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Ok, for starters I'm calling this a noobie question because it seems like such a simple thing to ask but i will ask anyway because I'm losing my touch a lil bit and not sure about this situation.So, if you have nothing helpful to say to me here please don't respond. So, here goes.

Alyssa is a girl at works my local grocery store and I always thought she was cute. I'd see her, admire and go about my business. In the past even if we've made some eye contact she didn't give much of a reaction. Lately (maybe I'm reading too much into it), when I see her she smiles and says hi. Here and there I've made brief convo with her. A few days ago when I had gone to the store even though I hadn't stopped at her register. We made eye contact she smied and asked me to have a good night (That was new). I had said to myself I'd approach her to get her # and see if she'd like to go out (Just looking for the best time).

Surprisingly, I had seen her at my college today (apparently we go to the same school too, lol). So, I approached her smiled and started talking to her (asking her what she was going to school for and what her life outside of work was like. She told me she's always busy (1st bad sign). She said she works a lot, school and at free times sees movies with friends. She did ask me what I was going to school for as well. I told her I had to get going but before I could ask her for her number she said " I guess I'ill see you at around" (the other bad sign). Given she didn't even ask for my name and how busy she said she was I figured she might not have been interested. So, I just left. I haven't totally given up on the idea of giving it another try. My question in all of this is when a girl states that she's always busy with this and that and doesn't have much time for bla... is that always a sign she's not interested and to just move on. Especially if she doesn't even ask for my name?
 

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Ok, guys I need an answer that's why I posted. Sometimes I feel discouraged posting here. Posting in someone else's thread is a kind of no no isn't it?
 

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Dude, as of right now its not sounding too good. Continue being social whenever you see her but I wouldn't be expecting a whole lot out of her right now.

Just keep running game and DHVing and who knows.
 

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Most women expect you to be a man and take the leadership. Truth is that the whole "i'm always busy" crap could have just been a way to elevate her status and make it seem you're lucky to have her time. On the other hand, if she weren't interested in you whatsoever, she'd just ignore you.

She could be interested in being friends thinking you're an AFC, and you must prove her wrong. There's no real way to know if a girl is into you unless you step in and do what you have to do. Girls who are worthy of your time will NOT approach you or start interaction or interest; she giving you a smile or eye contact is the farthest it'll go.

In conclusion, be a leader and start interaction with girls, especially at school. Don't get the oneitis disease and spend too much time on this girl. Get her number next time and if she isn't responsive then move on right to the next. You are a DJ and you have options, it's time you start acting as such. PS: I hate it when people don't answer too!
 

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jafyk said:
My question in all of this is when a girl states that she's always busy with this and that and doesn't have much time for bla... is that always a sign she's not interested and to just move on. Especially if she doesn't even ask for my name?
I thought your question will be: "am i on the right path to make good friends with this girl?"
Yes. Perfect. Keep it going
 

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jafyk said:
My question in all of this is when a girl states that she's always busy with this and that and doesn't have much time for bla... is that always a sign she's not interested and to just move on. Especially if she doesn't even ask for my name?

Why were you waiting for her to ask your name? Do you even know her name? You should have introduced yourself.


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Despite popular belief some women say they are busy because they are, in fact, busy. I know this may be surprising to people here but some women have things to do.

The only question is will she make time for you. If a women is busy and makes time for you, then that's a strong sign that she's interested. If she's busy and doesn't make time for you then either she's really busy and just can't find the time (but is still interested) or she's not interested.

So basically, just because a women says she's busy does not mean she's not interested.

Furthermore, romangod hit the nail on the head. You should have introduced yourself and gotten her name.

So what do you do now? You have to find out if she's interested or not, so ask her if she's free. NOTICE: If she says she's busy, don't freak out! It doesn't mean she's not interested, she might be actually busy that day. Try another time.
 

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First off, why are you so worried about just one girl? You should be spreading yourself out looking for openings with several girls. That's basic plate principle. It's also how you don't get fixated on one girl and ask us silly questions like this.

You ran into her once or twice but haven't done anything significant. That's pretty much all I got from this. So the only advice I can give is put in some more face time with her when you can but I wouldn't put it at the top of my list. You should really keep your eyes open for some other girls and make some head way there. Remember, you're a DJ. It should be what you do best.
 

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romangod said:
Why were you waiting for her to ask your name? Do you even know her name? You should have introduced yourself.


Cheers!
Yes, I know her name because she wears a name tag, lol. I see your point but the way I saw it... I figure if she was interested in getting to know me after I had spend time conversing with her for about 5-7 mins that some where inside of that time she'd say "hey, what's your name?" Sure if I went ahead and introduced myself would it really prove her interest level? Don't get me wrong in other scenarios I'd introduce myself. If it's someone I was meeting for the very first time.
 

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Outsider said:
Despite popular belief some women say they are busy because they are, in fact, busy. I know this may be surprising to people here but some women have things to do.

The only question is will she make time for you. If a women is busy and makes time for you, then that's a strong sign that she's interested. If she's busy and doesn't make time for you then either she's really busy and just can't find the time (but is still interested) or she's not interested.

So basically, just because a women says she's busy does not mean she's not interested.

Furthermore, romangod hit the nail on the head. You should have introduced yourself and gotten her name.

