No dates+No ass+Boring life=Intraining

[tsmith2334]

In training, you seem like beavis or butthead: I wanna thcore!! Aaargggghh its never gonna happen!!!

Execpt those guys are 15, and you are 20-something (I hope you're not older than 30)

In all fairness, you probably don't know what it's like to be that old and never have kissed a girl. Now I'm not there either, but I can understand the feeling.

It's easy for a successfull outsider to spew motivation, but when you're actually at the point, it's hard to be motivated no matter how you look at it.

 

[Evolution]

In all fairness, you probably don't know what it's like to be that old and never have kissed a girl. Now I'm not there either, but I can understand the feeling.

It's easy for a successfull outsider to spew motivation, but when you're actually at the point, it's hard to be motivated no matter how you look at it.

True, but also realize that no one is gonna hand out anything for you on a silver platter.

I've was trapped a dark period of my life too. But, it was motivation and the desire to change. That brought me back on my feet.

 

[tsmith2334]

True, but also realize that no one is gonna hand out anything for you on a silver platter.

I've was trapped a dark period of my life too. But, it was motivation and the desire to change. That brought me back on my feet.

I applaud you for getting out of your slump, and agree with the silver platter cliche. It's very true. I've increased my confidence and happiness by leaps and bounds since my teenage years, but I still struggle with it.

It's a vicious cycle that only gets worse over time. You find yourself less motivated by your lack of experience as each week, month and year passes. Things become bleeker.

It's very easy for a guy who gets laid often to come here and drop motivation pointers, but as the listener continues to fail, life just becomes more depressing.

 

[ItsOnNow]

I myself have been suffering,if you want to call it that, with a similar problem for a long time. I just have not been able to pull myself out of it all the way. I don't know how to explain it other than I just always feel different in many ways. I mean I have had the desire to change for a long time now,yet I am unable too. Its also my somewhat inexperience I think.

 

[Hector]

hey bro its ok, you're putting too much pressure on you're self. To be honest Im somehow in the same situation. Not entirely in the same spot but on the same ground. some of these guys are right but Im about to post a thread called "HEY YOU" or something like that you'll know its from me, just look for started thread, my name is Hector, just so you know.

 

[ItsOnNow]

Well then Hector,what's you're deal man?

 

[DonJuan11]

Got to love those people who complain about "no job, no money, no body, no friends, never kissed a girl and no sex in the near future." but all I want is a hot girl to have sex with on the weekend because I'm me and they should pity me.

Fellas, if you come on this site, we can help you but you have to PUT IN THE EFFORT. There is NO QUICK FIX and NO MAGIC PILL you can swallow so the girl will fall in love with you and sleep with you. The Matrix is for the movies. That's why Neo can fly and you can't; and why Players got action while you were standing in line for 5 hours for advance tickets.

 

[SharinganUser]

There isn't anything wrong with any of you. Have you ever considered that it's not something wrong on the inside, but something is wrong with your environment?

Take up a new hobie, change jobs, go traveling. These aren't things that require years of soul searching and self improvement. If you do those things, you'll automatically find your niche and improve yourself.

 

[Hector]

what do you mean whats my deal? I was once or recently in that spot and now im not and just want to help out

 

[intraining]

It's easy for a successfull outsider to spew motivation, but when you're actually at the point, it's hard to be motivated no matter how you look at it.

I wish my friends could see it that way but they dont.They always tell me how easy it is and im trying to tell them they have never been in this situation before and they say that they have.In high school they were very popular and girls loved them and i was the quiet guy.Oh yah i went to prom with 8 people and i was the only one without a date.I rented a penguin suit and chipped in for the limo all for nothing.Why did i not bother to ask anyone? cuz i kno nobody would go with me.I have a job and i have money i also have a car.

I was very unhappy at my old job so did something about it.I was going to a cc and was in the automotive field.I landed a job just 2 months ago and got a job at a garage.I bought my first toolbox and ive been paying crazy amounts of money on tools(matco box and tools).My desire is to become a very good technician someday and my teacher could see that in me thats why he recommended me to that job.

So you see i can do something when it relates to my career but when it comes to girls i just cant.This might sound stupid and well actually it is.I have the desire to get a girl and work hard but its not that easy for me.I have things going against me(my looks/my build(well its probably fine))

 

[Interceptor]

Intraining, what do you get out of wallowing in Self Pity and trying to make others see how much you Suffer?
Now, before you get jumpy, realzie that I understand that it is every perosn's right to own their feelings, and we feel them differnetly than others.

But I have to ask the question, becasue you, like so many other guys here just complain and complain and complain.and "Woe is Me...poor me...poor me...look at how much I suffer...I CANNOT do ANYTHING about this"

this is what you are portraying to the outside world.
Did you know that?

