No Christmas gifts?

[Corndowg]

What the hell does she mean when she mentions to me... "Oh, we don't have to exchange gifts with each other on christmas right?"

We're pretty close. We have a long distance relationship and i saw her about 3 times a month. We've know each other for over a year now and we think what we have is love because thats all it seems to be about since the day I met her. We were attracted so strongly from the start when I straight up said shes beautiful and I liked her. We've gone far since then and i've know her for a year.

I gave her a lockett with my picture in it for her birthday. She loved it. It was the first gift I gave her and it worked. She knows I'm a broke about to turn 20 year old city kid and she's the suburban big family good college girl. She's ****in gorgeous and could have anybody.

And here I am thinking about christmas gifts....Why?

 

[WaterTiger]

Maybe you're falling under the influence of all the seasonal advertizing & the general "shopping frenzy" that hits this time of year.

 

[jbbrain]

because x mas gifts can be seen as a symbol for ones affection,love and appreciation from your significant other..

And now you're thinking that if she doesn't to get you any x mas gifts, that she must not feel very strongly for you..because as they say (listen to her actions rather than her words)

Am I right?

 

[Reto]

What jbb said...

Think of it this way, she gave you a way out. Now you don't have to worry about the gift...

 

[Eileen]

Just a thought but ...

Could it be that her not expecting a gift takes a small jab at your manhood? I've known plenty of blokes who feel that being man means being able to provide for the people they love. Not being able to fulfill that self-induced standard makes them feel somewhat ... unmanly. It's just a guess and if I'm way off base just ignore me.

I understand the confusion that occurs when women make these kinds of statements. Some women would say something like that fully expecting a gift anyway. Theory being "if he really cares he'd do such and such even though I said not to." Some women might well mean just what they've said.

I guess your best bet is taking a look at her past behavior. Is she the type who generally means what she says or is she more of a game player (tells you she won't be angry if you cancel yet throws a fit if you do). If she is the former, it's fairly safe to assume that she meant what she said.

However, all women like to know that our men are thinking of us. Even though she's said no gift required a small token, a card or something small that you know she'd treasure might score a few points. It doesn't have to be, actually, shouldn’t be something expensive. Something that reflects her personality is best.

Does she collect any kinds of trinkets? A small addition to her collection shows that you've been paying attention to her tastes. Those kinds of gifts, no matter the dollar amount, are always the best. It's what people refer to as "thoughtful."

 

[HuuBinh]

Oh, we don't have to exchange gifts with each other on christmas right"

******** for, you better buy me something nice. WTH, buy her something if you want to since you guys have been so in love for a year now. Well, not really a year, its only 36 times (3/month).

 

[jbbrain]

bump..to the thread starter..whats your "gut" telling you?

 

[Julian]

Long distance?

Shes prolly cheating on you so she would feel guilty if you bought her something and since she is being unfaithful she doesnt deem it necassary to purchase anything for you.

 

[Corndowg]

i hope that julian guy isn't right.

I'm not getting her anything. My birthday is on the 29th of this month and she said she'd get me something. We'll se what happens.

 

[jbbrain]

Dont get yourself bent outta shape by it:

Relax. If she was cheating it would suck. But you know your gf better than we do. You would )with the help of this site) not to settle with a girl that could ever potentially betray your trust.

HOWEVER:

Long distance realtionships are not worth it! Whats wrong with you?