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Master Don Juan
The girl im talking to got upset yesterday (or pretended to), because i brought up a subject she claimed to find tiresome.
1. I tried solving it yesterday. Before bedtime i said we cant say good night yet, because there are still bad feelings and we have to decide to forgive or not forgive first. She didnt respond to that directly. Today we said good morning, she left my next message on read so i asked her if shes still tired of me because of yesterday or just busy. She responded with a couple dismissive gifs. I said i didnt mean to make such a problem but if she wants me to leave her alone i will. She said ok thanks.
2. Later today she texted good night. Then said i should apologise, so i simply pointed out where i already did. She dismissed that and said im acting like a baby. Next she insinuated that shes not important to me, because i didnt try harder to talk to her when she sent the dismissive gifts so i failed the test. I said i knew thats what she was testing but i didnt want to play a game. She replied thats very nice of you clap for yourself. Then she went into a long monologue.
What i see is a precedent where she can act upset, dismiss my efforts at forgiveness and clear communication, insult me, put all the blame on me, gaslight me into thinking i need to make it up to her, and then have herself as the judge of whether im guessing what she wants well enough and making up to her well enough or not. It pissed me off but i didnt show that. I wanted to say in fact it's this behavior that makes me not love her but didnt say that yet. So, is this just normal female behavior or red flags? Im wondering because if this is what it will be like to live with a woman, it doesnt feel like it's worth it.
1. I tried solving it yesterday. Before bedtime i said we cant say good night yet, because there are still bad feelings and we have to decide to forgive or not forgive first. She didnt respond to that directly. Today we said good morning, she left my next message on read so i asked her if shes still tired of me because of yesterday or just busy. She responded with a couple dismissive gifs. I said i didnt mean to make such a problem but if she wants me to leave her alone i will. She said ok thanks.
2. Later today she texted good night. Then said i should apologise, so i simply pointed out where i already did. She dismissed that and said im acting like a baby. Next she insinuated that shes not important to me, because i didnt try harder to talk to her when she sent the dismissive gifts so i failed the test. I said i knew thats what she was testing but i didnt want to play a game. She replied thats very nice of you clap for yourself. Then she went into a long monologue.
What i see is a precedent where she can act upset, dismiss my efforts at forgiveness and clear communication, insult me, put all the blame on me, gaslight me into thinking i need to make it up to her, and then have herself as the judge of whether im guessing what she wants well enough and making up to her well enough or not. It pissed me off but i didnt show that. I wanted to say in fact it's this behavior that makes me not love her but didnt say that yet. So, is this just normal female behavior or red flags? Im wondering because if this is what it will be like to live with a woman, it doesnt feel like it's worth it.
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