J. Darko said:
I understand where you are coming from, but the problem is that the threads on this board no longer support the idea of becoming a better version of ourselves.
I also see where you are coming from, but have you noticed how the last few weeks, the ones posting the most seem to be the ones who've already had success in creating a better them? Look in the Mature Men forum, you hardly see any posts about when to call next or what should they text or whether those IOI's a woman were handing out were real or not.
It's the lack of posts from new usernames and new people that make the board seem almost lopsided. And yet, in the past few weeks, some of the best discussions have happened on this board. Whether I agree with it or not, is a whole different story.
I will agree with the increased negativity as of late in a lot of threads, almost a Pook-ish evolution of sorts.
Instead, the focus is now on being bitter about the lack of self improvement before visiting Sosuave and projecting that bitterness on women and society.
For example, people who told us that we should be ourselves, perhaps meant to say that we should be the best version of ourselves. But we never got that message, that is, until we became a member of this board. Therefor, we shouldn't blame women and society for giving bad advice, but we should blame ourselves for our bad interpretation of the advice thats been given to us.
Second, your point of view that there is only a handful of quality women and calling this 'the ugly truth' is really one sided and typical of the sosuave sub-culture. There's another side you don't see: the women that broke your heart may very well be high quality girls for other guy's and in other times. People change, people improve, you change, you improve, women change, women improve. And be honest, you don't know all women in this world and neither does anyone on this board. It's not valid to claim that most women are low quality. You can't jump to conclusions.
And in this point, you are correct. Most women aren't low quality, they are low quality to ME, and I shouldn't generalize the world by my standards, but the fact remains, they are my standards. My ex could very well be high quality for you, but that doesn't change the fact that I wouldn't want to be with her again.
Maybe when I say "the ugly truth", I should really say "MY ugly truth".
These are just a few examples of all the poorly grounded assumptions you make in this posts. All these so called ''truths'' like being plugged into the Matrix, neg-hits working all the time, women being higher quality in 2005 and having to conform to a marriage paradigm are just overgeneralizations. Your jumping to conclusions based on your own experience and what you read on this board.
Once again, correct.
And what I meant by women being higher quality in 2005 is that in 2005 I was still naive and I thought women were sent to us by God for us to try to win over. I didn't know any better and any woman that showed any interest in me was instantly put on a pedestal. Now that idea of a pedestal has been shattered, and I see myself as a MUCH more valuable person than I was 5 years.
Hence, my own conclusions and my own experience... but you are right, what is my life, does not others lives' make.
By overgeneralizing and making assumptions on the basis of your experience and what you read on this board, you are basically putting on sunglasses and then complain the world is darker!
Really think for a second. Did someone point a gun to your head and ordered you to marry, buy a house and have kids? Of course not! Are you going to be murdered now that you afre unplugged from the matrix and know the ugly truth? Of course not! Is a girl who flakes on a date a worthless low quality ho who has never done anything right in here life and never will do anything admirable until the day she dies? Of course not!
Put those sunglasses down and focus on the bright side of life. If you want to see stupid lying, flaking and cheating b*tches, you will see them, everywhere, all the time. If you want to see beautiful angels that will suck your d*ck twice a day and if you want to see a girls who pray to god every sunday that you and them will be together until the end of time and then live an eternal life of eating fruit, watching the NBA and butt seksing in paradise without ever hurting you once, you will find them to. Its just a matter of putting on the right glasses.
If heaven is watching the NBA, count me in.
And no, no one is pointing a gun to my head, but when you've been taught since a certain age that life follows a certain structure, you fall in line like a lemming, walking slowly towards it. All of a sudden, those mental conventions are broken and you are set free.
I didn't know any better 5 years ago, I know better now, and knowing is what gives me the power to CHOOSE.
And that's what I loved about this forum and life in general, I can now CHOOSE and not settle.
Don't get me wrong, I don't hate women, I just hate the process itself and the games that come with it. I visit Loveshack every once in a while, and it just reminds me of how much BETTER of a person I've become and how the world isn't the perfect place I used to think it was and that no HUMAN being is flawless, man nor woman.
Still, there's nothing like enjoying a fine woman's anatomy.
And I DO focus on the bright side of life, which is why I am single and kidless and hope to stay that way. I have a good job and a bright future. Life IS good.
I, agree with you though, I'd honestly LOVE to see more posts from people with positive things to say, but most of the times, someone will chime in: "Oh, someone said that 5 years ago." Still, I don't think that should stop anyone from doing so. Like Warrior has told a few people here: Be the change you want to see.
If the posts of "improving oneself" have disappeared and have been replaced by posts of misogyny and misogamy, why not bring back posts of the former then? What's stopping us?