You are saying to the world that you are Helpless.
That you are simply INCAPABLE of changing your self and yuor outcomes to benefit you.
You are THAT WEAK???
Helpless?
Incapable?
Are you a Quadraplegic?


You are projecting an image to people that you are weak, suffering, in pain, depressed, lonely, and feel isolated and unloved.

DO you think people want to be with someone like that?

Think of what you are COMMUNICATING to People.


Again, I say it is NOT WRONG to feel Depressed, and not Loved.

But you are in a vicous cycle and are only nicreasing these effects on you.

ANd unfortunately for all of us, the way the world is now, if you do not tke steps to get out of your depressions and sadness, the more you will send people who could help you.......AWAY.

So I ask you.

WHat are you getting out of this?

I kno w you need attention.
Iknow you need love and affection.

BUt you must understand that you cannot EXPECT this right now, in your frame of mind.

You must learn to be INDEPENDENT.........and GAIN POWER to CREATE your OWN REALITY.where you are loved and appreciated.

But you will never get there if you wallow in self pity like this.

WHat if you were alone on a deserted sland right now?
No food, shelter, or companions??



WHo would you go cry to?

WHO?


For now, this is the attitude you must consider.

It is not often that someone will come and 'save' us or "rescue" us.

We must gain power from WITHIN.

INSIDE YOUR SELF.

DO THIS FIRST!!!!!!!!!!

Read this:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=137740

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=136262

 

[Al Moh.]

intraining, I was in a similar situation half a year ago, even though I was between 18 and 19. Then I found this website and how did this help me?

Seriously, I still didn't kiss a girl or had sex, BUT this is not as important anymore. I changed my point of view, I am positive, going to school everyday with a smile on my face, being cheerful and everything. It's basic stuff but some of my friends already noticed some changes going on. People say that you can't expect to get instant results. But you do. You notice that people are happier to see you, willing to talk longer to you and things like that.

I see this as successes and every of these little successes increases my selfconfidence and overall happiness. It's like a positive cycle.

What I think you have to do is make some more friends. Do some kind of sport. Same interest equal lots of things to talk about.

Well and I am sorry for mistakes, I am actually from Germany, so my english isn't as good as yours.

 

[LostAndConfused]

Interceptor if I could still give rep I'd give you like 5 for that post

 

[Interceptor]

Imagine , right now, if you had NO FEAR.

Imagine, right now,what woudl you do if you had Confidence?

How would you ACT?

What things would you DO DIFFERENTLY??
Do you se eyourself now?

How do you see yourself?

I mean, can you even visualize it?


How FAR apart are YOU now... and the IMAGE of you being confident and Secure?


Also, ifyou can see yoursefl confident, brave, courageous, and strong..

what is it then that is holding you BACK from actuially BEING that guy RIGHT NOW????



Think about that.

 

[DJVladdy]

Lol Interceptor ur not Paul McKenna are you

 

[Interceptor]

Vlad, who is Paul Mckenna?

 

[DJVladdy]

Imagine , right now, if you had NO FEAR.

Imagine, right now,what woudl you do if you had Confidence?

How would you ACT?

What things would you DO DIFFERENTLY??
Do you se eyourself now?

How do you see yourself?


That's what u wrote, and these are almost exact words of a British hypnotist author of "instant confidence", a writer, a psychologist. And yes, ive read the book AND listened to the hypnosis CD, im not ashamed of it. Helped me alot in my journey, now nobody would say I'm shy or have low confidence, but back then i had low confidence and self esteem. Obviously you are not him, but you share similar views.

 

[Interceptor]

Imagine , right now, if you had NO FEAR.

Imagine, right now,what woudl you do if you had Confidence?

How would you ACT?

What things would you DO DIFFERENTLY??
Do you se eyourself now?

How do you see yourself?


That's what u wrote, and these are almost exact words of a British hypnotist author of "instant confidence", a writer, a psychologist. And yes, ive read the book AND listened to the hypnosis CD, im not ashamed of it. Helped me alot in my journey, now nobody would say I'm shy or have low confidence, but back then i had low confidence and self esteem. Obviously you are not him, but you share similar views.

Whoah!
LOL!

That's cool, man.

I did not know that.

I'll look him up right now.

Thanks, Vlad.

 

[Interceptor]

http://www.paulmckenna.com/

Looks pretty interesting.
He's an NLP guy too.

Will take a deeper look later when I have time.

Thanks again.

 

[DrD77]

i feel the same way as you man. i have one ****ing friend. never been kissed, never had sex, never even really hugged a girl. its really started to **** with my head. i think im going insane.