John.Peter151
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Hello members,
Thought to share my own thoughts about so called "No contact" rule. I'm still in the proccess of this no contact thing so i have not experienced the results yet but as we all know, most people say's it's a technique to get over your ex, and some say's they're going NC (No contact) to get their ex back.
It can be used for both of these perposes. Yes you can get over your ex, get over all your feeling's using No contact, and in some cases you can also get your ex back.
Here's why: In most cases, if your ex cheated on you, or was never sincere, or if she found someone else -- then how can we guarantee that no contact will bring her back? Of course there are chances but very less, being honest.
But if it was a true relationship, you both were hell sincere to each other's and spend too much time (1 year minimum) and then she lose interest. Then there are High chances for you to get her back using "no contact".
A women will only lose interest if you change your "ownself" with her. She fell in love with you because of what you "was" and she got tired of you because of what you "are" - rite? Yep!
So mostly girl's lose interest in men (almost in 90% of cases) because you become overly-nice, too much available, extra caring and make her truly believe that no matter what, you are always going to be with her. Not by saying all these, by your actions she can come into this conclusion.
How can she miss you or read your romantic texts again and again when you're available 24/7 to talk to her and give her your "NEW" messages? Common sense! How can she realize true worth of your "I love you" messages when you say this all the time? How can she even be afraid of losing you when you've made her so sure that you'll never leave.
Mostly in such cases, girl's get rude, disrespectful and harsh, because a women do what she feel's, and we boy's rely on logic's! She feel's the need of being harsh towards us and she do it - it's not her fault, it's our fault that we made ourself too permanant! How will she invest, try to make us happy, or even try to make your relationship better when she will know you're all hers!
So as it's in human nature, we never realize value of thing's that are with us, but we freak's out when we lose them! And that's the time when someone's value is realized. For example: When someone die, everyone cries for him/her, everyone misses him/her, but no-one care when he/she's alive - mostly. That's the case with no contact, YOU DIE IN THE EYES OF YOUR GIRL FRIEND. - Rite? Yep!
So that's how no contact may help you, but it's life - we should always be prepare for everything. It may get your ex back but it may also not - afterall it's life.
I'm just posting this because I'm in the same condition, and i hope my this post will help to give you all the courage and confidence you need right now - those who're going through same.
Btw--- If you've been successfully able to get back with your ex after applying this no contact rule, please post your stories! If she have been disrespectful towards you and then no contact helped you!
Thought to share my own thoughts about so called "No contact" rule. I'm still in the proccess of this no contact thing so i have not experienced the results yet but as we all know, most people say's it's a technique to get over your ex, and some say's they're going NC (No contact) to get their ex back.
It can be used for both of these perposes. Yes you can get over your ex, get over all your feeling's using No contact, and in some cases you can also get your ex back.
Here's why: In most cases, if your ex cheated on you, or was never sincere, or if she found someone else -- then how can we guarantee that no contact will bring her back? Of course there are chances but very less, being honest.
But if it was a true relationship, you both were hell sincere to each other's and spend too much time (1 year minimum) and then she lose interest. Then there are High chances for you to get her back using "no contact".
A women will only lose interest if you change your "ownself" with her. She fell in love with you because of what you "was" and she got tired of you because of what you "are" - rite? Yep!
So mostly girl's lose interest in men (almost in 90% of cases) because you become overly-nice, too much available, extra caring and make her truly believe that no matter what, you are always going to be with her. Not by saying all these, by your actions she can come into this conclusion.
How can she miss you or read your romantic texts again and again when you're available 24/7 to talk to her and give her your "NEW" messages? Common sense! How can she realize true worth of your "I love you" messages when you say this all the time? How can she even be afraid of losing you when you've made her so sure that you'll never leave.
Mostly in such cases, girl's get rude, disrespectful and harsh, because a women do what she feel's, and we boy's rely on logic's! She feel's the need of being harsh towards us and she do it - it's not her fault, it's our fault that we made ourself too permanant! How will she invest, try to make us happy, or even try to make your relationship better when she will know you're all hers!
So as it's in human nature, we never realize value of thing's that are with us, but we freak's out when we lose them! And that's the time when someone's value is realized. For example: When someone die, everyone cries for him/her, everyone misses him/her, but no-one care when he/she's alive - mostly. That's the case with no contact, YOU DIE IN THE EYES OF YOUR GIRL FRIEND. - Rite? Yep!
So that's how no contact may help you, but it's life - we should always be prepare for everything. It may get your ex back but it may also not - afterall it's life.
I'm just posting this because I'm in the same condition, and i hope my this post will help to give you all the courage and confidence you need right now - those who're going through same.
Btw--- If you've been successfully able to get back with your ex after applying this no contact rule, please post your stories! If she have been disrespectful towards you and then no contact helped you!