Night Club Tips - Read - Review - Add Your Own

[-HPNOTIQ-]

I started this thread in response to the nightclub opener tip given on the sosuave.com front page.

It is the nightclub opener which involves:
1. Comming up to a woman at a nightclub.
2. Confidently introduce yourself and ask her what her name is.
3. Tell her that you would like to dance with her at the next 'good song'...then leave.
4. A few songs later, grab her by the hand without asking, and lead her to the dancefloor.
5. Then showoff your dance skills - and yes..you need to know how to dance well.

This nightclub opener has been so effective for me 'on the field' and is now the opener of choice in a nightclub situation.

I wanted to add a variation to this technique which has made this opener even more effective.

I call it "The Toast"

Typically at a nightclub, I want to look busy. I want to look like I'm on the move even, if I'm standing still. So I'm always spotted holding a drink in my hand. Even if it takes me 1 hour to drink a Rum and Coke, I must have a drink in my hand. Without a drink in my hand I look kinda goofy. Without a drink, I have no idea where to put my hands (in my pockets? to my sides? behind me?). Next time you go to a nightclub, look at all the guys without drinks in their hand staring at the dancefloor, compared to the guys who do have drinks. You'll look like you're having more fun holding a drink in your hand than fiddling in your pants playing pocket pool.

With that said and drink in hand - Rather than approach some random woman standing there and asking her name, I simply scan for the woman at the nightclub who most mirrors me. Mirrors me meaning that she's smiling, having a good time, and most importantly has her drink in hand.

Now, I just so happen to walk over to where my target woman is standing. You MUST make effort that you aren't approaching on purpose. Typically, I approach from behind until I'm standing directly next to her. Now that you're standing next to her...genuinely have a good attitude. You're head should be bobbing from the music, your body should be feeling the beat and energy from the nightclub. Hell YOU'RE the confident C/F DJ. With that attitude, acting VERY "aloof" and C/F - toast her glass and Crack a Smile. Now you can proceed with the rest of the dance opener.

This technique is very simple to use and is less threatening than most techniques of ass grabbing other creeps at the club use. You also present yourself as a genuine C/F kind of guy who's there to have fun - chics dig that!

Remember, you must be descrete and C/F - Its all about the Attitude Baby!

 

[Mutiny]

I can't believe nobody has responded to this post yet. I'm gonna be the sacrificial lamb, I guess. Let me tell ya'll how Mutiny runs the club.

In my mind, it's not a club; it's my ****ing party. Everyone there is for my entertainment. I walk in the door, and the first decent looking girl I see becomes my target. I don't care if she's with dudes, if she's married, etc, I just don't care. I hit her up with some tried and true material.

eg: Alright guys, check this out, I was in the city today and....

if anybody gets distracted...."hey, HEY, the show's over here."

From there on out I own that group. I own the guys (they become my new best friends) I neg the girls (they chase me seeking to re-validate themselves)

I get her on my arm, and usually a friend, and then I look for the Alpha Male in the club. I walk round the club with two girls on my arm, looking for the alpha male. Once I figure out who he is, I can engage, out-alpha, and take over the entire social circle.

That's how I run the clubs.

Hypnotiq----

you got some great stuff going, with the takeaways you're doing. that's money, and you know it. the dance skills you're showing off, in my opinion, they're money if you know what you're doing. Most tall, irish, white boys like me, can't pull that off! haha

I like the, "grab her and take her to the dancefloor." I don't like the introduce yourself. In my game, I don't ever introduce myself. In my game she'll be asking me what my name is right before we ****. (my game in it's purest form)

It is certainly all about the attitude!

Mutiny

 

[amokk23]

I definitely agree with you -HPNOTIQ- and Mutiny on the alpha mentality you must bring with you when you first step into the clubs.

Here are my tips you may find useful

* From the moment you hand over your ID to the Gorillas outside. (*look at the dead in the eyes with no facial expression)

* If you pay for entry the girls at the counter are usually pretty friendly, practice some EC on her.

* I'll head straight to the bar and grab myself a drink do it like your on a mission, if you see someone you know give them some EC to acknowledge them if its a HB you know EC then wink or smile. Don't stop to talk or chat. Remember your mission is that drink!
(personally I much prefer short glasses then bottles. If you are a beer lover I find Carona is a good drink to have in your hands it is easy to hold and dance with . Glasses of beer just look to yobo for me.

* While your waiting to order your drink make your self comfortable , have a confident body language , don't tighten up those shoulders and don’t stand there looking timid.( you will never get served ) Never let anyone push in in front of you for that drink! Get the bartenders attention when its your turn, if she’s a HB practice your EC on her and smile. Don't worry about the response, it doesn’t matter.

* Once you have that delicious drink in your hand take a few steps into an open space, put the world on hold for 5 seconds and take a slow swig AHHHHHHH At this point look around you, see if any HB's are checking you out or staring at you. Yes? Good! this is where you build up your social rapport. Give her some EC and smile, don't look away if she keeps giving you EC keep a relaxed EC going.
Important : don't break the EC! She'll be curious to see if you are an AFC or Alpha.

(Wow! she's still giving you EC? sure she’s not looking at the guy behind you? Go get her Tiger! Approach and follow the steps outlined in the bible.)

* OK, lets go back to building your social rapport. Once you've had your swig of Jim & Coke(mmmmnnn) walk off slowly and confidently and do the rounds .Greet the people you gave EC to on your way in, hand shakes, hugs, kisses , this is to build up your Kino Confidence, don’t stand there and fluff for to long. The point is to let everyone know the Alpha has arrived. , needless to say you must have a confident and party frame of thot. Time should vary but it should be no longer then 10 - 15 minutes, Cause if your any longer your mates are gonna be PISSED/MAD .