So what do you do now? You have to find out if she's interested or not, so ask her if she's free. NOTICE: If she says she's busy, don't freak out! It doesn't mean she's not interested, she might be actually busy that day. Try another time.
Thank you. This is the most helpful and insightful response I've got so far. Yes, I do know her name is Alyssa if I had no idea what her name was then I'd would've asked? How dumb do I seem, lol? Well, I'ill take your advice and give it another shot when next I see her. By the way what does a romangod know about dating a 2010 woman. Just kidding. The name had it coming esp in relation to this thread, lol.
 

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PRMoon said:
First off, why are you so worried about just one girl? You should be spreading yourself out looking for openings with several girls. That's basic plate principle. It's also how you don't get fixated on one girl and ask us silly questions like this.
PRMoon man you really don't understand. I haven't been able to sleep or eat store babe Alyssa is really getting to my heart (rolling my eyes...all that was sarcasm). Ahem! On a serious not I am not worried. Look at it this way I had an interaction with what could've been any beautiful girl out there. In the process something I felt was interesting occured and I came here to get an opinion so that when I find myself in a similar situation next time, I will be better informed and know how to handle the situation better. I feel no shame asking my silly question at least now I've got other perspectives I can keep at the back of my mind.

You ran into her once or twice but haven't done anything significant. That's pretty much all I got from this. So the only advice I can give is put in some more face time with her when you can but I wouldn't put it at the top of my list. You should really keep your eyes open for some other girls and make some head way there. Remember, you're a DJ. It should be what you do best.
Hmm, let's see I have ran past her a few times and did nothing about it. What's the rush? My post is based on actually sitting down next to her and having a meaningful conversation outside of the store where she works (and I waltz past her) So, I'm not fixated on her. I'm keeping my eyes open for other girls too. I'm still in the process of becoming a DJ. I'm way better than my days of falling in love with a girl I met online and had never met in person. That's how far I've come, lol. (cn't believe that was me). Thank you for your input all the same.
 

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Robyn923b said:
Most women expect you to be a man and take the leadership. Truth is that the whole "i'm always busy" crap could have just been a way to elevate her status and make it seem you're lucky to have her time. On the other hand, if she weren't interested in you whatsoever, she'd just ignore you.
It's always interesting how people here don't seem to really read through and then make assumptions. Anyway,She didn't seem that way when I was talking to her she seemed warm and receptive. Her comment on being busy was when I asked her about her life outside of work and what she does for fun etc.
She could be interested in being friends thinking you're an AFC, and you must prove her wrong. There's no real way to know if a girl is into you unless you step in and do what you have to do. Girls who are worthy of your time will NOT approach you or start interaction or interest; she giving you a smile or eye contact is the farthest it'll go.
Who knows maybe that's what she's thinking. Who knows I never stopped to think about it like that. I just explained to you in post I approached her and had a conversation with her and before I could ask for the number she said "I guess I'ill see you around" So, I just decided not to bother because I thought she may not be interested and was merely being friendly since I was a familiar face. Some times I talk to a girl I know I will always see around a few times before asking for her number. For me there's no rush. She's not the last girl on earth and even if I did ask and she gave it to me. It doesn't prove that the next interaction wouldn't be a flaky one or it might be a pleasant one.
In conclusion, be a leader and start interaction with girls, especially at school. Don't get the oneitis disease and spend too much time on this girl. Get her number next time and if she isn't responsive then move on right to the next. You are a DJ and you have options, it's time you start acting as such. PS: I hate it when people don't answer too!
Yes sir, I that's what I was planning on doing anyway. I did speak to her co-worker who's a friend of mine about her and he said although he doesn't know her that well. That she's a nice person (nice for lack of a better word) and that as much as he knows she's single.
 

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jafyk said:
Hmm, let's see I have ran past her a few times and did nothing about it. What's the rush? My post is based on actually sitting down next to her and having a meaningful conversation outside of the store where she works (and I waltz past her) So, I'm not fixated on her. I'm keeping my eyes open for other girls too. I'm still in the process of becoming a DJ. I'm way better than my days of falling in love with a girl I met online and had never met in person. That's how far I've come, lol. (cn't believe that was me). Thank you for your input all the same.
Glad you were cordial about this, no joking. It's difficult to "prepare" for situations in the future. You'll start running stuff over in your mind about the last encounter and the next thing you know you'll pretty much do the same thing again. Instead look inward and try to be more engaging in general with every one around you. It sounds silly and stupid but it gives you a conversational push when you happen across those chance encounters again.
 

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Ok, this is a follow up in case anyone interested might like one. I did see the girl again today. She had her ear piece on and was studying for her test. I just sat next to her and waved in front of her to get her attention. She took out her ear piece and I started talking to her she was responding with a smile. Told her I had just got out of a test myself (true), then asked her about her weekend, told her about mine. She seemed interested and conversational. So, I mentioned to her that I had forgot to introduce myself the last time and she said she knows me,lol. I told her my name all the same. Then I told her since she was studying I didn't wanna keep her. So, I told her I'd like to give her a call and she didn't hesitate in giving me her number. I got the number and then left. I don't know why I'm excited about this, lol. A mild case of oneitis maybe? Anyway, I just feel rusty. Thanks for your inputs.
 

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Way to go!
 

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jafyk said:
By the way what does a romangod know about dating a 2010 woman. Just kidding. The name had it coming esp in relation to this thread, lol.

Touche :crackup:

Cheers!

P.S. I see by your later post that you took my advice and introduced yourself. Good job. It looks like you're on your way.
 
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