No sleepovers policy

[AmsterdamAssassin]

For those of you that live alone, I’m wondering how many of you have a clear no spending the night policy at your place?

I do not truly live alone, during the school week my teenage children stay at my house, they're with my ex on the weekends.

I only allow women I really trust and have had sex with to sleepover, because I have sexsomnia, which sounds funnier than it is.
Basically, what it comes down to is that I will have (mostly passive) s3x with a woman if they start cuddling or making out with me during the night. In general I sleep right through it, finding the evidence in the morning (sticky skin and her catlike grin). So I need my 'sleepovers' to respect my boundaries and not do anything with me that I wouldn't do when awake.
Apparently I'm really sweet when I sleep...

Also, because of my background, I also do not sleep soundly if there is a new factor in my environment - situational awareness is an issue that keeps me awake with someone new, it fades with familiarity but takes time. Likewise going to gals place to spend the night can be unnerving for the first few times.

I have a similar issues, although I can sleep everywhere there's always a part warning me when something is wrong. I never sleep far from my blades though.

If you’re seeing more than one person having a strict no stayovers policy makes it easier to schedule for the next day like Friday to Saturday what if the Friday gal gets it in her head she wants to have a late breakfast - NOT. It also avoids needing to put your foot down. I find it solves many issues.

I have several women, but they know about each other and they know that anyone causing animosity will not be welcome anymore, so I have no problem scheduling a different Friday night than a Saturday night or Sunday afternoon.

I understand the need for many members with multiple lovers to keep them separated, but I don't have that problem.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Either you give them a project, or they will make YOU a project. Which would you rather?

The moment a woman starts treating me like a project she can find her own way to the exit.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

One girl of mine always left/forgot ear rings and stuff at my place, it was kinda cute.

I put a bowl by the bed where they can live their jewellery (I prefer them to be without jewellery when I do shibari), but some of these girls 'forget' their jewellery to have an excuse to come back.

I got a plastic box from a hardware store with divisions (for different sizes of screws). Whenever I find something left behind I put it in an empty slot of the box, so that women who forget rings/bracelets/hangers/earrings can find them in the Lost & Found Box.

That way, they know that leaving crumbs is not the way to my heart.

Any woman who had to fish her own rings from a box that contains jewellery from other women is not liable to 'forget' her rings again.