Con't

 

[-HPNOTIQ-]

"Toast Method Variation'

Thanks for the input Mutiny and Amokk23...I write this right before I'll be going out for the FAT TUESDAY parties in Pioneer square in Seattle.

My aim was good discussion and tips and advice that has worked for the fellas on this site.

Being Alpha male, Man of the house, and having a Good mentality all have to mix in order to work the night club scene. Another trait is to have the mentality that you are THE ultra ****y m*therf*cker who is confident in any approach you give to a woman...like we stated earlier -- its all about attitude.

I wanted to add a variation to the "toast technique" that I have started using the past couple nights out with VERY good results on phone number/dance closing.

You must remember - that most night clubs are VERY LOUD!!! I prefer R&B/Hiphop clubs, but, will frequent the Techno Clubs when I need a change of venue. Either way - its very loud and hard to start whole conversations regarding the girl's interest, her job, her favorite color, blah, blah, and blah that transitions into a 70/30 conversation. Forget about having 70/30 conversations in a night club. Your moves at a night club should be sleek, fast, and to the point - period!

Basically - the toast technique variation works wonders in any loud situation. Remember, the drink must be in your hand first. Scan the room - do your usual rounds. When you spot a HB walking past you...put up a big goofy grin and before she can pass you - TOAST HER with your drink and give a grin to let her know that YOU are having a fun time...this works great in tightly packed night clubs where a log jam of people occur. Hopefully, you'll be tighly pressed against an HB.

The "toast in passing" variation does a number of subtle things... first, this lets the girl know YOU are having a good time regardless of the situation. Second, you don't come off as a creepy fella with no game..I'll guarantee that this is a move she's never seen before (unless she lives in the Seattle area) - a million guys will compliment her eyes, ears, nose, hair, clothes..blah blah...but, your game was different - now curiosity flickers in her head. Lastly, all it was is a toast..nothing more...you didnt ask for a lap dance..you didnt ask for her number...you didnt ask for her to sit on your face...all it was is an easy, non-threatening ice breaker...what you do with the ice breaker from here is now up to you...

To add - If you are passing a girl who gives you eye contact and she is holding a drink - use the three second rule...the three second rule meaning that as soon as you make eye contact with any female in the club..you have three seconds to react with an opener...and if the woman is close enough, this is a perfect opener...the three second rule is a VERY useful tip that kills all inner fears or self confidence you may have...

 

[thejuice]

I agree Hypnotiq, conversations arent very useful at clubs. Ive never really had the urge to talk in a club anyways. Its too loud

Another thing about clubs is that sometimes its too dark for eye contact. I hate those tips that go "3 second rule...blah blah blah". Its too dark to try to figure out what shes actually looking at. The only exception i can think of is hanging out at the bar or lounge because of improved lighting. Instead of looking for eye contact, just find a girl and do your thing. The girl does not have to even see you for you to go up to her. I like the glass tipping idea because its easy to do, understand and will score ponts for creativity. I think ill try that sometime

Ive got another clever way to go up to a girl without words. If youre wandering around looking for a girl to dance with, heres where you should always look first: the dance floor. Im not talking about girls already with a guy...i mean a girl whos dancing with another girl. Theyre already there, all you have to do is join them

This is how i execute this with the clever PU i want to share: I walk in to the club, go to the room im looking for, hip hop, raggae, whatever, and i look for girls who are dancing together, usually two to three. I walk up to them, sometimes cutting into crowds of moving ppl (this will feel a bit awkward if youre on your own so dont think about it, just the prize) and pull out a tissue from my pocket (the gimmick) and gain her attention. A slight tap would be sufficient. When its clear that youve gotten her to notice you, use the tissue to "wipe sweat" from her forehead. Its interesting and packs a punch if you do it with a smile and gesture for a dance. It works wonderfully

As with anything on this board, there are pitfalls to everything. Here are some that ive encountered with this so far:

(1) She cant ignore her friends and doesnt dance with you

Solutution: Bring friends of your own for her friends (you can even debate about who gets who)

(2) She just looks at you and doesnt get it

Solution: This will happen sometimes. Girls wont always get that youre just being playful because its either girls night out or shes just stupid. There isnt a clear cut way to get around this except to move on and go to another girl...the clubs full of them

(3) You dont have a tissue

Solution: Get one at the bar but always be prepared

 

[-HPNOTIQ-]

good stuff juice..

I wanted to add another technique when two girls are grinding with each other..I have to give credit for this tip to our own DJ Vassago...thus I have dubbed this technique "The Vassago"

When two girls are together dancing and grinding on each other..Don't wait around and stare like the rest of the fellas wishing they had a chance to dance with them...you lose points if you come off slow and uncertain of yourself...remember confidence.

When you walk up to these two girls on the dancefloor, make a motion sign with both hands that you want to pass through - almost a "parting of the sea" motion..

As soon as the two girls make enough room...squeeze in between both girls and start dancing with one of them while motioning the other behind you to come up against you..

THIS TRICK IS SOOOO F*CKIN MONEY its unreal...

I've done this many times and get a lot of jealous looks from on-looking guys and jaw opened stares from my buddies..

Just remember, once you do this - watch out for the c*ckblockers..

Thanks again Vassago - Hope all is good with you bro!