not calling back... disinterest or just disrespect?

[golf299]

there's a girl im pursuing, and she's a great girl. everything about her is pretty sweet except one thing: she has NO phone etiquette. her best friend, and others around her, have told me how horrible she is at getting back to people...its even become an inside joke between me and the girl in question.


the problem is that it really bugs me. i mean, it's not hard to call someone back. i call people back if i miss their call, and i expect the same from others.

this girl NEVER answers her phone, so i always have to leave a message and she usually calls back a couple days later. the latest message i left was as follows: "hey HB7.5, it's golf299, im planning on going to xxx on sunday night and was wondering if u'd like to come along. give me a call back either way so i know whether or not to ask someone else."

no call back.

am i wrong to next this girl, even though supposedly she's interested?

 

[Eileen]

Since it's an ingrained behavior (she does this to everyone, it's not specific to just you or your situation) and you don't like that behavior, I'd next her.

If she's this bad now about it, in the early stages when people are still trying to impress each other, just imagine how bad she'll be when she relaxes a bit. It's your call. Either you think your able to deal with that or not.

 

[GropeDope]

She sounds like a shady ***** to me. I can't stand shady people like that who think they are so special that they dont have to call anyone back. Its done for that imaginary ego they want to have. I'm not gonna say anything more regarding her, but do me a favor bro: if you ever get to hit that, bang her in the ass for me, and ram it so hard that she wont be able to **** for a week. You'd be a hero in my eyes..

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

To answer your question - yes, it is disinterest and disrespectful - so don't be her attention fool that chases her and makes her feel special when she isn't - this action degrades you - separate your self from the others that beg for her attention and do not call her, ever!

only let her call you to set up a date - period. If she tells you to call her back at anytime , do not do it - if you do wait at least 5 days

 

[Big Pappy]

Can you not see the forest even though those trees are in the way?

There are several ways to ask a girl out. Don't ever call this girl. She's clearly "not a phone person".

If you would like the pleasure of this girl's company, you have to actually be able to talk to the girl.

Where did you meet her? Go find her and tell her that she will meet you at xxxx at YYYY time. If she can't do that, then you are very clear on where she stands. She stands alone. Without you.
See how cheaply you found that out?


Let's take a closer look.

there's a girl im pursuing

-golf299


Why are you pursuing her? Whenever you chase something, it will run from you.

i expect the same from others.

Do you? You've already made a joke out of it with this girl. You've told her that you think it's funny when you made a joke out of it.

Apparently, this girl is rude to all of her friends. Why would you find this behavior acceptable? Because she's pretty and you want to nail her, I suppose.

This girl, as pretty and sweet as she is, is not going to change overnight. Moreover, why should she? Instead of holding her accountable as a grown up, you've cracked jokes about it.

Do what you like, sir. If I were you, I would call this girl one last time and say this:

Hey, I just thought I'd check and see if you were doing anything in about an hour. I've got something really interesting to discuss with you and your voice mailbox isn't going to hold it all.

Then, do not answer the phone for the next five days. Not from any number that you don't recognize or hers. If she never gets back to you, next yourself. If she does, let her wait...and wait....and wait.

Prove to yourself that you could care less about her. If she has any interest she'll come around, otherwise, you got off cheap.

 

[golf299]

thanks for all the replies guys!

to clear one thing up: i didnt simply "make a joke" out of her not calling back... i used the fact that she doesnt call back to make/poke fun at her. i was making fun of her, neg hitting, for her lack of punctuality and the fact that she didnt call people back. but we were both laughing at it too... so i never really let her know it was disrespectful, at least not in a serious way, only in a joking manner...

anyway, i do not plan on ever calling this girl again.

 

[ShortyBrown]

smart move