not getting any eye contact!!

[skaterguy97]

is it normal for girls to purposefully avoid eye contact with you when you look at them or you catch there eye for a second because ive been trying to get more confident with sending back signals of interest and ive been having trouble getting a chance to send them back. and also it seems that from a distance the girls are looking at me but when i get close to them(like 3 ft.) they stare down or seem to avoid eye contact with me. is this normal? any thoughts would be nice. thx for the help guys.

 

[skaterguy97]

come on guys give me some advice....i dont think they cover this in the bible!!

 

[RaraAvis]

Remember most people are shy when it comes to eye contact, walking down the street I tried making eye contact with as many people and only 4 out of about 30 looked back.

Best advice is to go up and strike up conversation with them, when your 3ft away just say "Hi", they probably just don't want you to think their freaks by gawking at you.

 

[Sammo]

Ask yourself....

"How can i get people to give me more eye contact?"

Once you ask yourself that question maybe things will become a bit clearer.

 

[Evil-Rom]

Maybe your coming off as some kind of stalkerish stare?

 

[123guy]

how can you look a girl in the eye without making it a stare when you walk down the streets? i find that when i do look then in the eye, it feels like i'm staring at them..

 

[KeepitKINO]

looking away at about 10 feet it normal human behavior.

 

[tx_xp]

Originally posted by 123guy
how can you look a girl in the eye without making it a stare when you walk down the streets? i find that when i do look then in the eye, it feels like i'm staring at them..

Smile

 

[Microphone Fiend]

It's natural for people to look away when they get close. A lot of people are shy now-a-days. I rememer when I my one-itis, if she got within about 5 feet I wouldn't even look up, I don't know why because I looked all the other time, just human nature I guess.

When you think about it, this is the other person showing that they aren't very confident and need you to take control of the situation, so whenever you see someone do that, just say "Hi" or start a conversation with them, they will like you for it.

If you catch them looking at you and they look away instantly, just stare at them until they muster the courage to look back, to see if they have gained your attention, and they ALWAYS DO!

Some tricks you can do is put yourself in their constant site. For example if you are in class still, sit around the teacher or board so when she goes to take notes or listen to the teacher she sees you, adn if you casually look around you will have EC with her.

 

[mikel]

If she likes you they will look at you in the eyes. If she double takes or anything like that, she is attracted to you. But just because she doesn't smile doesn't mean she isn't, it might mean she is shy. JMHO

 

[Eternal]

Originally posted by mikel
If she likes you they will look at you in the eyes. If she double takes or anything like that, she is attracted to you. But just because she doesn't smile doesn't mean she isn't, it might mean she is shy. JMHO

DING!! Best reply so far. Oh, and the double take...classic.

 

[GlutusMaximus86]

Some pretty good advice so far. I went to Kings Dominion (Amusement Park) and I got some good practice making eye contact. I didn't try and strike a conversation with any girl because my dad was with me and its sort of werid trying to talk to a girl when your dad is standing right next to you. One thing that may help girls to at least look at you is a funny tshirt. I.E. today at Kings I wore a shirt with Homer lying on the couch in his underwear with a bunch of unhealthy/fatty snacks on the floor in front of the couch saying "Its all Good!". I caught a lot of people looking at it and one girl asked me where I bought it. The main thing though is just keep practicing eye contact.

 

[grungeman]

How much of a smile works best for you guys?

 

[skaterguy97]

thx for all the responses guys! i was starting to get a little frustrated there.

 

[seloifter]

you have to understand that it is VERY hard for anyone to look someone else in the eye for extended periods of time. It's so intimidating for some reason (there is some real deep genetics **** here..... it's not just humans, either...... if you stare a wild animal in the eye they'll take it as a challenge...... and either run away or charge )

this is especially true in high school, with girls, who are very easily intimidated

what you should do is make yourself warmer, by smiling, and be careful how your eyes look. SMILE WITH YOUR EYES! A look can be warm, or it can be downright scary.... look at yourself in the mirror, sometimes if you focus too much your eyes make you look like a serial killer...... but if you ease up, smile, and then move your lips back as though you weren't smiling, your eyes actually seem very warm and inviting!

 

[Captain Anonymous]

Originally posted by grungeman
How much of a smile works best for you guys?

a BIIIIIIG

But don't seem like you are laughing or anything, just a big friendly warm smile that will light up her day.

 

[DJ Chubby]

I think you guys are giving great advice, but what about the other side?

I usually dress up really nicely for work, and am always getting eye contact on the train or in public places. I'll give you an example:

I was on the train today and this HB9 was looking at me. I kept eye contact for about 5 seconds, grinned a little and looked away. When I looked back, she was still looking at me and then finally looked away. During the time I was on the train, I'd close my eyes to rest or just listen to my walkman, and when I'd look up again, she'd be looking again for a few seconds, and then she'd look away.

Now what do I do with this? This is a pretty regular occurrence for me, and I have no clue what to do. Do I approach or what? Should I smile and wait for them to say something? And in this case, she was sitting across the train (no other available seats), so how do I work out something like that?

I was always under the impression that approaching in public places such as the train would really weird out the girl (oh btw, I live in NYC). So what would you guys suggest for this?

And skater, please don't think I'm trying to steal the thread.. I think the other side is just as important, because it makes me feel like I am missing out on golden opportunities every day by just not doing anything. But then again, if they are "just looking", I don't feel like getting rejected on the train either. Please comment guys.

 

[mikel]

How big of a smile? If it's not a genuine smile then its going to look goofy.


DJ Chubby: If she was looking at you like that, then she was attracted to you. If you were looking at some hot babe, would you be mad if she introduced herself?

 

[21-Q'z]

u said they stared DOWN.....starin DOWN is a positive sginal isnt it?

 

[oakraiderz2]

Originally posted by 21-Q'z
u said they stared DOWN.....starin DOWN is a positive sginal isnt it?

NO!!!! Animals stare each other down, ppl stare each other down when they DISLIKE one another. Therefore making it an aggressive "tactic". Meaning.....DONT DO IT....unless your dumbass smiles.