Not a fan of BJs and handjobs- is this normal?

[DJNiceGuy]

Hey guys, as far as I can tell from talking with my friends and what I read on here, I'm the only guy on earth who doesn't really care for BJs. I have not gotten off even once with a BJ, but every girl that has given me one has gotten pretty frustrated because I go from hard to soft pretty quickly. They generally take it as an insult, but I tell them that I just don't respond to BJs as a general rule. Does anyone else have this experience? Not sure what's going on, as it should make me hard, but doesn't.

I've only gotten off once from a handjob, and this girl did an incredible job. I do just fine when having intercourse, and it seems that is the only thing that works for me. You would think girls would be thrilled that I don't require BJs, but most get really annoyed...

This has to be mental I'm thinking. Wondering if I can change this. Is it a control thing or a sensitivity thing? Any suggestions?

 

[Mike32ct]

It's not uncommon.

HJs have never worked for me. I honestly couldn't enjoy BJs either for the longest time. Until I got a REALLY good one. The teacher in Vegas gave me a BJ that rocked my world lol. Now I like them.

Ultimately, it comes down to sensitivity. Do you FAP a lot or look at porn? It can make you much less sensitive because you train your body to respond to your hand. Then it can be much more difficult to respond to BJs/HJs.

I'm on the no FAP diet. I would recommend it to, among other things, improve your sensitivity to a chick's mouth. Then even a not-so-great BJ should feel good.

 

[Don_Dom]

No, it's not a big deal. I'm not much into either myself.

I've yet to meet a girl who gives as good a hand to me as I do myself. And with BJs, I tend to take a bit to finish and usually their jaw gets tired....knowing this I start thinking about teeth lol and get distracted, taking longer, etc. Always have a hard time relaxing for that duration and I would rather go for sex anyway.

But I do see your dilemma. I came up in the pre-lewenski days when oral was something you tended to do with your girlfriend after sex started getting routine. Now the hummers are more of a precursor. Mike gives good advice above.

Don't sweat it and go for the bang, my man.

 

[Who Dares Win]

Just think about the fact that *******s are the best gift a woman can give you, you have all the pleasure and no responsibility...you dont have to care if she is coming or not.

Personally a ******* in a back alley from a girl just met at the club is what I would call a successful night.

I have a similar problem to yours but during intercourse, everyday girls just have loose pvssies nowadays, on feb I even asked a girl if it was inside.

And before you make jokes I measured mine and its on average or slightly above average in most europe as size.

Right now that only thing that match your hard fist is a tight ass, that for sure will provide the pressure you need.

 

[LMFAO]

Handjobs are rubbish.

bl0wjobs are great if done properly when she's properly into it with spit and gagging. That said it doesn't compare to properly ramming a girl from behind, with her urging you on.

Girls love to give bjs, I turned one down and she said "you don't want a bl0wjob?" with this stare.

 

[DJNiceGuy]

Thanks for the responses guys. Nice to know I'm not alone in this. I will try to get my girlfriend to go very gentle on it and slowly and see if that makes a difference. Perhaps if we make this an experiment and learning opportunity it could work...

 

[rearea]

Its fine. Everyone is different sexually

 

[Bible_Belt]

2 words:


fat chicks

 

[Your_Royal_Flyness]

To each his own. I'll tell you one thing.......if she's FLY, I will not turn a woman down who wants to sing on the mic