No contact - Right response?!

[Onion]

Read a few tips on how to handle yourself after being dumped. A week ago, she broke up with me on the phone. I called, sent her endless text asking her to reconsider for a couple of days after that. By the third day she offered to be friends with no talk of getting back together again ever.
I declined by saying
'No I cant be friends with you, if you change your mind contact me and we would work things through'.
She replied
'Wish you best of luck until/if we ever talk again'
I left it at that and disappeared. She sent me a text after 3 days of no contact saying this
'Good morning. Sorry for breaking the code of silence. Wanted to say thank you. The item was delivered yesterday and plan to try it today. Have a great one. Thank you'
Normally I reply back in just 2 mins to her text. I didnt reply until this morning (24hrs later) saying
'Good morning, It's cool'
Is that the right response? Does it convey any interest from my end? I want this chick back.

 

[djthiago1]

Forget your ex, and move on, i know you want to go back, but it's never worth it, women don't change, all the crap she's done before she would do again.

It's called No Contact for a reason. DONT CONTACT, and that includes replying.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=160056

 

[Fugitive]

No you f*cked up by going all beta and begging her to reconsider. Now you've lost her respect. You shouldn't have responded to her at all.

You can go NC now but it won't make much difference because its her who has decided that NC is the best way forward anyway. Basically there's no way you can get her back. You're best option is to date other women immediately.

 

[Onion]

Fujitive, how is it that it's her who has decided NC is best way forward? I did reject her LJBF request and went dead. She's the one who initiated contact. I know i fvcked up by begging initially tho.

 

[salinechow]

33 Days NC

You have to remember. No Contact is for YOU! Yes, once in a while demonstrating that you can disappear sends them into a tizzy to come chase you, but really, NC is a strategy to help YOU!!
I have been doing it. It has been very hard at times. But each day I remind myself...I am doing this for me. I am doing this to build MY confidence. I am doing this to realize there are 3billion other girls. I am doing this to help me believe it is her loss to realize, or not. I am doing this to discipline myself and better myself. I am doing this to stop being co-dependent on women who I make excuses for to feel validated. I am doing this to better handle low quality women when they come into my life. I am doing this because I am fed up being emotionally slutty and abandoned. I am doing this to be a fvcking MAN!!! Welcome pain! Battle uncomfortableness! WIN, at all costs! I am doing this to take back some of the dignity I have lost because I was weak and now I desire to be strong. Strong like a MAN is supposed to be. A leader! A leader of my own heart, of my life, of my body and of a family when the time comes! No Contact is not a stradegy of some game you already lost! No Contact is an exercise in Winning overall.
My girl will probably never come back. Yet, as each day passes I realize more and more that even if she did... I am stronger now that I can decide if I would even want that? If I decide I do, I could handle her the way she should have been handled in the first place. Being able to decide love instead of blindly accepting whatever it gives you is empowering and I want that for you. You must decide things for yourself OP. You MUST. You must take control of your heart and protect it. Then after 30-60 days, a year, or forever…After whatever time passes that you need, then, then you will begin to see why you went No Contact. Then, my compadre, then, you will be happy. I am learning with you, but in even 33 days, and because of the support of these fine men at SS, I am learning happiness is not given or attained, it is created. You create your happiness. Reach out to me if you need to.

 

[Between_The_Lines]

No contact in a nutshell:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IO0_pzaPHLk

"How do you like that?"

 

[Genos]

Let her go. Learn from this experience - reflect on why it ended for a little while, what you could've done better, then just move on and live a fulfilling life. You cannot get a girl back by "trying to get her back". If she does want to return, it must be of her own accord. Any effort you take to achieve this end will be viewed negatively, as you are coming from a position of desperation, as opposed to a position of power, when your affection is appreciated.

It is painful now, maybe even more pain than you think you can handle. But you MUST control yourself. Don't message her, don't check her facebook/social media, don't talk to her friends if you can help it. Keep yourself busy - as the days go by, things will get better.

I would recommend you read this article from Shark and the other posts he has on ex's/breakups: http://www.solvemygirlproblems.com/2011/05/getting-back-with-an-ex/

Onwards and upwards!

 

[Onion]

Let her go. Learn from this experience - reflect on why it ended for a little while, what you could've done better, then just move on and live a fulfilling life. You cannot get a girl back by "trying to get her back". If she does want to return, it must be of her own accord. Any effort you take to achieve this end will be viewed negatively, as you are coming from a position of desperation, as opposed to a position of power, when your affection is appreciated.

It is painful now, maybe even more pain than you think you can handle. But you MUST control yourself. Don't message her, don't check her facebook/social media, don't talk to her friends if you can help it. Keep yourself busy - as the days go by, things will get better.

I would recommend you read this article from Shark and the other posts he has on ex's/breakups: http://www.solvemygirlproblems.com/2011/05/getting-back-with-an-ex/

Onwards and upwards!

Wow, what an insight. I am getting myself educated here by reading my posts from folks like him. The saddest part is, i openly expressed my emotions, i showered her with gifts, i told her she was the one and dream girl n all that (fvck me!!) I am now standing on the barrel of defeat accepting my fate with her. It suck and pains man. Tanx for the kind words from DJs on here.

 

[Onion]

I responded to the text message longer than my usual response time because i didn't want to sound bitter or angry and give her the satisfaction she carves. just to let her know that i was indifferent to her thanking txt or the breakup. Does it make sense?

 

[nismo-4]

Stick a fork in it, it's done. Your princess is in another castle. Let her go. You go date other women. Now. And stay ghost (no contact). For your own sake.

Case closed.

 

[Onion]

nismo, doesnt this fly in the face of getting your ex back? She's a good person and a good match for me which is why i want her back?

 

[GS750]

No harm done, really. From this point FORWARD though, absolutely no replies

Just carry on, don't reply ANYMORE until you hear an "I'm really sorry, and I really miss you". Then, if you haven't found someone better, re-evaluate your postion - you may find you no longer want her.

This. Maintain NC for as long as you need to. It's not easy and sounds counterproductive, but it's the only way.


Read: http://www.blackdragonblog.com/2014/10/12/important-ignore-breakup/

 

[mikey2012]

nismo, doesnt this fly in the face of getting your ex back? She's a good person and a good match for me which is why i want her back?

Lol "good person" "good match " ? If she was such a good person or good match she wouldn't have broken up with you. Get this she probably found another guy. Even if you get back with her she WILL dump you again.

For your own health you need to go completely NC. Forget what you did before . Go NC. This will be hard but you gotta to do it. To make it easier I would advise changing your number and completely deleting hers.

Believe me there will not be a happy ending to this story if you get back with her. Also NC isn't for getting her back its for your own sanity.

 

[captain55]

I disagree with a lot of responses in this thread. You ****ed up yes, but fortunately women have short memories:rockon:

. Go no contact long enough and there is a chance she will want to hang out with you again to make sure she made the right choice. Usually this is at the 2-3 month mark in my experience when she starts missing the good times you guys had together and she forgets what a p u s s y you were towards the end of the relationship.