Not really what I wanted to hear

[051AV]

My ex BPD has two guaranteed options to land a full time job back in the town I live in and where she used to live, I know I talked about it before. It was up in the air if the positions would become available well my buddy says they are open. The woman that replaced took another position my ex can take that job no questions asked.

You know its nice to have the buffer zone for the last year and a bit, she's 150-200kms away I never see her in passing, she's not poking at her fvcking voo doo doll. I don't have worries about her screwing with my life, you never know with her she's got an axe to grind with me.

Fvck

 

[Spaz]

Unless shes physically stronger and u r a politician then u hv nothing to fear from her.

The worst she could do is sully ur reputation.

But that's nothing....

A bee sting would hurt u more. A mosquito could possibly kill you with malaria. Are you constantly worried about that ?

 

[051AV]

Unless shes physically stronger and u r a politician then u hv nothing to fear from her.

The worst she could do is sully ur reputation.

But that's nothing....

A bee sting would hurt u more. A mosquito could possibly kill you with malaria. Are you constantly worried about that ?

I didn't crash and burn like she hoped I would have, she worked pretty hard to try black mail me and slander my name 3 years ago I was lucky not to be arrested and charged. She moved away from my town a year ago to upgrade her education, she wanted to move in with her BF she replaced me with. She's since dumped him, she's finished school, she's not liked in the division of the corporation she works at. Her coworkers will make life really miserable for her now that they know there is a open position for her to transfer too. management will even give her incentives to transfer back to the division she came from. She craves stability I have a feeling she will take the job position it will be a full time job with a guaranteed paycheck.

What worries me if she moves back she will want another kick at the cat, she's such a jealous vindictive little witch, I supposedly "hurt" her so deeply I must pay for what I did. I didn't hear much from her from her after the first go around she had my replacement to torment, she got what she wanted out of him almost killing him with a jammer. When I was with her she gloated she almost killed her BF before me. I didn't end up the same fate as the other victims, I know that p*sses her off, I'm healthier than ever and life is good.

You can't trust these whack jobs you never know what goes on in their dysfunctional brain

 

[sazc]

@051AV there's nothing you can do about it so try not to worry. If she does return to lock the cat again, make it VERY clear immediately that you want nothing to do with her, that you only want pracep and tell her to leave you alone.

Then proceed to document EVERYTHING so that, when the time is right, you can slap a restraining order on her. Then do it.

 

[Spaz]

3 years on, u r still following her progress at work and into her personal life....

If she's so bad etc etc then she's the last thing on ur mind.

From what I'm seeing here its like for the past 3 years she's at the forefront of ur mind.

Let it go...

 

[051AV]

3 years on, u r still following her progress at work and into her personal life....

If she's so bad etc etc then she's the last thing on ur mind.

From what I'm seeing here its like for the past 3 years she's at the forefront of ur mind.

Let it go...

I have let it go, you have to keep in mind this is a small town, its not like I can hide from her, I don't trust her. I know she will be forced out of the division she currently works in, my friends in the town she lives and work with her have told me nobody trusts her they would like to see her gone. The way its been in the past management ships the employees they have troubles with to the division I used to supervise. Its not in my head, since she's moved away the strange unexplainable stuff hasn't happened around me, I really don't know what kind of nasty lies she told people about me. Life has become the way it was before she turned my life upside down, she really tried hard to smear campaign me. I have a good reputation in the town I live in, lots of people know me here. She lived here for 6 years or so, people know her, think she's wonderful, people that know her know me as well.

 

[Murk]

She needs a slap in the mouth and she needs to fear you. You need to make her realise there's repercussions for fvcking with you. Life is a lot simpler with some intimidation.

 

[Chev.Chelios]

any form of reaction whatsoever is where you lose with these people.

you cant win when somebody doesn't care about death and losing everything, bpd woman want to destroy everything they come across, and laugh and play victim later.

sure, gangsters use force and violence to handle their problems and im sure it's a damn satisfying way to get back at someone, but gangster life is 100% unsustainable.
jail, death, drugs, downward spiral.

but now self defence and protecting yourself is a human right for every individual, bpds will use that right against you in twisted ways.

no winning, only option is to bail.

I'm 2 years deep with a bpd, man eatting babymama and the whole world around her is falling apart while i sort of stepped back with a bag of cheetos and a beach chair in utter awe, fireworks

 

[Murk]

I'm not saying be a gangster, I'm saying don't be a fvcking pvssy which it's quite obvious you are.

Imagine being scared of a woman and what she might do to you, she should be scared of YOU and what YOU can do to HER

You all need to get some balls

 

[Spaz]

Looks like u r worried abt ur reputation.

There's no need to defend yourself if the stories r lies.

Even when it's the truth, brush it off, and if someone in town questions you, just smile and ignore, then change the subject. Small town or big town or big city doesn't matter.

Men of substance will attract enemies, friends, lovers, haters, admirers etc and deals with it accordingly, this is natural.

I still do not understand how this is a problem.

I've been called plenty of names like son a b1tch, @sshole, etc, and it's a long list. And when someone new calls me another name, I'd smile back at that person and simply say he should be more original, I've already heard it. It's amusing.

