Not so sure if I should break contact with this girl

[ArmyStrong90]

So two months ago I met a girl new to my university (she was a transfer student) I knew from the jump that she was interested in me due to the initial eye contact her and I made and her reaction to our conversation--we clicked. Fast forward to about a week and a half ago I hit her up after about a month asking her how her new sorority was (she is a bit old for a new member lol) and she was willing to meet me on campus and talk. We ran into each other while I was hanging out with my boys and she was engaging me pretty intensely; my buddy was watching the whole conversation as he was talking to my other friend amongst themselves and later tells me that this chick was undressing me with her eyes and that she was really into me. I kinda knew something was up but hearing it from someone else practically verified it. So her and I would meet up occasionally on campus (so far we had two legit meet ups), we did go out to grab some food and when I did talk to her, I cared more about getting to know who she really was rather than her looks. Right now we are at the point of getting to know each other.
1) She made it clear that she wasn't an easy lay (she stressed it)
2) implied that she was single (actually stated it) and wanted a relationship based on her actions when she would see a couple walk by,
3) she tends to value a connection more than **** buddy relationships,
4) she is a little older than a lot of the younger pool of guys shes met so far in greek life and refers to them as "babies" even though she is willing to meet other guys and gals (I assume its so that she can get acquainted well
5) although she doesn't believe in horoscopes she finds them fascinating and checked her and my compatibility
6) she gets kinda touchy around me but likes to play mysterious

My boys tell me to stay in touch with her but I am not so sure if I should because she doesn't hit me up however she ALSO doesn't flake when I want to meet up with her. I am afraid she may think I am needy but again if someone likes you and you like them what is soo "needy" about talking to them often over text, phone calls, meet ups. also I have been in a situation where a girl that I am interested in ends up dating someone else over me because I stopped communication or limited it because I want to come off as the prize in her eyes.

 

[dude99]

So why are you thinking of breaking contact with her. Where is the bad behaviour that tells you this one is out?

 

[devilkingx2]

1) She made it clear that she wasn't an easy lay (she stressed it)
3) she tends to value a connection more than **** buddy relationships,

that's just the bull**** every girl says, don't believe it til you see some proof of it.

 

[Big dog]

You will receive a lot of step by step instructions by some of the dudes here so im just gona tell you straight out and go a different route. Just by reading your situation dude, you got a long way to go about females/women but your on the right track, so keep it up. 2 months, all these little meaningless hangingout/getting together, you wanting to get to know her besides her looks, she's not an easy lay, blah blah blah... all unnecessary dude. But don't stress yo. A lot of these guys here have been where you are now. Along the way you will get the answers to the above, but you missed the opportunity to lay her. I'm not saying you still can't but the odds are stacked against you. If she's older than you, which I'm pretty sure she is, she's keeping you around for your attention...you've been "friend zoned. But listen to me homie, you want to know if she's into you or whatever your looking for, which by the way you missed tons of "opportunities to lay her, try fvking her and there is your answer. That wont be enough though, your a spring chicken and you will "beta backslide" I'm just keeping it real man. Take this as a learning experience and the best advice I can give you is work on your confidence. You can only go up from here. Cheers

 

[Infern0]

Yeah the poster above has it right.

You really need to learn the game, you can't just get some tips off us and go out there and get what you want, you need a solid foundational knowledge.

My advice would be to learn the basics, don't cut off this girl totally there's no need but back off from her and forget it for a while. Because yeah you are pretty much friend zoned.

Don't worry about it, just learn the basics and you might be able to convert later.

Btw the excessive communication (texts etc) IS a fail, trust me on that. But there's a sweet spot you have to find between ignoring and making your communication a valuable commodity.

 

[Von]

She was telling you to have sex with her.

Why you didn't ?

And some girls don't give second chances.

