Women love nice guys. They all want a nice guy. But I think the term ‘nice guy’ is actually mixed up with ‘good guy’. So when women say “why can’t I just meet a nice guy?” They’re actually seeking and desiring a good guy.
Nice guys as we men know it, is better known as ‘friendzone’. It’s the guy with no back bone who will let the woman call the shots and won’t challenge her, won’t stick up for his beliefs, and ultimately is afraid to lose her whilst operating with no autonomy. He’s governed by her perception of him. External validation as fuel. He chooses the route of least resistance, which leads him to his perceived cake; her affection and attention. Operating under the idea that this is what will win her heart — “happy wife, happy life” is their motto.
The woman could like this for a month or maybe even stay with it, but ultimately there is no struggle for her own growth and it becomes boring. She fantasies about better and will monkey branch at the given opportunity.
The good guy on the other hand operates from his own sovereignty. He is self motivated and doesn’t seek her approval, but can appreciate her praise, and is open to her thoughts, but ultimately relies on himself to make the call.
Her words and actions don't create his perception of self. He has a backbone and is willing to challenge her if the occasion arises. He has opinions and asserts his beliefs in all environments. He stands for something no matter how small or grand. He takes care of himself and in turn showcases ability to care for her without putting himself out just for her sake. He’s a leader of his own life. And in turn this projects strength. He doesn’t have to be the total alpha. But he’s an alpha in his own right. He takes total responsibility for everything HE can control. His ultimate goal in life is growth and strength, which leads to passion. Passion is his vibe and in turn women open up to this, physically and mentally. It’s not just about a woman. It can’t be.
And in the end, a good guy/great guy, is kind, empathetic, compassionate, understanding and safe.
All of the above is an amalgamation of a true man. Masculinity at its core.
Women seek safety. And nice guys are actually dangerous for them, because a nice guy NEEDS. And if his needs aren’t met.. who is he without this thing he allows to define him? A ticking time bomb.
