Non verbal messages: how to read the body

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Some of the most obvious gestures and postures:

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ARMS CROSSED: When people feel unconfortable or in danger, the unconscious way to protect themselves is crossing their arms. Some girls even do it while holding their purse against the chest. NEVER approach someone [and less proppose her something] in that position. Move back a few, open your arms and make her talk until she feels comfortable again and changer the position of her arms.

Salesmen know this. Never try to sell something to a client that crossed his arms.

Watch also for more subtle ways of doing this like holding a bottle in front of them with both hands.

Hint: if the temperature dropped 20 degrees she's propably cold, not defending herself.

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POINTING WITH THE FEET: Go to a party and watch people's feet. When we feel attracted to someone we unconsciously point our body to that person. We have learned not to stare directly, but our feet tell the truth about who are looking at... Again, if a chick doesn't seem to notice you but her feet and body point to you, approach her. If they point to somebody else be cautious (specially if they point to one of your friends). Be more careful if she keeps the feet pointing to somebody else while talking to you for a while. If she starts poingting at you, go ahead, you're DJ's well.

Hint: Make sure she's not interested in someone who's right behind you and pointing to that person instead.

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LEGS OPEN/ CLOSED: Well, women are there chosing a man for opening her legs to him... So when they are with that man one of the signs she give him [again, unconscious] is keeping the legs open, like an invitation. If a woman is with the wrong man, legs keep crossed, and if she feels the man is dangerous she crosses the legs like making a knot (beware of this).

Again, other factors are relevant. If she's got a lot of space and keeps the leg closed it's not the same as if she's sharing the couch with 6 people and can barely move.
 

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How about your body: a good thing is to show contradictory messages. Don't look at her but point her with YOUR feet. Or talk to her while pointing your feet to her friend...

The most pathetic situation is a clueless guy talking to a girl, reclined towards her while she's got her arms crossed and reclines the body like getting away from the guy... Even if she smiles, she wants him to get away! Don't do that.

Watch people, when you read that a certain girl points at you and glances at you, approach her lightly. You know she noticed you, she doen't know how to read this, so you have an advantage. Come, go, move, then come back. She'll probably give you her phone so you don't need to show desperation.
 

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Another tip:

You are at a crowded place. You find a girl, she notices you, she points at you, you talk to her for a while. Then you dissapear with an excuse. Don't get back to where you were before talking to her.

If she's interested in you, SHE'LL BE LOOKING SEARCHING FOR YOU AT THE PLACE WHERE SHE FIST SAW YOU. She won't be obvious, but now you'll know she's looking for you.

(Again, I'm not talking about a casual look, I'm talking about moving her head repeately like she's expecting to find someone [you] there).
 

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It's all in the eyes. A study was done and people in love or that have a strong affinity for each other look each other in the eyes at least 75% of the time they're speaking. This means no looking away and holding long eye contact when facing each other. Also it means anything else going on in the room is cancelled out, just as if you two were the only ones in the room etc.

Another important one is she'll close to you, right up close, so she can look deeper into your eyes.
 

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Originally posted by tmpgstx
It's all in the eyes. A study was done and people in love or that have a strong affinity for each other look each other in the eyes at least 75% of the time they're speaking. This means no looking away and holding long eye contact when facing each other. Also it means anything else going on in the room is cancelled out, just as if you two were the only ones in the room etc.
Well, i was talking not about two people who love each other, but about two strangers in a crowded room... if you stare at her 75% of the time she'll call the police... ;)

stare at her eyes, then look somewhere else, then stare at her again... Then look at the feet... ;)
 

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lol .. i know. It goes without saying a crowed room, no don't mean that. I mean when you're talking to her.

If you haven't talked to her yet, then you have to look for other signs, such as touch and go looks. Some girls will be very forward and others won't be, but the signs are there nonetheless. It's pretty much the same thing you're doing to her when you like someone, just reverse in that scenerio.
 

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Originally posted by tmpgstx
It's pretty much the same thing you're doing to her when you like someone, just reverse in that scenerio.
I agree... You mean if lovers look themselves in a certain way, looking at a stranger at that way can help her develope a love for you...

(love, interest, phone number,. whatever you want from her)
 

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Originally posted by PopProducer
How about your body: a good thing is to show contradictory messages. Don't look at her but point her with YOUR feet. Or talk to her while ointing your feet to her friend...
Does anyone else agree with this - I can understand where the poster is coming from but it might be dangerous as you may look too uninterested?
 

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Id agree with it, since she wont realise it means you are uniterested, she will just subconsciouly pick up on the fact that she has not got all your attention and therefore has to work harder to earn it.
 

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The Tip on Feet Direction is Gold! I have used this before and know it works. People who are attracted to you more than anyone else in the room / near area, will usually point their feet toward you without knowing they are doing it.


A Few other tips on Body language

1. look in the mirror and do a light smile with your tounge stickin out just so it touches your bottom lip and you can see your top teeth abit. If you see any girl with a smile like that (i.e cheeky, sexy, seductive grin not the look of sincere pleasure or happiness) , Usually without the tounge you can be sure she is horny or interseted in you. It won't take to much to get anywhere with her cause she is in the mood.

2. She her playing with items of clothes or jewellery in a playful or stroking manner than she is probably interested in you or just in the mood. The classic "Hanging the shoe of the foot" in a playful / seductive way is also an indication.

3. In a group situation, if she occupies your imidiate space for any length of time when there is no reason for her to be there (i.e she is not talking to you or anyone near you) she could well be interested in you.
 
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