I've got friends coming up to me reporting that someone is spreading vicious rumors abt me, we'd sit down, beers in our hands and laugh. The stories that people come up is super hilarious at times.

I still didn't lose anything from that but I gain lots.

I've gained a reputation of being "super"...

Super smart, super @sshole, super stupid, super ugly, super handsome, super mother fvcker, super rude, super cool...etc

Its like I'm so super in people's mind, friends and enemies.

Just like super man.

How is that a problem?

 

[soulforge]

One of my exe's lives only 30mins away from me, she was also TOXIC.

Never once have I bumped into her, ran into her in a bar, heard from her... NOTHING!

My point is.. Just cut her out of your life man FOREVER

Chnage your mobile number, block her from all social media platforms, and just keep marching forward man!

Don't worry about chit, she is NO threat to you... Your a MAN, don't feel threatened by a fukin girl.. Whats up with you!

She is HISTORY, put that chit behind you... Focus on self improvement, making better decisions in the future, learn how to SCREEN and look for the signs of toxic woman.

Always move forward.. Forget that Hoe!

 

[Spidah]

Man, just get more plates.

Fuk that bytch.

 

[051AV]

She is nervous of me, she's always been nervous around me, I'm not a weak man if that's what you think, our relationship didn't last that long because she couldn't control me. When things didn't go her way she started fvcking with my personal life, when things really got bad she ramped up the smear campaign. Little things like people that I know enough to say hello would act strange with me it would make me think what the fvck did I do? Ever since she's moved away that sh*t has stopped, I really don't know what she said to people. Even her best friends she spent the most time with realized I'm not the evil person she painted me as.

From the day we met she was jealous of women talking to me, I'm a fairly approachable guy women would come and talk to me at work all the time. She hated the fact I was successful at my job she would try run me down. I didn't end up like the previous men in her life I rebounded and became the successful person I was before, today I'm even farther ahead in life than I was before. Life is good without her in it, her not living in the same town is even better. To get a full time job position in the corporation she works for is tough, she's got her chance to apply for 2 open positions in the division she used to work at. It will be a guaranteed job till she retires if she wanted, she loves certainty she has her life planned to the second. The only thing holding her back would be trying to find a place to live, places to rent in this town is very low.

 

[Billtx49]

She is nervous of me, she's always been nervous around me.

Stands to reason coming from a childlike emotionally driven mentality. She tried to control you like you were another child, but you had strong adult frame she couldn’t deal with, so she went into lying tattle mode on you.
They really do act like children, think of her only as a really annoying one…

 

[051AV]

Stands to reason coming from a childlike emotionally driven mentality. She tried to control you like you were another child, but you had strong adult frame she couldn’t deal with, so she went into lying tattle mode on you.
They really do act like children, think of her only as a really annoying one…

She is a child in an adult body, she would have pouts, sulking by herself, throw a tantrum if she didn't get her way, baby talk. Before I knew about BPD I always thought to myself your acting like a fvcking child.

 

[Soflobro#2]

I mean i dont understand why you even know this information. You shouldn't. Why would you even be scared?

 

[mrgoodstuff]

One of my exe's lives only 30mins away from me, she was also TOXIC.

Never once have I bumped into her, ran into her in a bar, heard from her... NOTHING!

My point is.. Just cut her out of your life man FOREVER

Chnage your mobile number, block her from all social media platforms, and just keep marching forward man!

Don't worry about chit, she is NO threat to you... Your a MAN, don't feel threatened by a fukin girl.. Whats up with you!

She is HISTORY, put that chit behind you... Focus on self improvement, making better decisions in the future, learn how to SCREEN and look for the signs of toxic woman.

Always move forward.. Forget that Hoe!

Sounds good. So you are way past the bar girlfriend you was hung up on for a minute?

 

[051AV]

I mean i dont understand why you even know this information. You shouldn't. Why would you even be scared?

I can't trust her now she will do anything to see me suffer, seen the sadistic side of her, you can end up in trouble with the law with a BPD, lie through their teeth, people believe them because they act charming and innocent.

 

[Soflobro#2]

I can't trust her now she will do anything to see me suffer, seen the sadistic side of her, you can end up in trouble with the law with a BPD, lie through their teeth, people believe them because they act charming and innocent.

You don't need to trust her. Just let it go.

I felt like my ex wanted to make me suffer sometimes. But you know what? Oh well. That's her life.

To be honest your ex probably doesn't really think about you or care. However she might try to toy with you just for fun because shes twisted like that.

How did you find out what she's up to anyways?

 

[051AV]

You don't need to trust her. Just let it go.

I felt like my ex wanted to make me suffer sometimes. But you know what? Oh well. That's her life.

To be honest your ex probably doesn't really think about you or care. However she might try to toy with you just for fun because shes twisted like that.

How did you find out what she's up to anyways?

My buddy that works at the division I used to supervise he talks to my ex so he knows what she's up to, he knows what she's like he's had fights with her when they worked together he doesn't trust her either. Funny the fights they had she would scream and yell at him, with me she never screamed at me she just got emotional and gave me the silent treatment.
I have moved on from her, life is good without her in my life, who knows if she likes me or not, she's blocked me on social media lol.