You need to learn to step your game with the ladies, read the DJ Bible.

if she talks about it!!! It means game on... and its 99% the contrary of what she says that she want! Action over Words

Ex: I am not a quick lay = I want you to **** me right now

The logical step would to take her out for a drink, next to your place... have a couple of drinks, bring her over to your place and close the deal.

 

[ArmyStrong90]

You will receive a lot of step by step instructions by some of the dudes here so im just gona tell you straight out and go a different route. Just by reading your situation dude, you got a long way to go about females/women but your on the right track, so keep it up. 2 months, all these little meaningless hangingout/getting together, you wanting to get to know her besides her looks, she's not an easy lay, blah blah blah... all unnecessary dude. But don't stress yo. A lot of these guys here have been where you are now. Along the way you will get the answers to the above, but you missed the opportunity to lay her. I'm not saying you still can't but the odds are stacked against you. If she's older than you, which I'm pretty sure she is, she's keeping you around for your attention...you've been "friend zoned. But listen to me homie, you want to know if she's into you or whatever your looking for, which by the way you missed tons of "opportunities to lay her, try fvking her and there is your answer. That wont be enough though, your a spring chicken and you will "beta backslide" I'm just keeping it real man. Take this as a learning experience and the best advice I can give you is work on your confidence. You can only go up from here. Cheers

We are practically the same age I'm only a year older than her (24) we only hung out x2 the whole lay thing is a challenge because she lives with her fam and I do as well and even if I am "friend-zoned" is it possible to get out of it. She digs me and the feelings are mutual I know for damn sure the next time I run into her it will be a wrap. I feel like I did something stupid holding back a little but at the same time she gives off this vibe that she is trying to take things slow (this is why I didn't want to come off too strong or that can ruin everything--but she does know that I want her) so I may have read her wrong I suppose? we do make a lot of physical contact that a friend wouldn't make I've kissed her multiple times too. I just get into my head too much about text messaging despite the fact that she is more responsive than I

 

[ArmyStrong90]

Yeah the poster above has it right.

You really need to learn the game, you can't just get some tips off us and go out there and get what you want, you need a solid foundational knowledge.

My advice would be to learn the basics, don't cut off this girl totally there's no need but back off from her and forget it for a while. Because yeah you are pretty much friend zoned.

Don't worry about it, just learn the basics and you might be able to convert later.

Btw the excessive communication (texts etc) IS a fail, trust me on that. But there's a sweet spot you have to find between ignoring and making your communication a valuable commodity.

The point of the text messages is to meet up with her and follow up. How can I do that without being needy?

 

[ArmyStrong90]

You don't think I'm too late do you?

 

[El Payaso]

You met her two months ago and you haven't even kissed her?

Lmfao.

You're in danger of entering friend zone territory if you're not already there.

Cut the texting bs. Take her out and fvck her afterwards.

If she refuses, then you delete her from your life and move on. You're young and in college. There are far too many women out there for you to be so hung up over one chick.

 

[devilkingx2]

I feel like I did something stupid holding back a little but at the same time she gives off this vibe that she is trying to take things slow (this is why I didn't want to come off too strong or that can ruin everything--but she does know that I want her)

women don't take things slow with guys they like, if you try to bang her and she likes you you're getting laid, if not then she just didn't like you much

similarly, you can't come on too strong with women that like you, meanwhile if she doesn't like you anything is too strong

 

[ArmyStrong90]

You met her two months ago and you haven't even kissed her?

Lmfao.

You're in danger of entering friend zone territory if you're not already there.

Cut the texting bs. Take her out and fvck get afterwards.

If she refuses, then you delete her from your life and move on. You're young and in college. There are far too many women out there for you to be so hung up over one chick.

we met early September and I kinda went "ghost" on her since I was busy with other stuff. I restarted the communication about 2 weeks ago probably still not an excuse to not have a full make out with her or even sex but I was trying to guage the whole vibe she has been giving me since the 13th of this month. I want to make sure she isn't a tease or out to play games (been through that) that is why I wanted her to get comfortable with me and by now I think she is and will ramp up the heat.