Nick's asking for your help guys...

[Paradox]

Originally posted by Imbrondir
.... Oh, and you can't be thanked enough for your work on the DJ-bible.

Ditto!

Don't worry Nick, It's ok to be at a low sometimes. The best Basketball and Baseball players ALWAYS go into a slump.

Some players try to slug or shoot their way out of the slump. Most DJ's here would advise you to calm down and focus on something else. Your natural DJ abilities will eventually come back.

I usually re-read this article On Rejection

 

[Nicholas Hill]

First of all, thanks Oxide for your insight, its great to think the best of things at all times. I used to do it a lot, actually, but I guess that the "anchor" of constantly living in my old "pre-DJ-likeness, boring home" has made me forget about thinking positive.

And of course...

Originally posted by Imbrondir
For instance, take a look at the different responses between a rich dad's boy, and a poor african kid, when given a gift.

This is true. Remember the first time you were given kino by someone you thought cute? I do. I developed one-itis! Yesterday I was given kino while in Swansea (I think I talked about this just a few replies back...) by people I knew. Don't get me wrong - I still love every kinesthetic touch - but the kino I received was "expected" in some respects. I don't appreciate it as much. Maybe I should remember.

On a side note, for those who think that kino isn't all that powerful: It really is. It is true that I may not appreciate kino as much, but when you get to that stage, you've learned to read other people's force of attraction to you VERY easily without letting your emotions bother you.

Also, thanks for your kind comment on my work, good friend.

Nick

 

[hardwork]

Been there!

God, I remember experiencing almost exactly what you did, Nick, for weeks at a time (you lucked out)!

One day, I sat down and started to write out my thoughts (all I could think about was why I was in a funk), searching for a common thread in them.

Long story short, I found that common thread: lack of motion.

I realized that, instead of actually moving towards a goal, I was stepping back from it and trying to think my way to it instead of moving my way to it, second-guessing myself--constantly--along the way, stifling any would-be action I might feel the urge to take.

Now I fix my "slumps" by picturing, basically, the stuff that makes me happy: surfing, skydiving, skating, etc. Having something to look forward to really helps getting out of--and, more importantly, with staying out of--slumps like the one you talked about.

The worst thing you can do whilst in a slump is dwell on the damn thing. Just realize that you're psyching yourself into a slump and out of kicking ass by picturing yourself doing something cool (imagined or real, I don't think it really matters ). Works great for me!

 

[DJ Chubby]

I have a few tips that might be helpful to you...

I personally don't think that you should make too much of an effort to contact your exes or try to remember your ex-girlfriends. Even if it was good, it might put you in the spot where you might be like "why am I not at that same point right now?"

However, DO do the following things:

1) Listen to things that will get you in a good mood. Dance, techno, hip-hop, jazz music are all good suggestions. Stay away from the love songs, just listen to something upbeat that gets you in the mood! Just dance!

2) Turn on some comedy tapes! Comedy will always put you in a better mood than you are now! Laughing will get those endorphins out and have you enjoying yourself. If you know all your comedy by heart, go out and get some new stuff that you think you will like (sometimes comedy loses its value if its heard too many times in a small time period)

3) Talk to one of your friends that can make you laugh or is usually in a good mood. Just talk about whatever you want. Sports, current events, stupid sh*t that made you laugh you both have done recently..talk to someone who is really outgoing and can put you in a good mood easily.

4) If it's a nice day, go for a walk. Take a shower, dress nice, put on some nice cologne, brush your teeth and get them nice and clean, just be impeccable for the moment. And then go outside... I guarantee you that girls will be checking you out, and it doesn't matter if they're hot or not. Don't even approach if you don't want to..just soak up the sunshine, smile and keep walking!

5) Work out.. Working out can definitely get you in a good mood.. Every one of us has one aspect that they truly love about themselves.. some of us have great bodies.. others have strong facial features.. (My strong feature is my face... whenever I've just taken a shower and my hair and face are still wet, I just gel my hair up, blow dry it to look like I want, and then just check myself out in the mirror! It know it sounds kind of vain, but hey..it makes me feel good!). If you have a good body, just flex in the mirror... again..sometimes vanity is a GOOD thing!

6) Set up a table with all your accomplishments. Test scores, awards, medals, trophies, look through pictures that you took with hot girls, look through all the stuff your exes bought you, relive the great times you had with your family and friends.. Soak it all in.. crazy things that you did with your friends (remember the time you got wasted with your friends and started taking pictures of girls asses just for the hell of it and you just didn't give a sh*t?, etc.) Bask in the moment because you were the one who made all of it special!

Man, life is a cycle. But the faster you ride it, the closer you will be to those sweet confident times again!

 

[Drow]

Von Nueon is right..

Man is happiest in action! Sitting around wondering why your in a slump wont make things better. You can't think your way out of it.

Set some goals.. work for them everyday. Set some standards on yourself to always make eye-contact, kino, whatever it is you don't do when your unconfident. Force yourself if you have to..

Realize that nothing is a big deal.. Our mind tends to over-complicate things. No one is going to care what you do or don't do except for you. Get out there and do stuff. Call up friends, play sports (exercise is always good..), workout, approach girls. Read photo1's post on approaching to get some inspiration. But don't rely on this site for confidence.. your confident because you believe in yourself and your abilities.

Confidence falters when you first start becoming a DJ because you aren't used to success, and you don't truly believe that YOU have what it takes. You have to realize that you have it all in you. Believe in yourself.

Expect success!.

 

[Good_ol_boy]

"I am now half way through my holidays, as there are about seven weeks until the new University year where I intend to be the DJ again, the guy I know I can be. At the moment, I have been surely less-than-DJ-like."

Uh! I wouldn't "anchor" too much at University, or plan on "getting back to being a DJ at University" because in a few short classes, the world where you are NOW will be your only world, no more University. You will have up days and down days in real life. Use this holiday to get used to it! AND practise DJing in the real world.

 

[Julius_Caesar]

OY! I think that this is one thing everybody hear goes through. I have noticed somethings that help bring me out of depression. One of them is going out and playing and sport REALLY REALLY HARD, being damn tired but fired up, and just start talking. I mean just say whatever comes into you head. After sports you tend to lose you inhibitions, and damn its a great feeling. Thinking about stuff, and not just doing it, could be the number one thing that will bring you down because generally most people on this bored, myself included, don't think POSITIVE thoughts, thoughts that make us feel GOOD. Ya, we all have got problems, but that doesn't mean we have to think about them every moment of the day!

Another thing that really helps me letting go is to just start talking to yourself or someone, again, saying the first thing that comes to your mind. Just try to think of funny stuff, make fun of things, and just talk, because IN ACTION WE DON'T THINK OF OUR PROBLEMS. You can't talk and think about your problems, at least not if you are always talking. I have noticed that when I reach this stage I am much more funny, charming, witty, than my normal self. Just look around, find something, and start talking about it, then try to follow up on the stuff you where just talking about, and do that continuously so that you are always talking/joking.

I don't know if that makes any sense, but if you have done it you know what I am talking about. I think of it as letting go. Freeing your self from your problems. Just do the first thing that comes to your mind, sometimes I just kinda smack my head against the wall until I feel like stopping, just let that little crazy child out of you.

well that all sounds crazy, but then again, WHO CARES?!

Ave
from somebody that knows the feeling of freedom