Not having a job really puts a damper on social life...

DJ24SEVEN

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So...i don't have a job right now. I'm desperately looking for work so I can enter phase 2 of my life which is living on my own. I'm pretty depressed cause I have many useful skills but companies aren't hiring me.

Anyway, I haven't been approaching girls for a while now nor do I want a relationship.

I know once I start working again, my depression will go away thus I'll be out hooking up with chicks...

until then, :(
 

DJ24SEVEN

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Maybe you guys can help me. This is ME in a nutshell.

20 years old
H.S. graduate
No college
Desirable computer skills
Retail Experience
Customer Service Experience (Call Center)
Excellent math, oral, and written skills

I'm not looking for a high paying job but something at least 21,000 a year. I can live comfortably with that until I can move on up.

Do you guys have any suggestions? I've tried online websites....papers....walk-ins....temp agencies. i'm only getting offered jobs for crap salary.

Oh, this isn't DJ related, so I will make it DJ related.

Once I start working and my depression goes away, where should I start attracting grils?
 

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what makes you tihink finding a job wont make you bored?
i've been working at this company for almost a year already, im not happy or enthusiastic about it compared to when i first started, there was much to learn and i was actually getting paid.

now i see it as - i dont get paid enough, and im somwhat starting to get sick of the work there because its repetitive. i want to move out, yet working part time with a crappy salary wont take care of me.

but i do agree with you that it keeps you busy. my unemployed friends, all they do is watch tv or play games during that time. my friends gave up pretty easily. If i were you i'd keep at it, keep on looking, giving up now means u already lost.

i know how it feels to get shotdown after going in for the interview, it really kils your motivation. it took me several months from the start of my job search to find the job im at now.

days that you dont have much to do or feel down, go out play some sports, or volunteer, go to events, it will really cheer you up and give you your motivation again for job searching.

edit - i read your 2nd post
it appears you have that much time on your hands cause you odnt attend college. School was and never will be my thing, neither am i a morning person. but days that i get to class, it actually gives me satisfaction cause i get to see and interact with people on a social level, even professors. basically it keeps me busy.

Look you have a h.s. degree, i woudlnt blame people for offering a low salary. what did you expect?
 

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It is good that you are putting chicks on the side right now. Don't worry about them. They will always be around for you.

What you have to do is stand up and basically tell yourself to get off your ass. Send out 10 resumes a day for two weeks. If you do this and your resume is good you will get some interviews. If you don't then the only problem is your resume. You have to blame yourself, fix your resume, and try again. The jobs are out there.

I would avoid temp agencies since they are usually full of crap. They have interview quotas that they have to meet. They take your references and then solicit the people you used to work for. Don't give them your references at any cost. Don't waste your time going for an interview with these people. It might be good interview practice, but never listen to their advice about your resume. Also remember that head hunters are basically pimps and therefore can't be trusted. In my experence they will lie to you and then use you.

I went through the same thing when I had little experience. It is damn hard to find a job. but you have to do it. You have to get off your ass and keep trying until you almost crash.

As for the girls. Well... I actually found many girls when I was down and out with no job. The key is just to be greatfull for what you have. When you can do that the girls will come to you.
Women can sense your inner strength and they will be attracted to it. If you can be happy with the smallest things in life (like a morning cup of coffee) it will show and women will want you.

Just don't get depressed over this. Everyone goes through this experience. Don't whine about it. Do it! Fight to the death.
That is what it means to be a man.

Remember the most attractive thing about you is your inner strength. The reason you are depressed is because you are week inside. It is the reason why it is hard for you to find a girl and a job.

I've actually field tested this on women. I kind of let them know that I'm going through a lot, but I show them that it doesn't bother me. When something happens in my life I show them how strong I am and I let them know that it is no bid deal. They find this very very attractive.
 

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DJ24SEVEN, I feel your pain. I moved to a new town and I applied to some jobs but nobody wants to hire me. My savings from my previous job are dissapearing. If I don't get a job I won't be able to continue college. Oh well that's life :(

hopefully you find a job and do well.
 

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You have no college degree, so unless you have an apprenticeship or technical degree, you'll be confined to low-paying jobs. Even good blue collar work like painting or construction requires some sort of technical or apprentice degree these days.
 

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dudes and gentlemen.. let me welcome you to the 21st century... we're living in the information age brotha.. don't get depressed cuz you don't have a job... think about it, jobs nowadays are very unstable and downsizing is apperent.. ok, so its good to have a lil extra cash on the side. while the rest of you wait for you paychecks, theres thousands of people using their FREE TIME building business's... i'm just tryna push you to try something new... do some reading with ur free time...

i suggest Rich Dad Poor Dad, gold mine of information... u read that, i guarantee you will be looking for much more than just a job...

your wondering, who the hell is this kid telling me not to get a job... i'm not telling u NOT to get a job, but telling u their are many other opportunities... don't be a slave, be your own boss... thats what this site is about, taking control of your own life...

im done
 

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Originally posted by diplomatic_lie
You have no college degree, so unless you have an apprenticeship or technical degree, you'll be confined to low-paying jobs. Even good blue collar work like painting or construction requires some sort of technical or apprentice degree these days.
Now that's just fvcked up...

