The Gambler
Senior Don Juan
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- Aug 8, 2012
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Mr. Jibbles,
I have learned over the years that everything is relative.... For example, how many guys were hot-shot athletes at their high school of 400 students, then moved on to college and were barely good enough to make the team? We all have our own versions of this. What I say is don't even try to compare yourself to anyone else, unless you are strictly doing it within the context of SELF-IMPROVEMENT. The you of today should be compared to the you of six months ago... THAT is how your progress should be charted. Of course, being drug-free now, you may think you've taken a few steps backwards... But you have not.
I am older than you, and married, but I have a wife whose personality fits mine almost perfectly. We are both naturally quiet, introverted people who have learned how to take control and deal with situations in our jobs and families when necessary.
Maybe things are different with younger women these days, but I doubt it... I still believe there are many young ladies out there where playing the "full game" simply is not required. I see it here all the time... "She's a great girl, we have nothing but good times and great communication, she gives me my space and has other interests.... Should I go NC for a month???"
Keep looking for the type you really want, because she is out there. I have one, and you will too one day. Learn more about C-Type personalities... a gal like that would be a great fit for you.
The Gambler
I have learned over the years that everything is relative.... For example, how many guys were hot-shot athletes at their high school of 400 students, then moved on to college and were barely good enough to make the team? We all have our own versions of this. What I say is don't even try to compare yourself to anyone else, unless you are strictly doing it within the context of SELF-IMPROVEMENT. The you of today should be compared to the you of six months ago... THAT is how your progress should be charted. Of course, being drug-free now, you may think you've taken a few steps backwards... But you have not.
I am older than you, and married, but I have a wife whose personality fits mine almost perfectly. We are both naturally quiet, introverted people who have learned how to take control and deal with situations in our jobs and families when necessary.
Maybe things are different with younger women these days, but I doubt it... I still believe there are many young ladies out there where playing the "full game" simply is not required. I see it here all the time... "She's a great girl, we have nothing but good times and great communication, she gives me my space and has other interests.... Should I go NC for a month???"
Keep looking for the type you really want, because she is out there. I have one, and you will too one day. Learn more about C-Type personalities... a gal like that would be a great fit for you.
The Gambler