trust them.

If a man doesn't trust his woman and tells her that he's leaving her and she gets PISSED at him, then that shows a lot about her current state of mind. She's not torn up about losing you, but she's torn up she's been caught in the act.

Faithful women tend to be more of the 'i'll beg back for you' type of girls, and they have nothing to be pissed about really. Sure, they're upset, but they don't get physically mad.

Obviously your girlfriend doesn't want to be questioned about her trust.. I've seen this pattern in a lot of girls who are cheating on their men and it bothers me.

Tread carefully. Nothing is for certain, but if it smells like sh!t, it probably is.

 

[SamMalone]

She was actually real calm about it when I brought it up, and we both have trust issues that we realize are getting out of hand. Her story just doesn't make sense to me, and I know she has lied about some things in the past but nothing to do with cheating.

 

[Charm&Style]

Are you seriously going to bring yourself down to "be" with a cheating wh0re? Just get her vajayjay and leave, you dont need to be with anyone. If you try pursuing any sort of relationship with her this will be your life:

-constant thoughts whether she is cheating on you or not
-insecurity issues any time she speaks about a guy
-jealousy issues when you're out with her
-you will end up turning each other off
-you will the best opportunities you have at this time...for nothing

are these points seriously worth it? Just pump her and dump her a$$ to the curb.

 

[Nutz]

The fact that she got engaged to some dude while she was still seeing an ex bothers me a lot. It shows a lot of character to lead a dude on for that long all the way up to engagement.

Tell me this.. what's your gut feeling? When your chick told you this story and you saw these extra drinks, what kind of vibes were you getting from her? Usually a woman who IS cheating will get angry when their man doesn't trust them.

If a man doesn't trust his woman and tells her that he's leaving her and she gets PISSED at him, then that shows a lot about her current state of mind. She's not torn up about losing you, but she's torn up she's been caught in the act.

Faithful women tend to be more of the 'i'll beg back for you' type of girls, and they have nothing to be pissed about really. Sure, they're upset, but they don't get physically mad.

Obviously your girlfriend doesn't want to be questioned about her trust.. I've seen this pattern in a lot of girls who are cheating on their men and it bothers me.

Tread carefully. Nothing is for certain, but if it smells like sh!t, it probably is.

I'll never seen it spelled out so clearly before. Props to WC2!

 

[TheBucketOfTruth]

If she is cheating and left unfinished beer bottles in the fridge from some guy she was seeing, she wants to get caught or doesn't care if she does. It's hard for us to really say one way or another if she is cheating or not, but I would tend not to trust and enter a relationship with someone who has been unfaithful in the past.