Eventualy a bachelors degree won't mean much just like a high school diploma.

The level of education you gotta meet for employment just keeps getting higher and higher with each passing decade.

But on the brighter side of things at least you know how to use a computer...that means contacts and the ability to master software...
 

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Originally posted by Chilli_pimp
dudes and gentlemen.. let me welcome you to the 21st century... we're living in the information age brotha.. don't get depressed cuz you don't have a job... think about it, jobs nowadays are very unstable and downsizing is apperent.. ok, so its good to have a lil extra cash on the side. while the rest of you wait for you paychecks, theres thousands of people using their FREE TIME building business's... i'm just tryna push you to try something new... do some reading with ur free time...

i suggest Rich Dad Poor Dad, gold mine of information... u read that, i guarantee you will be looking for much more than just a job...

your wondering, who the hell is this kid telling me not to get a job... i'm not telling u NOT to get a job, but telling u their are many other opportunities... don't be a slave, be your own boss... thats what this site is about, taking control of your own life...

im done
Well put.
 

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you could earn good money as a sales person now you go to be good in a car dealer u could get good commision for now until you get to the next lvl
 

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Looks like your going to have to job climb.

Get some light experience in one job (figure out the field you want to stay in), then climb to a higher job, and keep doing that.
 

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Originally posted by diplomatic_lie
You have no college degree, so unless you have an apprenticeship or technical degree, you'll be confined to low-paying jobs. Even good blue collar work like painting or construction requires some sort of technical or apprentice degree these days.

I will have to disagree with you here. It's much more about WHO you know than what you know or what degree you have. I should know, I don't have a degree and I do pretty well for myself. The same as or better than my friends who have degrees.

Origal poster...you need to start networking. Schmoozing. You also have to get creative. Start learning to talk well. Relate to the employers, bullshiet with them just a bit, make them feel good about themselves, talk yourself up. You'll get the job. People are people and are still biased towards those that they like personally. Human nature. So if they like you, even though you're not cimpletely qualified, good chance you'lll get the job. On top of that, make yourself sound more suited for the job than you really are.

The catch though...once you start you need to PAY ATTENTION and catch on fast. Start researching at home if you have to. But after a couple months you should be up to speed and no one will know the difference. That is the way to get a starting job at 40k-80k.
 

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Soma what you wrote is true...what's important when it comes to employment is who you know not what you know...

Who really wants to work with someone that's unbearable to be around?

So the solution to everyone's financial woes is to either be your own boss or seek to love your boss to death...
 

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I don't know what to tell you except find connections and get education unless you already have years of provable experience. I graduated from college with bachelor's degree in computer science and was unemployed for almost six months. Being entry level in software field aint what it used to be. Aftermath of tech. boom and meltodown of the 90s left most companies very scrupulous towards new hirees. Face it, computers have become so accessible that any highschool drop-out can claim to be the next tech wunderkind. On top of that, in the past five years educational facilites stamped out heaps of graduates in the tech field as a result. Right now, it's difficult to find an entry level job even with college education. I went to dozens interviews with different companies and all of them gave me the third degree. If you can't go to college at least get certified in whatever you're specializing in.
 

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Wow, I didn't expect so many replies. Thanks for the good tips.

I know a high school diploma doesn't mean much nowadays, but there are MANY jobs that I can do...but I'm not picked because of a piece of paper.

Seriously, is $21,000 asking too much? I refuse to work my ass off for $7/hr.
 

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Originally posted by DJ24SEVEN
Wow, I didn't expect so many replies. Thanks for the good tips.

I know a high school diploma doesn't mean much nowadays, but there are MANY jobs that I can do...but I'm not picked because of a piece of paper.

Seriously, is $21,000 asking too much? I refuse to work my ass off for $7/hr.
You say you want to make 21K but are not willing to further your education. Whatever you get on the jobs available is exactly how much your talents, experience and value is worth to your employer.

Why aren't you instead working on furthering your education and make yourself more valuable to potential employers?
 

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Originally posted by Soma
I will have to disagree with you here. It's much more about WHO you know than what you know or what degree you have.
There are limitations to this. If you're a high school graduate with nothing special, you're not likely to impress a senior executive, even if you're Mr Friendly.

Networking is about offering and recieving something - most people make the mistake of thinking networking is just about being friendly and getting favours. And if you have nothing to offer, then regardless of your friendly factor, you're not likely to get much.

(Unless your uncle is the chief executive of a good-sized company)
 

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Go back to school while you're young.

All my freinds I made them at school,bruh.One of the major reasons I even stay here is for that.I feel I'm too young to be out by myself without a solid network of friends to back me when I need help.

I know what you mean about your head not being in the game when you don't have a group of friends.I tried to be a pure-player type but i can't do that,I'm always wondering with guys are up to-No gay sh!t-.

Life is just ****ing boring to me when there's no one there to be with.
 
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