Keep It Simple
there're so many people out there, on this site and others, claiming to be experts, filling your head with lines, routines, and other shenanigans to trick women into liking you, with a few good nuggets sprinkled in.
for the men out there like you, accension, who are still right on the cusp of figuring it out, it IS very confusing.
I have always found that the easiest way to success is to keep it as simple as possible.
-know that you are a man, and that you deserve the best from yourself, from your friends, and from your women, and you will tolerate nothing but.
-be self actualized. have confidence in yourself to solidify the aforementioned belief.
-understand how the world works. not all the girls will like you, and you will not like all the girls. accept it and love life even more for the challenge.
-above all, see the point above. love life. make everything you can of it, your time is short.
if you can get those things to become parts of your being, then you will find all of your issues evaporating, quickly.
as far as your initial points, i will tell you how I handle them, because even though i am young, i feel that i may be able to guide you with my insight.
We shouldn't call her until 1/2/3/x days:
You should be a busy man, who has time for calling a girl when he has time for calling her. if that's the very same day, then so be it. if it's not for a week, then that's fine too. the point is that the girl should be picking up on what kind of man she is dealing with-one who she WANTS to talk to on the phone.
Not to get attached to her:
As Bukowski_Merit and others have said, getting attached is totally okay when a girl is WORTHY of your feelings. you are a man whose feelings are very valuable and you dont waste them on low class individuals. another main thing to remember is that "the person in any interaction who cares the least, controls that interaction." and there's nothing that keeps a relationship fresher for a woman than thinking that there MAY BE somewhere deep inside you an ability to walk away. caring more than her gives up your power and makes the relationship stale.
That we shouldn't be mad if she has heaps of guy friends:
I dont know where you heard this. if a girl has heaps of guy friends, she is a non issue. these kinds of girls are not worth your time for anything other than carnal desires. once your sexual appetites are satisfied, abandon ship. these are not relationship girls.
scenario when i find it acceptable to date these types: early on, while being your joking fun self, say something like "oh yea, you're fun for now, but you and i would never work out long term. i cant stand girls with lots of guy friends." her response should be something along the lines of "oh well i dont really even talk to them... and if the right guy came along i would drop all of them at the drop of a hat." this is the ONLY acceptable response. if she says this, she has earned a bit longer to prove that she will in fact follow through on this. if she doesnt, abandon ship.
don't worry man. eventually you'll figure it out. dont stress so much about it.
just keep it simple.
there're so many people out there, on this site and others, claiming to be experts, filling your head with lines, routines, and other shenanigans to trick women into liking you, with a few good nuggets sprinkled in.
for the men out there like you, accension, who are still right on the cusp of figuring it out, it IS very confusing.
I have always found that the easiest way to success is to keep it as simple as possible.
-know that you are a man, and that you deserve the best from yourself, from your friends, and from your women, and you will tolerate nothing but.
-be self actualized. have confidence in yourself to solidify the aforementioned belief.
-understand how the world works. not all the girls will like you, and you will not like all the girls. accept it and love life even more for the challenge.
-above all, see the point above. love life. make everything you can of it, your time is short.
if you can get those things to become parts of your being, then you will find all of your issues evaporating, quickly.
as far as your initial points, i will tell you how I handle them, because even though i am young, i feel that i may be able to guide you with my insight.
We shouldn't call her until 1/2/3/x days:
You should be a busy man, who has time for calling a girl when he has time for calling her. if that's the very same day, then so be it. if it's not for a week, then that's fine too. the point is that the girl should be picking up on what kind of man she is dealing with-one who she WANTS to talk to on the phone.
Not to get attached to her:
As Bukowski_Merit and others have said, getting attached is totally okay when a girl is WORTHY of your feelings. you are a man whose feelings are very valuable and you dont waste them on low class individuals. another main thing to remember is that "the person in any interaction who cares the least, controls that interaction." and there's nothing that keeps a relationship fresher for a woman than thinking that there MAY BE somewhere deep inside you an ability to walk away. caring more than her gives up your power and makes the relationship stale.
That we shouldn't be mad if she has heaps of guy friends:
I dont know where you heard this. if a girl has heaps of guy friends, she is a non issue. these kinds of girls are not worth your time for anything other than carnal desires. once your sexual appetites are satisfied, abandon ship. these are not relationship girls.
scenario when i find it acceptable to date these types: early on, while being your joking fun self, say something like "oh yea, you're fun for now, but you and i would never work out long term. i cant stand girls with lots of guy friends." her response should be something along the lines of "oh well i dont really even talk to them... and if the right guy came along i would drop all of them at the drop of a hat." this is the ONLY acceptable response. if she says this, she has earned a bit longer to prove that she will in fact follow through on this. if she doesnt, abandon ship.
don't worry man. eventually you'll figure it out. dont stress so much about it.
just keep it simple.
