No motivation from dating anymore?

[ink_wizard]

Thanks for all the replies! I've had a read of all of them and have taken some of your ideas and thoughts on board. Let me just clear a few things up that I believe though. Firstly for me, I feel like I don't have the drive to even put myself out there anymore in direct hopes of attracting a woman. I haven't bothered with dating sites/apps this year as I have been too busy living life and I've had such a great year despite being single. I've reached a lot of my goals this year and have been overall more happy as a person since I've given up women/dating.

Don't get me wrong I still hold out a glimmer of hope to one day find the right woman but I do doubt it as well because I'm not willing to go back down the rabbit hole of going out on dates, wasting $$ on her, having to deal with their stupid games of "hot and cold" or playing hard to get and all the other hoops they make you jump through just to get a bit of a$$....life is stressful enough as it is and the thought of dealing with all that crap again to me is not worth it. I don't play games, I don't intend on becoming a future CEO or Hollywood star just to get a girl. I have friends, I go out when I feel like it, which isn't a lot lately because I'm trying to save and I work. Not the most glamorous lifestyle out and it does get lonely but that's life I guess.

 

[corrector]

Have a couple of friends so that women don't think you're a psycho. And believe me if you're social enough to want a girlfriend a couple of friends will be ok for you. Step two find yourself an Asian girl really easy just go to Asian areas and talk to them. Most of them are so polite they ll go out with you just because you asked. After a while you're Asian girl will want to hang out with you all the time. Step 3 don't let her. Have activities and goals in your life and go do them. And never justify yourself. If she starts with the dreaded why questions e.g. why do you have to go hiking on Saturday look surprised say because I want to and walk out of the room.

Asians throw themselves at white guys, so I don't think, assuming the OP is white (which we don't know), all doesn't have to do anything except be white and talk to an Asian girl and that's that. A cop-out for getting a white woman.

 

[ubercat]

I take the pragmatic not idealistic approach. What s the minimum the OP can do to get a life and a girl. Experience creates confidence.

 

[ubercat]

Being an agile guy I'm also a great believer in short feedback Loops

 

[SW15]

29 is a tough age. You're not a young college kid yet you're not fully established in your career. Trust me things will be way better when you're 40.

In general, 29 is be a better age to be than 40. The typical 29 year old has easier access to younger women than the typical 40 year old. The typical 29 year old is most likely to be dating 24-29 year olds. The typical 40 year old is going to struggle to attract women younger than 33-35.

Rollo Tomassi had his famous SMV peak chart where he promoted the idea that women peak in their early 20s and men peak in their late 30s. He put the exact ages as 23 peak for women and 36 peak for men.

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There are a small number of guys who do very well in their late 30s/early 40s. Most men in their 30s/40s are pussie beggars for similarly aged women who often have a fair amount of baggage.

I went to a party with a chick last night. She spent a third of the time blatantly staring at this Chad guy's azz and biting her lower lip.

The girl and I are both 40. The "Chad" guy is not a textbook Chad. He's a 52 yo guy that women in my social circle brag about looks-wise, mostly facial features. I'll leave it at that.

It was astounding that a 40 year old woman disrespected a 40 year old man like that. I hope you never talked to her again and blocked her calls/texts.

 

[corrector]

It was astounding that a 40 year old woman disrespected a 40 year old man like that. I hope you never talked to her again and blocked her calls/texts.

What makes it astounding? You have expectations that woman, that are 40 year old or older are decent and younger girls are immature? That is not always the case.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Please stop reviving 7 year old threads.

That's not something that is allowed under forum rules. If you want to start a thread about a similar topic please start a new one.